Hugs to you gf steve.I think we are all the same in that we don't always say the heart felt things we mean to. I try to live for today as if it's my last and never go to sleep at night without holding my hubs. hand. I always stand at the window and wave goodbye to him each morning too. My dad is 91 this year and I make sure that I spend as much time with him as I can .As I only work part-time it does mean that I get to spend one whole day (7:30am-7:30pm ) + couple of half days each week with him and I treasure our time together and love hearing all his tales of his (and mum's) past.
Sadly I had not learnt this lesson 10 yrs ago when we very suddenly lost my dear mum, nobody knew that she had cancer and thankfully she never regain consciousness after her operation to discover the reason for all of her recent problems.....she died peacefully and blissfully unaware with all of us holding her hand. But oh how I wish I could go back in time and tell her just how much I loved her ....but sadly we all tend to think...we'll do it tomorrow!
Love and hugs to all going through a tough time with loved ones xx
Thank you all for your heart felt words Joyce, Runnybeak, flowers in the rain, and verdun. We all have one thing in common as all on this blog and thats our love of gardening.
I hold this blog with high respect and the people that show such goodwill to others with their kind and thoughtful comments.
That's the worse thing Steve, my friend lost her son in car accident, she will never get over it, but with us here, I am so pleased I can look after my dad, he's completely dependant on me now, as he's too weak to even move, but when he goes, it won't be a shock, and I will give thanks for him, I won't think about missing him because I know this will be what he wants.
It must be worse when you suddenly hear your loved one has gone.
My heart goes out to everyone on this thread, as Verdun says, very important.
I must give a big thank you to Verdun, he has supported me this year and last when I was in the same position with mum, even though his own mum was very ill, so thank you mate, means a lot to have you for a friend.
Thank you to everyone who has PM'd me and emailed, I will answer you all when I can.
Overwhelmed with the kindness.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
The nights are the worst Lily, he's restless, agitated, half dreams of the most silly things, I have just changed him, pulled him back up the top of the bed and hopefully that's tired him out for a couple of hours, it certainly does me
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
In my Dads last few days, he was very agitated, nothing being done even though he was in hospital. It took eight hours of me getting stroppy with nurses and a doctor, before we finally got a consultant out of a and e to prescribe something to calm him down. Then it took an hour and a half for the drugs to arrive, and 30 seconds for the injection to kick in. We then sat with him for the next 48 hours, but he went peacefully.
Lynne, if you haven't got something for him by now, please call out the doctor as a matter of urgency. It was only when the consultant saw the state he was in that we got anywhere.
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Hugs to you gf steve.I think we are all the same in that we don't always say the heart felt things we mean to. I try to live for today as if it's my last and never go to sleep at night without holding my hubs. hand. I always stand at the window and wave goodbye to him each morning too. My dad is 91 this year and I make sure that I spend as much time with him as I can .As I only work part-time it does mean that I get to spend one whole day (7:30am-7:30pm ) + couple of half days each week with him and I treasure our time together and love hearing all his tales of his (and mum's) past.
Sadly I had not learnt this lesson 10 yrs ago when we very suddenly lost my dear mum, nobody knew that she had cancer and thankfully she never regain consciousness after her operation to discover the reason for all of her recent problems.....she died peacefully and blissfully unaware with all of us holding her hand. But oh how I wish I could go back in time and tell her just how much I loved her ....but sadly we all tend to think...we'll do it tomorrow!
Love and hugs to all going through a tough time with loved ones xx
I hold this blog with high respect and the people that show such goodwill to others with their kind and thoughtful comments.
Please all keep safe and thank you again
It must be worse when you suddenly hear your loved one has gone.
My heart goes out to everyone on this thread, as Verdun says, very important.
I must give a big thank you to Verdun, he has supported me this year and last when I was in the same position with mum, even though his own mum was very ill, so thank you mate, means a lot to have you for a friend.
Thank you to everyone who has PM'd me and emailed, I will answer you all when I can.
Overwhelmed with the kindness.
GF Steve, big hugs and best wishes from me too.
Lyn, hope your dad has a restful night, hugs and best wishes x
Thank you from me too Kef x
In my Dads last few days, he was very agitated, nothing being done even though he was in hospital. It took eight hours of me getting stroppy with nurses and a doctor, before we finally got a consultant out of a and e to prescribe something to calm him down. Then it took an hour and a half for the drugs to arrive, and 30 seconds for the injection to kick in. We then sat with him for the next 48 hours, but he went peacefully.
Lynne, if you haven't got something for him by now, please call out the doctor as a matter of urgency. It was only when the consultant saw the state he was in that we got anywhere.
Look after yourself. Best wishes..
I think a lesson for us all: never be afraid, or slow , to say " I love you" to those around us.
Exactly Hosta.