There are no right answers as to what you should do, but it should be what you want, rather than what you think you ought. When and if you are ready, seeing her might provide answers for you. You don't owe your brother and sister anything.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Oh ... and one more thing @D0rdogne_Damsel ... it's perfectly ok to be angry about your father leaving you ... perfectly ok ((hugs)) ... your mother had no choice about 'leaving you' ... he did ... he made the wrong one , for whatever reason ... xx
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
@D0rdogne_Damsel If you do eventually meet up with this woman and actually get on with her - as a person - don't feel you owe anything to your siblings because of this. You are your own person and have a lovely son to bring up.
I don't suppose there was any bereavement counselling available to you back then @D0rdogne_Damsel ... there's some really good resources now ... they don't make the problem go away ... how could they ... but they do give youngsters the chance to talk about and accept their feelings and maybe understan just a bit about the grieving process and how it affects everyone differently. As I said, not a cure but better than nothing ...
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
@D0rdogne_Damsel, I can only endorse, what Dove, & Punkdoc are saying, thankfully I have no direct experience to draw on. No need to apologise for any posts if they help.
We have been enjoying a weather window here, still a bit windy but mild and some SUNSHINE. Spent time outside moving pots of bulbs around. Cloud is building now though, hope this next storm isn't too bad for everyone in its path.
Evening all, we're safely back home after visiting my sister for a few days in the East Midlands. She very kindly drove us over to see our poorly brother and SIL in Stoke and in fact he seemed very much better than anticipated. We all enjoyed a lovely lunch out, including our elder brother who drove down from Manchester - a long way just for lunch! I didn't enjoy the ghastly journey in the dark on the A50 back to my sister's though, a horribly busy dual carriageway with loads of HGV's. I ended up with a migraine this morning triggered by the flashing car lights. I don't do many car journeys after dark any more for that reason. It's blowing a hoolie now and the forecast's not looking good for Friday when I was due to go to my daughter's in Devon. Thinking of postponing that until Saturday.
Congratulations @chicky, blowed if I could identify seeds just by looking at them.
DD, I can't add any more than what the others have already said, but send hugs.
Hugs to @D0rdogne_Damsel. As everyone is suggesting, no need to rush into anything. Re your siblings, don’t forget, we can choose our friends but not our relatives. And we don’t always have much in common with them. Clever @chicky Well done!
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There are no right answers as to what you should do, but it should be what you want, rather than what you think you ought.
When and if you are ready, seeing her might provide answers for you. You don't owe your brother and sister anything.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Massive Hugs to you @D0rdogne_Damsel.
If you do eventually meet up with this woman and actually get on with her - as a person - don't feel you owe anything to your siblings because of this. You are your own person and have a lovely son to bring up.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
We have been enjoying a weather window here, still a bit windy but mild and some SUNSHINE. Spent time outside moving pots of bulbs around. Cloud is building now though, hope this next storm isn't too bad for everyone in its path.
Thoughts to DD. You must be quite shaken by all the memories and dilemmas.
I didn't enjoy the ghastly journey in the dark on the A50 back to my sister's though, a horribly busy dual carriageway with loads of HGV's. I ended up with a migraine this morning triggered by the flashing car lights. I don't do many car journeys after dark any more for that reason.
It's blowing a hoolie now and the forecast's not looking good for Friday when I was due to go to my daughter's in Devon. Thinking of postponing that until Saturday.
Congratulations @chicky, blowed if I could identify seeds just by looking at them.
DD, I can't add any more than what the others have already said, but send hugs.
Clever @chicky
Well done!