Pleasant enough morning here, but rain due from midday. Been sulking as Iām still having to avoid lifting and bending down, so no gardening for me. The good news is that the needed repairs are booked for four weeks time. Ā However, I asked the surgeon when I could start to return to normal activities, first answer, four to six weeks for most stuff. Asked specifically about wielding the mattock in the garden, and after the raised eyebrows had settled down, advised no sooner than five to six months, and that Iād really need to consider getting a gardener for the heavy stuff. I know it makes sense, but that is the bit I enjoy most. Donāt like being reminded that Iām over 27!Ā On a more cheerful note, had lovely visits from the kids and grandchildren, and am comfortable walking for hours at a time, so have been able to enjoy the sunny spells. Its been good to read up on here how things are going for you all, even if I havenāt felt like posting. Great relief to hear how Doveās son is recovering, and Hostafanās mood has been lifted by a social occasion. Best wishes to those suffering health worries, Punkdocās hips, and Dordogne Damselā s house and business challenges. Keep strong!
Glad to hear you had a fabulous time @Hostafan1, sometimes spontaneity is just what you need.Ā
I'm now trying to sell my second car, the money will help with the house purchase. Just a little awkward, because Charlie's dad often uses it and although he offered to buy it he's offered, 3000ā¬ less than I'm currently being offered by the dealer. That's a big difference in my current circumstances. I don't want to fall out about it, but equally don't trust him to match the price, he'll come up with an excuse about how much he could charge me to manage the website, which he currently does for free. He is one of those people that gives something but then takes it back in other ways. I think I'd rather get a new person to do the website and sell the car. I just feel bad because he's away. If I start haggling whilst he's on holiday it might spoil his holiday, but then he'll be mad if he comes back and it's a done deal. He does have another car of his own, he uses it much more than my 2nd car, which is really just a tootling around car rather than both our working vehicles. Oh, I do hate these dilemmas.Ā
āCoffee. Garden. Coffee. Does a good morning need anything else?ā āBetsy CaƱas Garmon
Good morning all, itās bright and sunny at the moment and not too breezy, but that is set to change later this afternoon, so Iāve taken advantage of the weather and got some washing blowing on the line now whilst itās still dry. Oh dear @D0rdogne_Damsel, that must have been an extremely worrying time for you all. I hope you are all feeling calmer now. Well, I hope you all enjoy the rest of the day and manage to do whatever you have planned.
The thing that struck me most about your post @D0rdogne_Damsel was how much you are considering Charlie's dad's needs and how little he is considering yours.Ā You need the money - sell the car!Ā And if you can find someone else to do the website that would help release the hold Charlie's dad has over you. But glad he and Charlie got reunited - so scary for them both - and you.
A bit of spring cleaning for me today.Ā Not too much - I'm not going mad!
@didyw ā¦ my immediateĀ thought was that someone knows very well how to press @D0rdogne_Damselās āguilt buttonā ā¦ whether intentional or not, itās a very effective means of control.Ā
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
@D0rdogne_Damsel, take the excellent advice youāre being offered on here! Sell the car, if he dares to say anything, remind him that he already has another car. You got a good offer that you couldnāt refuse, and no expectation that he would want to match it when he already has alternative transport.Ā A really good idea to look elsewhere for someone to do your website too. Iāve never found it comfortable to have close friends or relatives involved in business dealings. Iād need to be impartial if I wanted to criticise, change or fire someone if I became unhappy with their work. It would be worth paying for a service rather than be beholden to someone doing it for nothing, especially an ex! Good luck.
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A bright sunny morning here in Norfolk āļøĀ
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Some gardening on the agenda today. Ā I remember having a bird whistle like that when I was a youngster @coccinella Ā
Keep warm @Pat E
Sounds like a good day @Hostafan1 Ā Best times are had when there is no organisation.
I hope you all have a pleasant day wherever you are.
Sunny but cold and very windy.
If it gets any warmer, I shall head out for a little light gardening.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Ā However, I asked the surgeon when I could start to return to normal activities, first answer, four to six weeks for most stuff. Asked specifically about wielding the mattock in the garden, and after the raised eyebrows had settled down, advised no sooner than five to six months, and that Iād really need to consider getting a gardener for the heavy stuff. I know it makes sense, but that is the bit I enjoy most. Donāt like being reminded that Iām over 27!Ā
On a more cheerful note, had lovely visits from the kids and grandchildren, and am comfortable walking for hours at a time, so have been able to enjoy the sunny spells.
Its been good to read up on here how things are going for you all, even if I havenāt felt like posting. Great relief to hear how Doveās son is recovering, and Hostafanās mood has been lifted by a social occasion. Best wishes to those suffering health worries, Punkdocās hips, and Dordogne Damselā s house and business challenges. Keep strong!
Well what a busy weekend that was, double what we did last Easter, didn't see that coming, but all went smoothly.Ā
Charlie's trip to Italy had a bit of a rocky start, didn't do my nerves or his dad's heart condition any good. His dad had to sit down for a bit so Charlie went to take some photos, when he got back his dad had gone. Dad had gone looking for Charlie and somehow they crossed paths without seeing each other. Charlie's phone was flat so he went into a little cafĆ© to charge it up, his dad in the meantime is walking around and around, got himself into a right state, ended up getting the police involved, and also calling me in a terrible state of panic. It was the longest 30 minutes of my life whilst they looked for Charlie. I'm sure you can imagine every scenario was going through my head, and his dad was virtually unable to speak, couldn't breathe, omg, terrible. The police were extremely efficient and found Charlie and reunited him with his dad, but oh my goodness, all three of us were traumatized. Strict instructions now to stick together, and/or have a plan and most importantly never let the phone go flat.Ā
Glad to hear you had a fabulous time @Hostafan1, sometimes spontaneity is just what you need.Ā
I'm now trying to sell my second car, the money will help with the house purchase. Just a little awkward, because Charlie's dad often uses it and although he offered to buy it he's offered, 3000ā¬ less than I'm currently being offered by the dealer. That's a big difference in my current circumstances. I don't want to fall out about it, but equally don't trust him to match the price, he'll come up with an excuse about how much he could charge me to manage the website, which he currently does for free. He is one of those people that gives something but then takes it back in other ways. I think I'd rather get a new person to do the website and sell the car. I just feel bad because he's away. If I start haggling whilst he's on holiday it might spoil his holiday, but then he'll be mad if he comes back and it's a done deal. He does have another car of his own, he uses it much more than my 2nd car, which is really just a tootling around car rather than both our working vehicles. Oh, I do hate these dilemmas.Ā
itās bright and sunny at the moment and not too breezy, but that is set to change later this afternoon, so Iāve taken advantage of the weather and got some washing blowing on the line now whilst itās still dry.
Oh dear @D0rdogne_Damsel, that must have been an extremely worrying time for you all. I hope you are all feeling calmer now.
Well, I hope you all enjoy the rest of the day and manage to do whatever you have planned.
But glad he and Charlie got reunited - so scary for them both - and you.
A bit of spring cleaning for me today.Ā Not too much - I'm not going mad!
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Sell the car, if he dares to say anything, remind him that he already has another car. You got a good offer that you couldnāt refuse, and no expectation that he would want to match it when he already has alternative transport.Ā
A really good idea to look elsewhere for someone to do your website too. Iāve never found it comfortable to have close friends or relatives involved in business dealings. Iād need to be impartial if I wanted to criticise, change or fire someone if I became unhappy with their work. It would be worth paying for a service rather than be beholden to someone doing it for nothing, especially an ex!
Good luck.