Afternoon all, We've got rain! Real rain! Combined also with sunshine and patches of blue sky so really rather pleasant. It's just heavyish showers at the moment which is good, I was expecting torrential rain. Hope it soaks into the garden well.
I've done two loads of towels and the ironing so feeling very virtuous. The SM delivery has arrived so we've had Danish pastries for afters. We've got a car club meeting tonight including a light supper so yippee - no cooking! I've made a blackberry & apple crumble to take as my contribution.
Hope all goes well @Hostafan1, I presume OH will be mildly sedated in order to cope with the move.
Oh dear @Hostafan1, please do try not to let it upset you too much, you know it's the dementia talking and not the man you love. Could you try to convince him it was the doctors that decided and you didn't have any choice in the matter.
I hope he will calm down when he gets more used to the new place.
He doesn’t hate you my dear … he hates the situation he finds himself in … and so do you ((hug)) … it’s just that you understand the reasons why things are happening as they are … he can’t ‘reason’ any longer so he’s just upset and angry with whoever is around 😢 Hopefully some nice meals and some attentive care will give him some good experiences which will improve his emotional state. Our hearts bleed for both of you … xx
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Poor Hostafan, just remember that he is probably just looking for something to blame. His medical condition is out of his control, so his surroundings, carers etc are going to be fair game. Whatever you do, it’ll be wrong, so don’t take it personally. Bet he complained when he went into hospital. If he got moved somewhere else, he’d most likely complain about that too. Often helps with people with dementia to just keep agreeing with them. Tell him it wasn’t your idea, and you hate it too. Remind him you’re on his side against the world, that might get through to him and subconsciously be a great comfort to him, even if you can’t see outward signs of that.
Rained on and off all morning, so no gardening. Both have slightly achey backs from yesterday ( clearing an area of weeds so we can finally put down some slate ) so instead of staying home and doing DIY like good homeowners, we went off to the garden centre for coffee and cake! Wish we lived near the Chateau de Gateaux, we’d be in there all the time. As usual, I have succumbed to buying some plants without double checking first where to put them! I have come home with a very healthy looking Fatsia japonica, they do well round here, I see them in several neighbours gardens. Also bought a choisya, can’t remember which variety without going out to look at the label, but it’s a smaller variety with supposedly loads of fragrant white flowers. I have a spot for it, but am hoping that it won’t immediately get eaten by deer and rabbits. The leaves look a lot more delicate and tasty than the huge Choisya ternata that has been growing happily at the end of the drive for years.
The water butts are full! I don’t think we had thunder but the promise of rain did arrive.
You are in a ‘no-win’ situation @Hostafan1, but this sounds like this is the safest option. Hopefully, hubby will bond with the staff and feel more settled. It must be destroying to feel he isn’t happy but keeping him safe and comfortable is the best way you can show your love. Hugs.
Hugs for Hosta. He doesn't really hate you, he hates what is happening to him. You have been his rock.
Just had a huge downpour. Slight leak in a spare bedroom, kitchen gutter needs cleaning and P is digging out a drain in the lower terrace. Glad he was here assembling my flat pack cupboard. Still raining. Glad I came in from log stacking just before the downpour, really torrential.
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At the risk of being facile @Hostafan1 would some decent chocolate help? It does have brain soothing properties and tastes good - assuming he likes it. Other than that I can only echo what others have said. It's not him talking so I wish you patience.
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Was going to do some gardening today but ended up just doing a bit of deadheading. But I did take some pics. This little border is the one that's pleasing me most at the moment: Lobelia Queen Victoria and Lobelia Sparkling Ruby with sanguisorbia officialis, chocolate cosmos (not in the pic) dahlia and some crocosmia peeking in. @Hostafan1 - the serenity prayer might help. Or just getting in the car and shouting your head off. Either way - hugs to you. Behind it is the veg plot which really ought to go into the shame thread. We've had some nice french beans but the caulis got eaten, I never planted out the kale or the beetroot and the courgettes have been pathetic.
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We've got rain! Real rain! Combined also with sunshine and patches of blue sky so really rather pleasant. It's just heavyish showers at the moment which is good, I was expecting torrential rain. Hope it soaks into the garden well.
I've done two loads of towels and the ironing so feeling very virtuous. The SM delivery has arrived so we've had Danish pastries for afters. We've got a car club meeting tonight including a light supper so yippee - no cooking! I've made a blackberry & apple crumble to take as my contribution.
Hope all goes well @Hostafan1, I presume OH will be mildly sedated in order to cope with the move.
Enjoy the rest of the day folks.
I hope he will calm down when he gets more used to the new place.
Hopefully some nice meals and some attentive care will give him some good experiences which will improve his emotional state. Our hearts bleed for both of you … xx
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Often helps with people with dementia to just keep agreeing with them. Tell him it wasn’t your idea, and you hate it too. Remind him you’re on his side against the world, that might get through to him and subconsciously be a great comfort to him, even if you can’t see outward signs of that.
As usual, I have succumbed to buying some plants without double checking first where to put them! I have come home with a very healthy looking Fatsia japonica, they do well round here, I see them in several neighbours gardens. Also bought a choisya, can’t remember which variety without going out to look at the label, but it’s a smaller variety with supposedly loads of fragrant white flowers. I have a spot for it, but am hoping that it won’t immediately get eaten by deer and rabbits. The leaves look a lot more delicate and tasty than the huge Choisya ternata that has been growing happily at the end of the drive for years.
Just had a huge downpour. Slight leak in a spare bedroom, kitchen gutter needs cleaning and P is digging out a drain in the lower terrace. Glad he was here assembling my flat pack cupboard. Still raining. Glad I came in from log stacking just before the downpour, really torrential.
@Hostafan1 - the serenity prayer might help. Or just getting in the car and shouting your head off. Either way - hugs to you.
Behind it is the veg plot which really ought to go into the shame thread. We've had some nice french beans but the caulis got eaten, I never planted out the kale or the beetroot and the courgettes have been pathetic.