Lily I'm pleased to hear the news about your friend and hope you feel less anxious.
Verdun I think Dove summed it up better than I can..hugs
Lyn easier for you in only one way, the rest is all on your shoulders and it must be hard to care for two parents and bear the weight of full responsiblity. x
Lily Pilly a hug for you for what you & your family endured, brave of you to post on here x
I popped on here to say something that is trivial in comparison. After making 7 phone calls since May about Mum's refuge & re-cyling not being collected I rang this morning and made a corporate complaint, I was asked what action I would like them to take ...get the waste management to empty the bins was my reply and find out why they've stopped doing it properly after 15 yrs ! I was told I would receive a written explanation within 20 working days and they couldn't do anything about collections other than check she was on the "missed bin" list. Two hours later I had a call from Mum..what's wrong now me thought Guess what ? Her bins have been emptied. Wonder what will be the next thing that gets her all upset, might not have any cream cakes to her liking in SM tomorrow
Good news lily. Hope your friend makes a full recovery.
A very testing time for you Verdun. Remember to look after yourself too. I hope your Mum responds well to fewer medicines and that your brother 'man's up'.
Thinking of you punkdoc, lilyP and lyn and sending hugs.
Pansyface I completely understand how difficult it is to live so far away. I am feeling guilty about going home later in the week. I also feel guilty about being away from OH (with his car) and my sons for so long. It's a no win situation.
KEF you're a star. I'd like you on my side next time I have issues with the council
KEF - it's that 'creaking gate' thing isn't it? Ludicrous that you have to do it though. Everything nowadays needs to be project managed by ourselves if we want it done
I'm very lucky that I've not had to deal with some of the issues others have, though I've had different ones through recent years. Sending hugs to lily and LP. Lyn - yours is a different situation and it's wonderful that you can be so near to your parents yet still have your own space - very important for your sanity. As KEF says, a lot of responsibility as well so hugs to you too.
Verd- you can take comfort in the fact that you're doing the right thing by your Mum. That's what matters.
I stayed to look after Mum when Dad was in hospital for a few days. I had to work (single mum) and when I'd come back to get her some lunch and was tucking her up before I left to go back, she said 'you will come back won't you?' She looked so lost and confused. I struggled at work that afternoon so I understand guilt only too well. It's an impossible situation and you can only do your best.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Best wishes and hugs to all who are poorly and for those caring for them.
Awww fairy, my mum said that to me when I left her for the first time in the home. I can see her little face now. its sad that things reverse, and we take care of them instead of them taking care of us.
Good luck, Verdun....sounds a bit of a troublesome time for you.
Makes feel so grateful that both my (now deceased) parents who lived into their 80s & 90s retained their faculties until the end and continued to live contentedly at home to the last.
Lesley, soz I missed you off the hugs. As has been said you can only do your best and you have family at home and life to live. Time creeps up on all of us.
I take some comfort from my Dad telling me in a lucid moment that I was a good daughter and he loved me and I should go home as I had my own life to live He didn't say it the next visit, he then wanted me help form the escape commitee ..can't really put a wink at the end of that.
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Lily I'm pleased to hear the news about your friend and hope you feel less anxious.
Verdun I think Dove summed it up better than I can..hugs
Lyn easier for you in only one way, the rest is all on your shoulders and it must be hard to care for two parents and bear the weight of full responsiblity. x
Lily Pilly a hug for you for what you & your family endured, brave of you to post on here x
I popped on here to say something that is trivial in comparison. After making 7 phone calls since May about Mum's refuge & re-cyling not being collected I rang this morning and made a corporate complaint, I was asked what action I would like them to take ...get the waste management to empty the bins was my reply and find out why they've stopped doing it properly after 15 yrs ! I was told I would receive a written explanation within 20 working days and they couldn't do anything about collections other than check she was on the "missed bin" list.
Two hours later I had a call from Mum..what's wrong now me thought 
Guess what ? Her bins have been emptied. 
Wonder what will be the next thing that gets her all upset, might not have any cream cakes to her liking in SM tomorrow 
Thank you Kef, yes feel less stressed today.
Hope your mum's ok too, bless her. xx
Hugs for Lyn and lily Pilly too xx
Good news lily. Hope your friend makes a full recovery.
A very testing time for you Verdun. Remember to look after yourself too. I hope your Mum responds well to fewer medicines and that your brother 'man's up'.
Thinking of you punkdoc, lilyP and lyn and sending hugs.
Pansyface I completely understand how difficult it is to live so far away. I am feeling guilty about going home later in the week. I also feel guilty about being away from OH (with his car) and my sons for so long. It's a no win situation.
KEF you're a star. I'd like you on my side next time I have issues with the council
KEF - it's that 'creaking gate' thing isn't it? Ludicrous that you have to do it though. Everything nowadays needs to be project managed by ourselves if we want it done
I'm very lucky that I've not had to deal with some of the issues others have, though I've had different ones through recent years. Sending hugs to lily and LP. Lyn - yours is a different situation and it's wonderful that you can be so near to your parents yet still have your own space - very important for your sanity. As KEF says, a lot of responsibility as well so hugs to you too.
Verd- you can take comfort in the fact that you're doing the right thing by your Mum. That's what matters.
I stayed to look after Mum when Dad was in hospital for a few days. I had to work (single mum) and when I'd come back to get her some lunch and was tucking her up before I left to go back, she said 'you will come back won't you?' She looked so lost and confused. I struggled at work that afternoon so I understand guilt only too well. It's an impossible situation and you can only do your best.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts.
Best wishes and hugs to all who are poorly and for those caring for them.
Awww fairy, my mum said that to me when I left her for the first time in the home. I can see her little face now. its sad that things reverse, and we take care of them instead of them taking care of us.
Good luck, Verdun....sounds a bit of a troublesome time for you.
Makes feel so grateful that both my (now deceased) parents who lived into their 80s & 90s retained their faculties until the end and continued to live contentedly at home to the last.
Lesley, soz I missed you off the hugs. As has been said you can only do your best and you have family at home and life to live. Time creeps up on all of us.
I take some comfort from my Dad telling me in a lucid moment that I was a good daughter and he loved me and I should go home as I had my own life to live
He didn't say it the next visit, he then wanted me help form the escape commitee ..can't really put a wink at the end of that.
Oh Verdun, that must be so hard for you. Take care oc yourself as well as your mum. Best wishes to you both.