NB, compared with bereavements it MAY seem trivial to some, but it's having a massive effect on you both, so in my book at least , it's far from trivial.
Follow your neighbour's advice and let them finish.
The next time the Boss is coming round, make sure they make an appointment so you can be there .
In the mean time, feel free to come in here and rant to your heart's content.
Speaking as someone who was involved in the construction industry for 25 years, I wholeheartedly agree with Raisingirl and your engineer neighbour ... very sensible advice. And take no notice of 'old dears' with too little to do and too much to say
And I know how one person's anxiety spills over and affects everyone ... please try to keep each problem 'in it's own box' and remember that when you have to eat an elephant you need to do it 'one bite at a time'.
I'm sorry the doctor has put the wind up you ... these things do need sorting out but don't get into a flat spin about it ... lots of my family, including me, have had moles, lesions lumps and bumps etc removed - some were turning nasty, some weren't ... but all of us are still here many years on. The hospital has photographs of my many moles so that changes can be monitored. Try to keep calm about it. ((hugs))
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Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
I am sure most of you will have had days when you look at the garden and you think, I just don't like this bit and that bit and another bit.
So that is what happened this morning and I foresaw carnage, plants decimated, huge holes in the border.
Anyway sensibly I thought, I need to go before I do things I regret, so have been for a lovely walk through the fields and woods and feel much better for it.
Just need to not do anything silly, now that I am home.
NBeach, try not to worry, see your GP ASAP and they will get it sorted.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Removed a thick layer of dust from our bedroom and vacuumed every square inch ... foot aches a bit now so am sitting down for half an hour ... then I'll fire the slow cWhooker up ......before settling down to Wimbledon ...
Who's on coffee duty .........?
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Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Tea and a little pattie cake of Orange & poppy seed. We've been collecting mail for a friend down the valley who has been in Victoria, so when he came back yesterday he arrived with four of these delicious little cakes made by his partner in vic.
im trying one for the first time tonight to test my innards. Hopefully it will be ok
Please excuse my interloping here ..... hope you don't mind my comments ...
Dove , you are an inspiration and really enjoy your words of wisdom .......
I have also taken Hosafan's advice , as I have never written about this......
"In the mean time, feel free to come in here and rant to your heart's content. "
We have had a tough year or so with my wife's dad passing away after a distressing last nine months with motor neuron disease. The people at the hospital ,about 700 Km away from Moscow ,would not let us move him to be closer to us so it was a lot of driving and nursing by my wife and me when I could.
This was followed soon after by another bereavement of my wife's god-mum and very close friend who sadly succumbed to cancer in her 50s .
This year I have had many scares and had back surgery in the last 3 months.....
But you know what .....gardening is the best recuperative medicine for all ailments , mental and physical .Being in the open air with all the nature has an amazing effect .
.We dont watch a lot of TV but our favorite program is Gardner's World with the dulcet tones and easy style of Monty Don .
I am a great lover of trees of all kind and here is my favorite poem by Joyce Kilmer
I love that poem, Dachalover. I have it on an old record sung by Peter Robeson.
We are just off to my friend's memorial service. Her friends have been asked to take vases of flowers picked from their gardens. I'll post a photo of mine later, maybe on the Jam jar thread. Haven't downloaded it yet.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
Dachalover You and your wife have had a very difficult time ... I hope that things are looking up now and you're able to enjoy the good things of life again
Hope all goes well BL ((hugs))
Hosta, if tea is all that's available, I'll have a cup please ....... I do drink tea occasionally, but very weak and only a dash of milk.
Pat, that looks scrummy How's the innards?
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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NB, compared with bereavements it MAY seem trivial to some, but it's having a massive effect on you both, so in my book at least , it's far from trivial.
Follow your neighbour's advice and let them finish.
The next time the Boss is coming round, make sure they make an appointment so you can be there .
In the mean time, feel free to come in here and rant to your heart's content.
Speaking as someone who was involved in the construction industry for 25 years, I wholeheartedly agree with Raisingirl and your engineer neighbour ... very sensible advice. And take no notice of 'old dears' with too little to do and too much to say
And I know how one person's anxiety spills over and affects everyone ... please try to keep each problem 'in it's own box' and remember that when you have to eat an elephant you need to do it 'one bite at a time'.
I'm sorry the doctor has put the wind up you ... these things do need sorting out but don't get into a flat spin about it ... lots of my family, including me, have had moles, lesions lumps and bumps etc removed - some were turning nasty, some weren't ... but all of us are still here many years on. The hospital has photographs of my many moles so that changes can be monitored. Try to keep calm about it.
((hugs))
Last edited: 13 July 2017 09:27:37
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Hi all.
I am sure most of you will have had days when you look at the garden and you think, I just don't like this bit and that bit and another bit.
So that is what happened this morning and I foresaw carnage, plants decimated, huge holes in the border.
Anyway sensibly I thought, I need to go before I do things I regret, so have been for a lovely walk through the fields and woods and feel much better for it.
Just need to not do anything silly, now that I am home.
NBeach, try not to worry, see your GP ASAP and they will get it sorted.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
That's two of us then Pdoc ...........
Removed a thick layer of dust from our bedroom and vacuumed every square inch ... foot aches a bit now so am sitting down for half an hour ... then I'll fire the slow cWhooker up ......before settling down to Wimbledon ...
Who's on coffee duty .........?
Last edited: 13 July 2017 11:31:20
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
tea here and a nice bit of carrot cake.
Tea and a little pattie cake of Orange & poppy seed. We've been collecting mail for a friend down the valley who has been in Victoria, so when he came back yesterday he arrived with four of these delicious little cakes made by his partner in vic.
im trying one for the first time tonight to test my innards. Hopefully it will be ok
Please excuse my interloping here ..... hope you don't mind my comments ...
Dove , you are an inspiration and really enjoy your words of wisdom .......
I have also taken Hosafan's advice , as I have never written about this......
"In the mean time, feel free to come in here and rant to your heart's content. "
We have had a tough year or so with my wife's dad passing away after a distressing last nine months with motor neuron disease. The people at the hospital ,about 700 Km away from Moscow ,would not let us move him to be closer to us so it was a lot of driving and nursing by my wife and me when I could.
This was followed soon after by another bereavement of my wife's god-mum and very close friend who sadly succumbed to cancer in her 50s .
This year I have had many scares and had back surgery in the last 3 months.....
But you know what .....gardening is the best recuperative medicine for all ailments , mental and physical .Being in the open air with all the nature has an amazing effect .
.We dont watch a lot of TV but our favorite program is Gardner's World with the dulcet tones and easy style of Monty Don .
I am a great lover of trees of all kind and here is my favorite poem by Joyce Kilmer
I think that I shall never see
A poem lovely as a tree.
A tree whose hungry mouth is prest
Against the sweet earth’s flowing breast;
A tree that looks at God all day,
And lifts her leafy arms to pray;
A tree that may in summer wear
A nest of robins in her hair;
Upon whose bosom snow has lain;
Who intimately lives with rain.
Poems are made by fools like me,
But only God can make a tree.
Here it is. It was very nice and moist.
I love that poem, Dachalover. I have it on an old record sung by Peter Robeson.
We are just off to my friend's memorial service. Her friends have been asked to take vases of flowers picked from their gardens. I'll post a photo of mine later, maybe on the Jam jar thread. Haven't downloaded it yet.
Dachalover
You and your wife have had a very difficult time ... I hope that things are looking up now and you're able to enjoy the good things of life again 
Hope all goes well BL ((hugs))
Hosta, if tea is all that's available, I'll have a cup please ....... I do drink tea occasionally, but very weak and only a dash of milk.
Pat, that looks scrummy
How's the innards?
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.