It’s very discouraging that a female police officer in power is clearly an idiot. “Flag down a bus!!!!”
Cressida Dick isn't exactly famous for helpful comments. On BBC Breakfast they interviewed the female former Chief Constable of one Midland force and she was scathing about the advice. As she said, in many areas buses are few and far between, even in cities and London buses won't stop anywhere except the designated stops.
Having been in an abusive relationship in the past, I had been beaten down mentally as well as physically for so long that is been convinced that was all I was worth or deserved. The rare times I asked for help I'd been guilted into forgiving him by the time help came. The emotional abuse keeps you in that situation. Luckily I snapped one day and walked out and never looked back. It makes me smile when I occasionally see the pathetic person, out of work, useless and unhappy. It's not that the women don't want help, it's the consequences of asking for it.
Charlotte F, absolutely. My first husband was a physcopath. I understood he went to Public school, turned out it was a borstal institution for trying to kill his father. He used to spike my drinks (I leave the rest to your imagination) he put pillow over my face.(the choking thing) I grabbed our baby daughter and ran to the nearest police station. This is 1970,no such thing as rape in marriage and they weren't interested in "domestics". They visited him,I spent a time in a woman's refuge. Course he wasn't going to do it again!! My youngest son said why did I marry him,well I got pregnant,and he was charming,and very sensitive. He didn't actually tell me about trying to kill his father.
Some women don't help their cause though. Many years ago i was walking home in the early hours. I came across a man pinning a woman to a wall by her neck and punching her full in the face with the other hand. I was on the opposite side of the road and shouted at him to stop what he was doing. He asked if i wanted some of it, so i said yeah, you t****r, or words to that effect. I ended up on top of him punching his lights out, when i felt a pain in my head. The woman was whacking me with her shoe and shouting at me to 'leave her man alone'. I walked away and left them to it.
Hmmm. Just a thought, but if she had not 'stood up for him', is it possible that the humiliation of having a taste of his own medicine would just have meant a worse beating for her next time? Abuse in relationships is such an incredibly complex beast I wouldn't presume to judge a woman in that position.
I think it depends on your generation as to how in touch with the norm we are. My husband is 52 but due to working in IT, he works with lots of younger people. They live their lives through a screen and there seems to be a trend of more extreme content. I went cold when he came home and told me that a large portion of young women expected to have their airways restricted during sex! So much so it's now a defense in court. I'm so glad I don't have children! You may not see how this is related but it shows how certain things have been normalised that never should be.
This is horrifying to me. But it goes back to my earlier post about television series and dramas. A couple of years ago I started to watch ' The Fall' as it had such good reviews. I couldn't watch another episode and wished I hadnt seen the first. I know it's fiction, but I just don't understand why people see it as entertaining to see a man slowly choke a woman to death. Now, as @WonkyWomble points out, it seems to be almost acceptable to some younger people that this is what you do, but obviously not with murder in mind.
How can some women say all the things they are saying about assault, rape and murder, then rave about the latest drama based on assault, rape and murder?
Will they remember this young woman's real life ordeal if they watch the repeats? Her parents and family won't be tuning in and will forever have to be very careful when just turning on the television.
Mine is just one of millions of experiences the world over as Nanny can testify to but thank you. 😊 we need to take more care about how we educate our children. With all parents working every hour just to afford for their family to exist. The job of parenting is being left to social media and the Internet. We need to value the role of a parent and give them the time and resources to do a good job of it.
@Woodgreen agreed, I can't watch anything like that. It's not entertainment is it? Awareness raising is one thing but some shows feel more like fetishisation.
If, and maybe not all women agree with this, it is not all men that are the problem, surely the only way we are going to progress, is through involving more men in finding solutions to the problem.
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But it goes back to my earlier post about television series and dramas.
A couple of years ago I started to watch ' The Fall' as it had such good reviews. I couldn't watch another episode and wished I hadnt seen the first. I know it's fiction, but I just don't understand why people see it as entertaining to see a man slowly choke a woman to death. Now, as @WonkyWomble points out, it seems to be almost acceptable to some younger people that this is what you do, but obviously not with murder in mind.
How can some women say all the things they are saying about assault, rape and murder, then rave about the latest drama based on assault, rape and murder?
Will they remember this young woman's real life ordeal if they watch the repeats? Her parents and family won't be tuning in and will forever have to be very careful when just turning on the television.
When you don't even know who's in the team
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