@D0rdogne_Damsel it must be good to have the photos, even if they initially make you sad.Ā Ā It may well be that your father's second wife is a very nice person but the main thing is to take your time and not feel pressured to see her again.Ā Ā Families can be a nightmare for some peopleĀ - voice of experience here - and you do need to remember that what parents and siblings choose to do or fail to do is not your fault altho I know that's not easy.Ā
Blustery and wet here now tho not as bad as you chaps in higher latitudes.Ā Ā I certainly hope nobody gets a tornado like we did as more than shed roofs will fly.Ā Ā Hope you get your battening down done @raisingirl.
Had a (much needed) very quiet day today, contemplating about my situation. It fell nicely as I had no need to be anywhere or do anything, that doesn't happen very often.Ā
I emailed both my brother and sister about the photos and offered to scan them over to them. My brother replied and was very kind in his e-mail, he just wants a quiet life and wants the past to stay there. Very happy to receive the photos. He asked after Charlie and said he was sorry he had missed him growing up. No reply or even acknowledgement from sister, I didn't expect one to be honest, she is just so angry with everything. I really don't want to be part of that anyway so I am not too bothered. Wise words @Obelixx , made me feel better about the situation.Ā
I am going to do just as you (and others) have said @Penny_Forthem, keep an open mind and lines of communication open. I think I will form some questions in my head, things I really would like to know and arrange a meeting sometime next week, somewhere neutral so I can leave at any point rather than be in an awkward position of having to ask her to leave if it gets tricky. Break the journey time up for us both too if we meet halfway. Most importantly I don't want any dramas, And I don't want to told lies that just make her feel better about being part of the estrangement. I have also contacted my ex husband (we are good friends) and he is going to call me on Saturday and have a chat. He knows everything that went on, knows all my family and has always been a great support emotionally. It'll be nice to talk to him as someone who knows what it was like back then.Ā
Big thanks to all comments of support. you really are so very very kind!Ā
Other than that I walked around the garden loads of snowdrops, hellebores and even daffodils out. Camellias are very much in bud too, won't be long. It was wet and murky out there but cheering to see the flowers. Annoyingly I forgot to take the camera out with me and it was too wetĀ to use it properly anyway. I'll try and get some shots tomorrow.Ā
Good luck to everyone with the forecast storms, stay safe everyone.Ā
āCoffee. Garden. Coffee. Does a good morning need anything else?ā āBetsy CaƱas Garmon
Morning all. Another by predicted. Ā Not looking forward to it. 31c. Ā Yes, I know youād swap Hosta, Ā but I canāt take it nowadays. Ā Iāll probably spend the day in front of a fan or the aircon.Ā
Morning all. Another by predicted. Ā Not looking forward to it. 31c. Ā Yes, I know youād swap Hosta, Ā but I canāt take it nowadays. Ā Iāll probably spend the day in front of a fan or the aircon.Ā
I'd swap in a heartbeat. 31C compared with " 80 - 100mph gusts of wind "tomorrowĀ
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@D0rdogne_Damsel it must be good to have the photos, even if they initially make you sad.Ā Ā It may well be that your father's second wife is a very nice person but the main thing is to take your time and not feel pressured to see her again.Ā Ā Families can be a nightmare for some peopleĀ - voice of experience here - and you do need to remember that what parents and siblings choose to do or fail to do is not your fault altho I know that's not easy.Ā
Well done @chicky!
Blustery and wet here now tho not as bad as you chaps in higher latitudes.Ā Ā I certainly hope nobody gets a tornado like we did as more than shed roofs will fly.Ā Ā Hope you get your battening down done @raisingirl.
Stay safe and warm everyone.
I realise you've all known each other a while, so I've hesitated over joining in recently.
Keep an open mind @D0rdogne_Damsel and keep communications open.
Storm Eunice may see the the demise of my Polycarb greenhouse.
https://www.deliciousmagazine.co.uk/recipes/celeriac-and-tahini-potato-gratin/
This is delicious.
Had a (much needed) very quiet day today, contemplating about my situation. It fell nicely as I had no need to be anywhere or do anything, that doesn't happen very often.Ā
I emailed both my brother and sister about the photos and offered to scan them over to them. My brother replied and was very kind in his e-mail, he just wants a quiet life and wants the past to stay there. Very happy to receive the photos. He asked after Charlie and said he was sorry he had missed him growing up. No reply or even acknowledgement from sister, I didn't expect one to be honest, she is just so angry with everything. I really don't want to be part of that anyway so I am not too bothered. Wise words @Obelixx , made me feel better about the situation.Ā
I am going to do just as you (and others) have said @Penny_Forthem, keep an open mind and lines of communication open. I think I will form some questions in my head, things I really would like to know and arrange a meeting sometime next week, somewhere neutral so I can leave at any point rather than be in an awkward position of having to ask her to leave if it gets tricky. Break the journey time up for us both too if we meet halfway. Most importantly I don't want any dramas, And I don't want to told lies that just make her feel better about being part of the estrangement. I have also contacted my ex husband (we are good friends) and he is going to call me on Saturday and have a chat. He knows everything that went on, knows all my family and has always been a great support emotionally. It'll be nice to talk to him as someone who knows what it was like back then.Ā
Big thanks to all comments of support. you really are so very very kind!Ā
Other than that I walked around the garden loads of snowdrops, hellebores and even daffodils out. Camellias are very much in bud too, won't be long. It was wet and murky out there but cheering to see the flowers. Annoyingly I forgot to take the camera out with me and it was too wetĀ to use it properly anyway. I'll try and get some shots tomorrow.Ā
Good luck to everyone with the forecast storms, stay safe everyone.Ā
Hugs.Ā
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
āIt's still magic even if you know how it's done.āĀ