Brilliant news @D0rdogne_Damsel (well not about the chairs or steam rollers - but you know what I mean 🤣).
@punkdoc what you are feeling is completely natural.  I lost my mum 11 years ago.  I comfort myself that I miss her because she was the best Mum ever.  If she hadn’t been I wouldn’t be quite so upset that she’s gone.  But I’d never swap.  I think the Queen summed it up perfectly..... grief is the price we pay for love 😘
@D0rdogne_Damsel Thanks for popping in and letting us know you're still 'waving, not drowning' despite life's little difficulties. 😉 It's times like today that bond a team together ... sounds like you and your staff have great times ahead of you 🥂 🎂
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
You'll never forget your re-opening DD! Onwards and upwards! P.S Those cakes look scrumptious.
My Mum died 13 years ago this May, we were very close and it took me a good five years or so before I could think about her calmly before breaking down. My father who I adored had died many years ago and the recollections are gentler now. They are both still very much missed. It seems very odd to me that I am now the matriarch of the family, just like she had been as the eldest of six. I don't feel old enough!
Thoughts with you, punkdoc. Reading the experiences of others posting on here, sounds like many of us have gone through the same, with similar emotions.  Lost my mum ten years ago, she was 92. If I read something interesting, or see something amusing, I still find myself thinking, I must tell mum about that. She would have loved to have seen the pictures from Chateau de Gateaux!Â
My thoughts are with you @punkdoc I know just how you feel. A time to reflect and come to terms with your loss. Over the years I have loved looking over old photos of my parents and reflecting on those occasions. Dad had a cine camera and we had the films put onto dvds for the family to enjoy - lovely memories.
Hugs to you @punkdoc . My Mother died in 1992 and I still miss her. My sister died in 1984 and I miss her too. "Work" called earlier. They're letting me have tomorrow and next Thursday off as unpaid leave whilst they consider my "flexible working request" Hopefully this is the start of my one day working week.
Hugs from me too @punkdoc. My Mum died in April 2012, she had been in a care home for 2 years since she broke her hip about a year after my father died. She was 87. I still miss her. The first year I kept picking up the phone for a chat then realising she wasn't there. It was hard being in France when she was in England but I was there the week she died and for her funeral and I used to go to England regularly to see her and stayed in her house. I was so glad she met 2nd OH, they got on really well.
I enjoyed lunch with my friends and showing them my new house and garden. The tiles still haven't arrived.
Thanks for letting us know how you are getting on @D0rdogne_Damsel. It will be a memorable topic of conversation in years to come!
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
@Busy-Lizzie, our news is saying that the French government will permit travel to non EU countries with low rates of infection very soon - announcement to be made on Friday as to whether UK will be one of them. Glad you enjoyed lunch with your friends, pity about the tiles, you must be wanting to get the project finished by now. Talking about projects, I gently reminded my landscaper chappie that I was still waiting for a new path to be laid and he is hopefully starting next week. So I had to dash out and finish scooping up all the old bark mulch which I've dumped on the borders - can't waste it! The carpet man also came with the quotes (gulp!) and samples so we're trying to decide which one to go for. There's an awful lot of grey ones which we don't want but obviously still very fashionable. My hip x-rays are back so I'm actually seeing my GP face to face tomorrow to discuss the results. OH and I are joking that we could be in adjoining beds having replacements done at the same time.
My mum was killed in a RTA a few weeks before Princess Diana. In addition to the absolute shock, we had to endure the national outpouring. It was inescapable and quite suffocating as we couldn't grieve how and when we wanted to. You couldn't turn on the TV or radio, without being bombarded. Everybody was talking about it whilst we just wanted to mourn our own 'Queen of Hearts'. We then had to sit through a quite farcical trial, where the individual responsible for my mother's death (as well as an older gentleman driving another vehicle) was treated more like a victim. 20+ years on, I still struggle at times. I probably should've had some form of counselling as there is still a lot of residual anger. I occasionally start crying whilst driving, if a song that was being played a lot in 1997 plays on the radio. Anyway, this is starting to feel like therapy so I'll shut up.
My advice is to approach the upcoming days/months/years with the attitude that you mourn how and when you choose to. If you're struggling, talk to someone. Whether that be a professional, relative, friend or stranger. Sometimes we all just need to unload and share. As the last couple of pages on this thread have demonstrated!
@D0rdogne_Damsel   Thank you for taking the time to post the update and photos.  Glad everything went well.  Strong winds here which would have been worse than a wet day for you.
Have a pleasant supper/dinner/tea everyone. Â We say "souper" here which I guess is supper as the main meal is lunch, but it can turn out to be another main meal!! (in the evening).
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@punkdoc what you are feeling is completely natural.  I lost my mum 11 years ago.  I comfort myself that I miss her because she was the best Mum ever.  If she hadn’t been I wouldn’t be quite so upset that she’s gone.  But I’d never swap.  I think the Queen summed it up perfectly..... grief is the price we pay for love 😘
It's times like today that bond a team together ... sounds like you and your staff have great times ahead of you 🥂 🎂
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
My Mum died 13 years ago this May, we were very close and it took me a good five years or so before I could think about her calmly before breaking down. My father who I adored had died many years ago and the recollections are gentler now. They are both still very much missed. It seems very odd to me that I am now the matriarch of the family, just like she had been as the eldest of six. I don't feel old enough!
She would have loved to have seen the pictures from Chateau de Gateaux!Â
My Mother died in 1992 and I still miss her. My sister died in 1984 and I miss her too.
"Work" called earlier.Â
They're letting me have tomorrow and next Thursday off as unpaid leave whilst they consider my "flexible working request"Â
Hopefully this is the start of my one day working week.
My Mum died in April 2012, she had been in a care home for 2 years since she broke her hip about a year after my father died. She was 87. I still miss her. The first year I kept picking up the phone for a chat then realising she wasn't there. It was hard being in France when she was in England but I was there the week she died and for her funeral and I used to go to England regularly to see her and stayed in her house. I was so glad she met 2nd OH, they got on really well.
I enjoyed lunch with my friends and showing them my new house and garden. The tiles still haven't arrived.
Thanks for letting us know how you are getting on @D0rdogne_Damsel. It will be a memorable topic of conversation in years to come!
Glad you enjoyed lunch with your friends, pity about the tiles, you must be wanting to get the project finished by now.
Talking about projects, I gently reminded my landscaper chappie that I was still waiting for a new path to be laid and he is hopefully starting next week. So I had to dash out and finish scooping up all the old bark mulch which I've dumped on the borders - can't waste it!
The carpet man also came with the quotes (gulp!) and samples so we're trying to decide which one to go for. There's an awful lot of grey ones which we don't want but obviously still very fashionable.
My hip x-rays are back so I'm actually seeing my GP face to face tomorrow to discuss the results. OH and I are joking that we could be in adjoining beds having replacements done at the same time.
My advice is to approach the upcoming days/months/years with the attitude that you mourn how and when you choose to. If you're struggling, talk to someone. Whether that be a professional, relative, friend or stranger. Sometimes we all just need to unload and share. As the last couple of pages on this thread have demonstrated!
Have a pleasant supper/dinner/tea everyone. Â
We say "souper" here which I guess is supper as the main meal is lunch, but it can turn out to be another main meal!! (in the evening).
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