Pansy,I do solve others peoples problems,I am carer for my youngest son. Last week he had no water,he hates to bother people or ask. His brother and sister said they would have dropped him some off. He didn't ask. When my grandson shielded 2020, my daughter couldn't get a delivery,I did a click and collect for her.As you know a year ago, (doesn't seem possible) I stopped shopping for an elderly friend, because of the bill run up. It's my nature to help whoever when ever possible.Its not just Putin,it's the university problems, cancelling people,you can't say anything to anyone these days,gender free toilets,and so on. I have a cousin, known him all his life. My late parents grandparents his late parents lived a few doors from each other, village in the 50s, never had any mental health issues ever,his wife had a breakdown a couple of years ago. Her physical symptoms were so serious,it was assumed she had cancer,It was stress. My cousin had a breakdown recently caused by bullying manager. He's been management level many years. 30 years ago manager for a big Tesco. Definitely NOT delicate little flower,has had to stop work.
"Please please please don’t start collecting or trying to send material aid to Ukraine or neighbouring countries. It is not needed. There are ALREADY mountains of wasted aid at the borders.
This
is a different type of refugee situation. So far they have been
‘overwhelmed’ with generosity from neighbouring countries. There are
hundreds of NGOs already there and they are easily coping with
everything. They also don’t need volunteers, except maybe doctors, but
even that isn’t needed yet.
If you want to help, send money to the local NGOs there, and work on political pressure.
As
always, some people jump into a ‘helping’ mode that isn’t helpful - it
actually creates more problems. You will see various groups ‘collecting
aid’ or calling out for blankets and similar. That doesn’t mean that aid
is needed or wanted or will ever be properly used. Channel your
wonderful desire to help, into things that are actually helpful!"
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I
entirely agree. As with Grenfell and other kind appeals, the "help"
often just hinders, because all the mountains of goods needs sorting,
cleaning, storing, infrastructures for distribution, staff and other
administration. Much of the urge comes from panic and an understandable
need to feel useful.
Fairy,I can't stop being my son's carer. He didn't ring me demanding I arrive there and then. He asked when I was next "over". He has a filter jug in the fridge,makes a flask of boiling water, lets it mellow, doesn't shower every day. He was unaware there was no water for several days. He finally found a neighbour in to ask. He walked to all the supermarkets,which had sold out.Then he got into SE water online, they were giving out bottled water a 4 mile round trip walk. He rang them took over an hour to get through,there was a tanker in the park,he walked there to find it was empty within 15 minutes. My youngest daughter said she would have driven over,but she didn't know. During the first lockdown,my oldest worked in the town,took him food,and youngest daughter. We used to live there,a water main burst in our road,and we were told that 48 hour repair was how long they would consider "urgent". They "thought it was repaired" then it failed again. Youngest collected grandkids Friday,did detour on the way home. Gave him a dozen bottles of drinking and I sent containers from the water butts for flushing the toilet.
I'm not talking about the people in your life who really need your help @Nanny Beach, and I doubt @pansyface is any different. It's all the other things that you can leave to others that you need to assess - for your own sanity
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Germany announce an extra 100 billion Euros to be spent on defense when most countries are still under-spending on preventing climate change. At least this war is forcing Germany and others to bring forward their zero-carbon targets to free themselves or Russian fossil fuels.
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
I've got to stop looking at the news very five minutes I look in the hope that things are getting better but it's worse every time. How can one man cause so much misery and destruction?
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This is a different type of refugee situation. So far they have been ‘overwhelmed’ with generosity from neighbouring countries. There are hundreds of NGOs already there and they are easily coping with everything. They also don’t need volunteers, except maybe doctors, but even that isn’t needed yet.
If you want to help, send money to the local NGOs there, and work on political pressure.
As always, some people jump into a ‘helping’ mode that isn’t helpful - it actually creates more problems. You will see various groups ‘collecting aid’ or calling out for blankets and similar. That doesn’t mean that aid is needed or wanted or will ever be properly used. Channel your wonderful desire to help, into things that are actually helpful!"
She's right.
You're just digging yourself an early grave. Graveyards are full of indispensable people.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
It's all the other things that you can leave to others that you need to assess - for your own sanity
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...