@Lizzie27 I don't feel one bit guilty. If they won't give me respite, I'll quite happily take it. I suspect their thinking is 'if you're coping, we'll let you'. Well I've news for them. The end of my tether is in sight.
My RTBC this morning - the weather doesn't look as bad as forecast, so we may get a chance to go to another garden before lunch at a pub, with my sister and BIL. 😊
Mine's the opposite @rowlandscastle444 Rain started at about 10pm last night and it's still raining. Trip to La Rochelle for the boat show has been postponed a day as it's set to be drier tomorrow.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
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@plant pauper … tell them you’re not coping now … don’t wait until you fall apart … you’re entitled to at least part of your relationship with your mother to be mother/daughter rather than carer/‘patient’. Also we always reach the end of our tether before we think we will … if they don’t give the carer some respite then the carer will collapse and they’ll have to find another carer! That’ll be a much bigger drain on resources than respite. That had to be my thinking when I was doing assessments. 🤗
Have you had a Carer’s assessment looking at your needs!?
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
@plant pauper when they send her home make sure it's the right person. I was reading a report today where a hospital sent the wrong person home and also sent them to the house of the person who should have been discharged. It was late, the crew had the number for the key box so let themselves in and put the lady to bed. She was on morphine was was out of it anyway. It was only when the family of the person who should have been discharged checked on her in the morning they discovered they had the wrong person.
Irrespective of it being the wrong person, why was somebody on morphine taken to, and left in, an empty house?
It’s a lovely sunny morning here! The radiator that OH is in the process of reconnecting didn’t leak during the night, so we have escaped the house for breakfast at the Donkey Sanctuary with a walk to follow. And there is a Spitfire flying past, with that wonderful engine rumble. ( It’s in Devon for two weeks, offering flights from a local airfield) My arm is no longer tender after Tuesday’s Covid jab. All good here!
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them you’re not coping now … don’t wait until you fall apart … you’re entitled to at least part of your relationship with your mother to be mother/daughter rather than carer/‘patient’. Also we always reach the end of our tether before we think we will … if they don’t give the carer some respite then the carer will collapse and they’ll have to find another carer! That’ll be a much bigger drain on resources than respite. That had to be my thinking when I was doing assessments. 🤗
Have you had a Carer’s assessment looking at your needs!?
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
My arm is no longer tender after Tuesday’s Covid jab. All good here!