My mum was the same, she didn’t have dementia, when my dad was dying he apologised for how she’d behaved and the things she said, he’d try to tell her that I was only doing what I had to do and what I thought was best. You have to just go with it and do what you can.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
I had a lot of patients with dementia, and often found them distressed about things that were worrying them. One lady needed a lot of reassurance about her small child who was at home alone. She did respond very well to being repeatedly told that all was well, and that someone was looking after him, she calmed down and was able to have her treatment done. It was all very real to her, despite the fact that the care staff told me that her son was a bank manager in his fifties. It’s a recognised technique I’ve seen described once as therapeutic fibbing! Saying what the dementia sufferer needs to hear to calm or reassure them, even if it’s not true. More helpful than trying to convince them of a reality that may cause distress, especially when they may forget it all, and have to go through it again. That’s a very simplified explanation. Just having you there for any moments of clarity, Hostafan, will be a great comfort to you both, I’m sure. Hope you continue to get some decent sleep.
Morning everyone. Mild overcast day here, but not windy yet, although they are predicting high winds and snow at Perisher etc. we’ll see.
Hosta, I’m so glad that you can get it off your chest here without upsetting Hubby. We are all here to support you.
I went for a short walk yesterday to stretch my legs and noticed that the river is gradually dropping again, so took a photo. It’s amazing how quickly it does that.
The white blooms in the foreground are Manchurian Pear.
Is that blossom on the tree Pat, looks like catkins? Ive been reading must put it down and get some sleep. I always think of sleeping as a waste of time, I could be doing other things.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
An overcast morning here in Norfolk … it’s been a sort of muggy night but I slept quite well considering. Hope you’ve all had a restful night and that we’ve all got a good day to come … and … Go Emma 🎾 !!! 😃
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Good morning @Dovefromabove Same weather here and I too, slept well. Must have been the couple of glasses of rosé we had for lunch. So nice to see my English friends again.
Woken to a grey and damp morning here. I’m really aware now that dawn is coming later and it’s getting dark earlier at night. Leaves from the birch tree on the lawn starting to become very noticeable. I left my new Choisya White Dazzler out in its proposed planting spot in the front garden overnight. Very relieved to look out just now and see it unharmed. I was afraid that the deer and bunnies might have gobbled it up before I’ve even had a chance to plant it.
Lyn, yes those white blossoms are on the tree.
It’s been a good day here. Sleeves are rolled up. No wind nor rain yet, but predictions are for some.
Hubby decided it was a good time to climb on the roof and clean out the chimney. 😡. Of course I always go out and hold the ladder steady etc. and he’s not too good on his feet now that he’s been having all the various medications for the cancer. Anyway, he passed the cowl and wire brush down to me to have a go at while he was pushing and pulling the long side brush up and down the chimney. We are amazed at how much had to be scraped off. The most we’ve ever seen. Anyway, we’s happy now, so our fire might work a bit cleaner tonight.
Off for a day trip to Somerset today. MrC has a woodworking course for a couple of hours and we are going to stop off and see the gardens at Hauser and wirth on the way back. Best take a brolly ☂️
Had a lovely evening last night listening to James Wong talking about flavour in food - fascinating stuff.
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You have to just go with it and do what you can.
It’s a recognised technique I’ve seen described once as therapeutic fibbing! Saying what the dementia sufferer needs to hear to calm or reassure them, even if it’s not true. More helpful than trying to convince them of a reality that may cause distress, especially when they may forget it all, and have to go through it again. That’s a very simplified explanation.
Just having you there for any moments of clarity, Hostafan, will be a great comfort to you both, I’m sure. Hope you continue to get some decent sleep.
I went for a short walk yesterday to stretch my legs and noticed that the river is gradually dropping again, so took a photo. It’s amazing how quickly it does that.
Ive been reading must put it down and get some sleep.
I always think of sleeping as a waste of time, I could be doing other things.
Go Emma 🎾 !!! 😃
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Good morning @Dovefromabove Same weather here and I too, slept well. Must have been the couple of glasses of rosé we had for lunch. So nice to see my English friends again.
Yes, go Emma and Bravo Kate for Finding Derek.
Happy Friday!
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I left my new Choisya White Dazzler out in its proposed planting spot in the front garden overnight. Very relieved to look out just now and see it unharmed. I was afraid that the deer and bunnies might have gobbled it up before I’ve even had a chance to plant it.
Off for a day trip to Somerset today. MrC has a woodworking course for a couple of hours and we are going to stop off and see the gardens at Hauser and wirth on the way back. Best take a brolly ☂️
Had a lovely evening last night listening to James Wong talking about flavour in food - fascinating stuff.