I was young and very naive when I married and married someone to whom I was totally unsuited, encouraged by family members who thought I should ‘settle down’ rather than leave home and go to university. We soldiered on as best we could for quite a few years and had two wonderful children who we both love very much, but eventually we realised we were making each other so miserable and there was no love left between us … we were both attracted to other people … and eventually decided to be honest about it … we separated and divorced … I got myself the art degrees I should’ve gone for years before.
Now are both happy with our new partners.
Why should things be any different for people who happen to have been born ‘royal’. Everyone can make mistakes … to err is human … but it seems that some folk find it impossible to forgive, even when it’s not them who’ve been on the receiving end of the ‘erring’.
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Exactly what @Dove said. Lots of people make second marriages in their mature years after having either divorced for whatever reason or become widowed, and good for them. People shouldn't be denied a second chance just because of what family they happen to be born into.
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My friend and neighbour absolutely hates Camilla and can hardly speak her name without spitting. How on earth can you hate someone you don't even know???
She says she hates what Camilla 'did to that poor girl'. I have pointed out numerous times that Camilla didn't actually cheat on Diana - it was Diana's husband who did that. And Diana wasn't beyond a bit of extra-marital either was she? No saint IMO - just a rather sad and lost person who should never had ended up where she was .
I actually feel a bit sorry for Camilla, having to face up to all that public vitriol. I'm not 100% sure she would have pursued Charles - I suspect he made much of the running there. Not sure how much she truly wants the life she has now but a bit difficult to make rational decisions when the world is watching and waiting. These are two people well into their 70's who are expected to work almost full-time until they drop and to always get it right. Not a life I expect many of us would choose.
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@Topbird, she didn't DO anything to Diana, but she did cheat on her husband and expose him , and their children , to a whole bunch of crap which I'm sure none of THEM wanted or deserved.
I never understood the hype about Diana. I met her a couple of times, when I was looking after a friend of hers who was in hospital following a riding accident. I found her utterly vacuous and rather full of her own "beauty". She seemed very surprised when I did not want my photo taken with her.
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@Topbird, she didn't DO anything to Diana, but she did cheat on her husband and expose him , and their children , to a whole bunch of crap which I'm sure none of THEM wanted or deserved.
Isn’t stoning women for adultery (even metaphorically) a bit ‘Old Testament’ ?
It recommends all sorts of punishments for all sorts of perceived misdemeanours, but I though most of us are a bit more enlightened nowadays 😊
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@Topbird, she didn't DO anything to Diana, but she did cheat on her husband and expose him , and their children , to a whole bunch of crap which I'm sure none of THEM wanted or deserved.
Isn’t stoning women for adultery (even metaphorically) a bit ‘Old Testament’ ?
It recommends all sorts of punishments for all sorts of perceived misdemeanours, but I though most of us are a bit more enlightened nowadays 😊
When did I suggest any of them should be stoned or punished in any way?
My point was that a lot of people (my friend included) still refer to 'what Camilla did to Diana' rather than 'what Charles did to Diana'. Charles was the one who was married to, cheated on and behaved badly towards Diana - not Camilla.
Yes, of course Camilla was cheating on her own spouse and family - but she had no responsibilities or loyalties to Diana.
There still seem to be many people of the view that Camilla was (and I quote my friend here) 'The evil bitch' who caused all the problems and that Charles wasn't really to blame because he's a bloke and it's sort of what (some) blokes do isn't it? 🙄
In this day and age....
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We all filter these things through our own experience, for personal reasons I find it very distressing to think of a young girl marrying for love and being lied to her whole married life, Charles never once stopped his affair and Diana must have felt as if nothing she could do was right and however hard she tried she wasn’t good enough. Charles was a man in his 30s who should have known better. Diana was very young and very vulnerable and totally unsuited to the role of acquiescent wife.
It wasn’t a “mistake” it was a selfish choice totally uncaring and unkind. Not a man to be admired and looked up to.
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… but it seems that some folk find it impossible to forgive, even when it’s not them who’ve been on the receiving end of the ‘erring’.
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I'm grateful that my mistakes are not in the public eye, every time they happen.
She says she hates what Camilla 'did to that poor girl'. I have pointed out numerous times that Camilla didn't actually cheat on Diana - it was Diana's husband who did that. And Diana wasn't beyond a bit of extra-marital either was she? No saint IMO - just a rather sad and lost person who should never had ended up where she was .
I actually feel a bit sorry for Camilla, having to face up to all that public vitriol. I'm not 100% sure she would have pursued Charles - I suspect he made much of the running there. Not sure how much she truly wants the life she has now but a bit difficult to make rational decisions when the world is watching and waiting. These are two people well into their 70's who are expected to work almost full-time until they drop and to always get it right. Not a life I expect many of us would choose.
When you don't even know who's in the team
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Yes, of course Camilla was cheating on her own spouse and family - but she had no responsibilities or loyalties to Diana.
There still seem to be many people of the view that Camilla was (and I quote my friend here) 'The evil bitch' who caused all the problems and that Charles wasn't really to blame because he's a bloke and it's sort of what (some) blokes do isn't it? 🙄
In this day and age....