There's a thing called body dysmorphia @B3 which stops people seeing how fat or slim they are so people who are overweight don't always know they are sufficiently fat to be obese.Â
I am not sure about BMI, if you are a size 10 or 12 or even 14 I don’t see that as overweight. Many of us carry more weight as we get older and as long as you are healthy I don’t see it as a cause for concern. Most people definitely don’t want or need to be told they are overweight and I would never ever say that to anyone.Â
We all have a very subjective view of ourselves that isn't necessarily shared by the rest of the world. It is very difficult to persuade someone who has a 'belief' about themselves, that they're the only ones who see themselves that way. So someone who is overweight, could be still seeing themselves as thin, no matter how many times they're told they may be overweight. We all recognise that the other way round in anorexics.
It's a difficult one to recognise the difference between a person then who may have a weight problem (either way) and is aware of it themselves and the person who has a similar problem but doesn't see it. Would I tell/talk to someone I cared about about what I saw as an issue? I hope so. I suppose it all comes down to HOW you broach the subject doesn't it? I'm not sure ignoring it is the right way at all.
Drs were told not to use the "f," it offends people  It has been confirmed,you cannot be fit and fat  When I was 7.5st in my 20s,we had communal changing rooms at the hospital,lots of people would turn up their nose and tell me how thin I was
 No one would dare tell someone they're fat. I know if I go over desired weight of I can't get into my trousers.my hubbies brother,5.7ins, almost 30st by 40 could only get upstairs on all 4s,said he was happy with his weight, comfortable in his skin. Wore M & SXXXL, obviously diabetic,a blood pressure I had rarely even seen on a stroke Unit. Guess what,in his 50s,had gastric bypass. Got the tape measure out,am 36 (bras 34DD) 30 38.Said brother in law,told me when we were on holiday I had a huge fat a*** and t***were like acorns.
We haven't spoken to any of hubbies relatives for nearly 13 years now. We lived 10 miles from Gatwick used to collect and deliver them,put them up overnight, giving up our bedrooms,and he did frequent 100 mile round trip to do their cars, getting parts at cost, paying no labour,not even the fuel. It was something he'd always done. Wasn't my place to say anything. One day he saw the light. They expected me to leave a hospital night shift and collect them from the airport,and he told his brother,you bring your car to me. Twice he failed to bother to either turn up or say he wasn't coming. Eventually,(wedding related) straw did break camel's back.
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 It has been confirmed,you cannot be fit and fat
 When I was 7.5st in my 20s,we had communal changing rooms at the hospital,lots of people would turn up their nose and tell me how thin I was
If they were my relations, I wouldn't have anything to do with them, and I'd tell them why.Â
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...