I married in the late '60's - simple Registry job with no posh clothes or family. My Mum and Dad used their lunch hour to toast our marriage in the local pub. No honeymoon - just modified a Transit van and went travelling and working thru Europe for a few months. Still together after more than 50 years altho I wouldn't say that had anything to do with the actual Wedding Day.
It really is a case of each to their own tho and if someone wishes to expend on a single day, it surely is their own business. A cheap wedding day is no more or less likely to lead to a happy and long lasting relationship than an extravagent one.
Just hope the dress problem is resolved in time and that @debs64 's daughter has a lovely day
Our wedding was very similar to that of Philippa. At the time I would have liked the full works, dress and everything but we were both still at college and my parents couldn’t afford anything like that. As it was we paid for most of it ourselves as well as making all the arrangements and didn’t have a honeymoon either. 50 years on and I can’t say that I have big regrets about not having what I would have called the ‘perfect day’. It was perfect in that we married each other.
Having said all that, I hope Debs and her daughter don’t allow this dress business to spoil the day.
Having said all that, I hope Debs and her daughter don’t allow this dress business to spoil the day.
Exactly. People can spend their money how they like and if a dress matters that much, well fine, as long as it doesn't ruin the whole day if it isn't perfect. In the end, it's not a day about a dress.
I can still recall the look of horror on the faces of the very nice ladies in the lovely dress shop I went to in Bath to buy my wedding outfit. "when are you getting married?" "Saturday" "THIS Saturday? Like, three days' time Saturday?" "yes, that's right. Do you have a hat to match this one?"
My aunt told me, slightly shocked, that when Mum and Dad got married, they went back to Granny's house after the ceremony, Mum took her hat off and said 'anyone for a cuppa?' and put the kettle on.
Each to their own I hope Debs and daughter have a lovely day
Gardening on the edge of Exmoor, in Devon
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
I would happily have gone to a Registry Office and grabbed a couple of traffic wardens off the street as witnesses, but I always knew my hubby-to-be wanted the works. Wasn't a big deal to me [atheist] but as a good Catholic boy, nothing but the 'Piney' would do.
[ piney is pineapple = chapel, in case anyone's wondering. Is that just a Scottish thing or do other parts of the country use it? ]
I didn't let it become stressful, and I can honestly say I had a great day, but we did have one guest that I'd happily have thrown out if I'd witnessed her behaviour. Not a relative, but a girlfriend of one of hubby's mates. Total a*****le.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I also got married in the late 1960's when money was tight and we didn't earn much. I made my wedding dress and my two bridesmaid's dresses, then a year later I also made my sister's and her bridesmaids' dresses. 2nd time round, 29 years later, I hired one, a shorter length, cocktail style, off the shoulder jobbie. I loved it, I wonder if it was from the same shop @raisingirl? My mum had been insistent that I wore a suit as she thought it more seemly for a 2nd marriage but as I spent my working days in a suit, there was no way I wanted to and as my hubbie was then a bachelor, I thought he deserved 'the works'.
2nd time round, 29 years later, I hired one, a shorter length, cocktail style, off the shoulder jobbie. I loved it, I wonder if it was from the same shop @raisingirl?
I went to Droopy and Browns - don't know if they did dress hire - perhaps. Very old fashioned clothes - I loved it. Sadly no longer trading
Gardening on the edge of Exmoor, in Devon
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
@raisingirl, I don't recall that name, sorry. The shop I hired my dress from was just up from the Forum but have no idea what it was called either. (Senior moment here!)The staff were lovely and very patient.
Hope Debs64 and her daughter get her dress sorted.
We had a couple of minor 'issues' with our wedding. Two of my wife-to-be's cousins had got totally bladdered at her sister's wedding and actually smashed a couple of tables. This was at the afternoon reception, not a long evening do. She wanted to invite them but I refused, saying if they were there I wouldn't be. I won that round. The evening 'do' was supposed to be for our friends, not parents and other oldies. Her parents insisted on attending and bringing the mother's brothers. These brothers were the fathers of the cousins who had wrecked the previous reception. I gave in on that but, as I paid for the disco, told the DJ that he was not to play any requests for 'old stuff' from her parents or their retinue. Call that one a score draw.
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Still together after more than 50 years altho I wouldn't say that had anything to do with the actual Wedding Day.
It really is a case of each to their own tho and if someone wishes to expend on a single day, it surely is their own business. A cheap wedding day is no more or less likely to lead to a happy and long lasting relationship than an extravagent one.
Just hope the dress problem is resolved in time and that @debs64 's daughter has a lovely day
Having said all that, I hope Debs and her daughter don’t allow this dress business to spoil the day.
I can still recall the look of horror on the faces of the very nice ladies in the lovely dress shop I went to in Bath to buy my wedding outfit. "when are you getting married?" "Saturday" "THIS Saturday? Like, three days' time Saturday?" "yes, that's right. Do you have a hat to match this one?"
My aunt told me, slightly shocked, that when Mum and Dad got married, they went back to Granny's house after the ceremony, Mum took her hat off and said 'anyone for a cuppa?' and put the kettle on.
Each to their own
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
[ piney is pineapple = chapel, in case anyone's wondering. Is that just a Scottish thing or do other parts of the country use it? ]
I didn't let it become stressful, and I can honestly say I had a great day, but we did have one guest that I'd happily have thrown out if I'd witnessed her behaviour. Not a relative, but a girlfriend of one of hubby's mates. Total a*****le.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
2nd time round, 29 years later, I hired one, a shorter length, cocktail style, off the shoulder jobbie. I loved it, I wonder if it was from the same shop @raisingirl?
My mum had been insistent that I wore a suit as she thought it more seemly for a 2nd marriage but as I spent my working days in a suit, there was no way I wanted to and as my hubbie was then a bachelor, I thought he deserved 'the works'.
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
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Hope Debs64 and her daughter get her dress sorted.
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