Verdun,your mum couldn't have a better ,kind ,and loving caring person as yourself.sometimes it's easy to neglect ourselves and not look after our health when we have other responsibilities as a loved one who is not well.specially our parents.
Please, I hope you are looking after yourself.
Your brother is selfish ,
Maybe he doesn't know .......... :if you have a mother , cherish her with care.for you never know the value till you see her empty chair .
I also am a firm believer in. " what goes around comes around."
Some people cant accept/deal with illness, maybe your bro is a sociopath, maybe he wants to keep his head in the sand. I was the main carer for my nan, her son (my uncle) wouldnt visit- ever, it took other things in his life to go down hill and a breakdown for him to realise what was important. "Nowt as queer as folk" as they say! Best wishes to all of you x
Verdun, maybe this has been said before so sorry if i repeat.
When my aunt was like your mum, we found she could talk about the war days and her childhood and remember it all. She would have great fun remembering the antics of their girlhood days.
Maybe your mum is worse and past thst stage but it really helped my aunt.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
We keep one of those big (ish) blow up paddling pools in the shed for fish emergencies and when we want to drain it for a clear out. We even used it when we moved house as a holding tank whilst we sorted the pond out.
I'm attaching a link to a forum that I found very helpful when I was trying to cope after my late husband was diagnosed with Alzheimers in the hope that others might find it useful too.
When dealing with my aged grandmother in her last years I found it best to go along with her fantasies/hallucinations/strange ideas/whatever they really are. She used to ask the same question repeatedly - no point getting annoyed about it; just answered it again. Needn't be the same answer!
Come to think of it I do that sometimes. But then I've always been demented
Hi Verdun - this is my first post in this thread though I've been following it.
The way I see your current situation,its your brother's loss and if he can't see past his own ego then that reflects very badly on him. You can rest in the knowledge you have done everything in your power for your Mum. I had a similar situation in the late 90s when my Mum died of cancer. It was me taking her to hospital for her treatment,me seeing to her dogs while she was staying in there while the rest of the family just had excuses. In years to come,you will know that you were the better person and that your Mum will have been very lucky to have had a son like you.
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Verdun,your mum couldn't have a better ,kind ,and loving caring person as yourself.sometimes it's easy to neglect ourselves and not look after our health when we have other responsibilities as a loved one who is not well.specially our parents.
Please, I hope you are looking after yourself.
Your brother is selfish ,
Maybe he doesn't know .......... :if you have a mother , cherish her with care.for you never know the value till you see her empty chair .
I also am a firm believer in. " what goes around comes around."
Take care Verdun. Gran x
Gran what a thought evoking saying
Verdun hugs x
Verdun, maybe this has been said before so sorry if i repeat.
When my aunt was like your mum, we found she could talk about the war days and her childhood and remember it all. She would have great fun remembering the antics of their girlhood days.
Maybe your mum is worse and past thst stage but it really helped my aunt.
philippa smith2
We keep one of those big (ish) blow up paddling pools in the shed for fish emergencies and when we want to drain it for a clear out. We even used it when we moved house as a holding tank whilst we sorted the pond out.
I'm attaching a link to a forum that I found very helpful when I was trying to cope after my late husband was diagnosed with Alzheimers in the hope that others might find it useful too.
http://forum.alzheimers.org.uk/forum.php
When dealing with my aged grandmother in her last years I found it best to go along with her fantasies/hallucinations/strange ideas/whatever they really are. She used to ask the same question repeatedly - no point getting annoyed about it; just answered it again. Needn't be the same answer!
Come to think of it I do that sometimes. But then I've always been demented
Hi Verdun - this is my first post in this thread though I've been following it.
The way I see your current situation,its your brother's loss and if he can't see past his own ego then that reflects very badly on him. You can rest in the knowledge you have done everything in your power for your Mum. I had a similar situation in the late 90s when my Mum died of cancer. It was me taking her to hospital for her treatment,me seeing to her dogs while she was staying in there while the rest of the family just had excuses. In years to come,you will know that you were the better person and that your Mum will have been very lucky to have had a son like you.