Good morning everyone! Afternoon @Pat E I've got a chat with my friend in Melbourne this morning (for me) - so that's an hour's pleasure chatting away.
Should have some sunny spells today.
@Obelixx - the celeriac dauphinoise sounds interesting - recipe, please? @D0rdogne_Damsel I am sure your St Valentine's Day teas at CdeG was a success! Glad the physio sessions are relieving the pain.
Had an appointment with my dermatologist yesterday for keratosis on my hands. He usually burns them off with his azote gun, but this time I have to put Efudix cream on for a couple of weeks - then end of March, some photo/light treatment. Better wear gloves when gardening this summer - just 5 minutes weeding is not approved by said derma!!
@D0rdogne_Damsel must have been quite a shock for you. Hope you resolve it in whatever way is right for you. Hugs whilst you make up your mind 🤗
Got all my seeds right yesterday 👍🏻. So that’s me completed my Level 2 Diploma. I will have a think about doing Level 3……but not for a year or so as they are changing all the syllabuses and I want to give it time to bed down a bit. Plus I think my Citizens Advice training might take up my headspace for the next 18 months.
Volunteering today - looks grey but dry out there.
Morning all. Blowing a gale here already so goodness knows what it will be like by 4pm when the weather warning is due to kick in. No gardening for me today.
@Pat E Haven't spoken yet - she's having her dinner so we usually call after her evening meal. Yes, she said Melbourne was soooo hot and as (same for me) she gets older, it's harder to put up with.
I went to the library yesterday in Beziers to give and get books and also to put some seeds on the "garden" table. It wasn't there and the librarian told me that it wasn't opening until April !! A bit late - most people have their seeds sorted and most sown by early April.
Morning all, ( sorry, this post is a bit long winded, but I'm struggling to find anyone to talk to, not really appropriate conversation for work colleagues, I just need to think outloud as it were.)
As ever wise and kind words from everyone on here. Thank you all. A very restless night, so many memories dragged up, not all good, things you think you're over suddenly hit as raw as first time around. @Pat E I absolutely understand what you mean. Self doubt too, did I behave badly? Was it my fault, what could I have done differently? The photos are all happy childhood ones and my mum and dad's wedding album from 1960. Such happy faces and it all ended so badly for so many, mum killed in a road accident, myself and 3 much younger brothers and sisters abandoned by dad after just 10 months as he remarried and moved away.... No forwarding address... My brother and sister have been so bitter about it for years it affected our relationship, now we don't talk, my youngest brother went to Australia and lost all contact. In 22 years I only saw my dad twice, the first time he was asking for money, the 2nd was when he was diagnosed with cancer and only had weeks to live. I thought he wanted to say sorry, but no, I think he just wanted a bit of drama. I really never got to know the step mother, but she was very pleasant the other day, upset too about everything. I don't know, maybe it'll be just good to get her perspective.
I have emailed my brother and sister to ask if they want copies of the photos, another emotionally charged moment. So far, no response. Very difficult for all involved.
And, a wet grey day here too, doesn't help, I do hope spring arrives soon so I can get busy in the garden! Don't like all this time to think. 🙄
Oh @D0rdogne_Damsel what a sad story ... from my perspective I think the thing to hang onto is that everyone in the story is a victim ... of course your father shouldn't have abandoned you ... that seems totally horrific and unforgiveable ... but maybe he was still in shock, grieving, full of self-doubt about being able to care for a family without your mother who was probably his 'rock'.... it does sound as if he wasn't a strong man and didn't cope well with the rest of his life without her, even with another wife (quickly recruited) to take her place. I'm not seeking to make excuses ... just to understand ... hopefully his widow (she's not really your step-mum is she ... it seems that she was never allowed to take on that role even if she had wanted to) will have some explanations and allow you to lay some ghosts at last. One thing I would say for definite ... nothing that happened was your fault ... even if you'd been a completely horrible brat ... it wasn't your fault ... you were a child and it is up to the adults to care for you and love you unconditionally ... even if you were awful (and probably with good reason) ... the fact that your father couldn't do that was his responsibility not yours ........ but he was damaged too. Lots of hugs xx
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Morning folks DD. Always said,'truth I'd stranger than fiction". I have a gorgeous lentil shepherdess pie recipe if anyone wants it, having it tonight with sweet potato topping.
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Should have some sunny spells today.
@Obelixx - the celeriac dauphinoise sounds interesting - recipe, please?
@D0rdogne_Damsel I am sure your St Valentine's Day teas at CdeG was a success!
Glad the physio sessions are relieving the pain.
Had an appointment with my dermatologist yesterday for keratosis on my hands. He usually burns them off with his azote gun, but this time I have to put Efudix cream on for a couple of weeks - then end of March, some photo/light treatment. Better wear gloves when gardening this summer - just 5 minutes weeding is not approved by said derma!!
Not sure what the day has in store for me today!!
Enjoy yours wherever you are.
Tui
Definitely not weather to tempt me outdoors today … it looks dank and dreary out there.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Got all my seeds right yesterday 👍🏻. So that’s me completed my Level 2 Diploma. I will have a think about doing Level 3……but not for a year or so as they are changing all the syllabuses and I want to give it time to bed down a bit. Plus I think my Citizens Advice training might take up my headspace for the next 18 months.
Volunteering today - looks grey but dry out there.
Happy Wednesday one and all 😀
I went to the library yesterday in Beziers to give and get books and also to put some seeds on the "garden" table. It wasn't there and the librarian told me that it wasn't opening until April !! A bit late - most people have their seeds sorted and most sown by early April.
Well done, @chicky, but I knew you'd pass. Will you do anything with the Diploma or was it a personal goal?
That must have been a shock @D0rdogne_Damsel but I hope it turns out to be a good one.
I'm going to lunch at a friend's home today, girl lunch, others invited. Husbands are going to the pub.
As ever wise and kind words from everyone on here. Thank you all. A very restless night, so many memories dragged up, not all good, things you think you're over suddenly hit as raw as first time around. @Pat E I absolutely understand what you mean. Self doubt too, did I behave badly? Was it my fault, what could I have done differently? The photos are all happy childhood ones and my mum and dad's wedding album from 1960. Such happy faces and it all ended so badly for so many, mum killed in a road accident, myself and 3 much younger brothers and sisters abandoned by dad after just 10 months as he remarried and moved away.... No forwarding address... My brother and sister have been so bitter about it for years it affected our relationship, now we don't talk, my youngest brother went to Australia and lost all contact. In 22 years I only saw my dad twice, the first time he was asking for money, the 2nd was when he was diagnosed with cancer and only had weeks to live. I thought he wanted to say sorry, but no, I think he just wanted a bit of drama. I really never got to know the step mother, but she was very pleasant the other day, upset too about everything. I don't know, maybe it'll be just good to get her perspective.
I have emailed my brother and sister to ask if they want copies of the photos, another emotionally charged moment. So far, no response. Very difficult for all involved.
And, a wet grey day here too, doesn't help, I do hope spring arrives soon so I can get busy in the garden! Don't like all this time to think. 🙄
Have a good day all, well done @chicky. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
DD. Always said,'truth I'd stranger than fiction". I have a gorgeous lentil shepherdess pie recipe if anyone wants it, having it tonight with sweet potato topping.