Me and OH have had lots of practice in avoiding each other Her first job took her to London while I stayed in Glasgow for 2 years. A few years later when we had just moved out of London and bought a house she got posted to Brussels for 3 years. Maybe she was trying to tell me something!
We both served on various international committees so there was always one of us away for a couple of days at a time so we were used to it. I retired 7 years before she did so got used to solitude. The transition from spending all day talking to people to sometimes not speaking to anyone for several days on the trot was interesting.
That's what I found odd when I became a housewife following our move to Belgium for OH's job.Ā Before then I'd had work to keep me busy while he was away and vice versa.Ā I became a "joiner" of clubs to meet people and share common interests till I made my own new friends and life, especialy after we bought a house in the middle of fields, 30 mile ssouth of Brussels.Ā Ā By then I'd started volunteering and became "productive" again.Ā
Nothing wrong with being alone, just have to find ways to manage it well so yu're not lonely and time on your own becomes a recharging of batteries rather than a void to be filled.
I was away a lot, when I worked, so I now know how Moira felt, especially on some of my more exciting trips! I think my problem at the moment, is that for the last 18 months whilst Moira was out of work, we had got into a routine that has now been disrupted. We are probably going to get a dog, but I want Moira to be around when we do, because she grew up with dogs and I didn't, so I want her to be here to train it. I think everything feels a bit worse because of my illness and just being a little scared what my happen to me if I deteriorate suddenly, but deep down I know I will cope. Thanks for all your helpful comments, this thread is a real help, when you are feeling a bit mardy.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
If you deteriorate suddenly let us know ... weāll summon help somehow šĀ it must be a bit like I feel sometimes ... scared of walking out even to the compost heap when OH isnāt here in case my knee gives way again ... I try to make sure my phones in my back pocket. šĀ
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Just came back from doing a Wārose Shop .... a trolley full all rung up at the checkout and I realised Iād left my handbag and purse at home. The staff held onto the loaded trolley while I dashed home, got them, parked and went back to pay for them.
When I got back to the car and loaded it all into the boot there was a big Saab parked at an angle close up to the driverās side of my car ... there was no way I stood a chance of squeezing into my car ... even using my stick to help me hop sideways it just wasnāt going to happen ... a member of Waitrose staff who was collecting trolleys saw my predicament and took the Saabās reg number and made an announcement over their tannoy.
Eventually a lady about my age with a stick because of her gammy knee arrived to move her car ... she said sheād had to park close to my car so that she could open her door wide to get out because of her knee.
Ā I explained iād parked where there were no other cars so that I had plenty of space ... and then sheād parked up tight to my car Ā š Ā
You couldnāt make it up could you ...
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Maybe time to get a disabled badge @Dovefromabove.Ā Big wide spaces as long as some numpty doesn't pinch one illegally.Ā Another trick is to reverse in so the driver's door is next to the other car's driver's door too.Ā That way both of you have more space for getting in an out.Ā Parking spaces in French car parks were clearly measured when everyone drove teeny 2CVs and haven't evolved for wider cars and bigger doors.......and bad drivers.
OH is back from his golf practice and says it went fine.Ā Good.Ā meanwhile, we have to expect about a month's delay before we get dosh from the insurance and have started looking at what's available.Ā Not a lot.Ā Ā Happy to downsize from a Zafia now there's just 2 of us most of the time but still need a high back so Bonzo is comfy on top of a suitcase if we go away anywhere and then there's my clematis and trees habit to accommodate.Ā
Opel seem to have ditched the Meriva.Ā OH fanies buying French as they're cheaper but all their models are old technology now.Ā Ā We also need an automatic cos of my lumbar slipped discs - can't always drive a clutch pedal.Ā Want an ecology minded engine too..........
I hate buying new cars.Ā Any petrol heads out there who can make sensible suggestions?
Oh no @Obelixx ... I used to support folk with disabilities to make applications for Disabled Badges .... I'm not anywhere near eligible ... not in a month of Sundays ... it was purely a case of selfish parking on the Saab driver's part ... the comments made by other folkĀ confirmed that ... the Waitrose member of staff said by his reckoning the gap between the cars was about 30cm!!!
My son and his colleague had occasion to hire a Citroen Cactus Hybrid for a long drive the other day ... he's a real petrolhead and was highly impressed with it ... the design and comfort ... they're both big chaps with 'backs' from lots of lifting over the years ... and he said the economy coupled with performance was astounding.Ā
Thought I would cheer myself up a bit, so as the weather had brightened up a bit, I went to play with my new garden tool, a Hori-Hori knife. Very good indeed, like a sharp bladed narrow trowel, with one serrated edge, for cutting small roots. It was much easier to plant in the woodland with it, than my other tools.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Ooh, hori-hori knife! don't normally come in here but the search found this thread. My other half has ordered one for me as a birthday prezzie. He's got a thing for all things Japanese and thought it was a good idea.
Doncaster, South Yorkshire. Soil type: sandy, well-drained
Now @punkdoc,Ā that sounds as if itās just what I need for planting foxgloves up on the Shady Bank šŖĀ
Son just phoned ... dry as a bone in Suffolk ... coming down like stair rods up here in Norfolk. Ā Heās just lost an old friend, colleague and former schoolmateĀ
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Nothing wrong with being alone, just have to find ways to manage it well so yu're not lonely and time on your own becomes a recharging of batteries rather than a void to be filled.
I think my problem at the moment, is that for the last 18 months whilst Moira was out of work, we had got into a routine that has now been disrupted.
We are probably going to get a dog, but I want Moira to be around when we do, because she grew up with dogs and I didn't, so I want her to be here to train it.
I think everything feels a bit worse because of my illness and just being a little scared what my happen to me if I deteriorate suddenly, but deep down I know I will cope.
Thanks for all your helpful comments, this thread is a real help, when you are feeling a bit mardy.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
it must be a bit like I feel sometimes ... scared of walking out even to the compost heap when OH isnāt here in case my knee gives way again ... I try to make sure my phones in my back pocket. šĀ
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
When I got back to the car and loaded it all into the boot there was a big Saab parked at an angle close up to the driverās side of my car ... there was no way I stood a chance of squeezing into my car ... even using my stick to help me hop sideways it just wasnāt going to happen ... a member of Waitrose staff who was collecting trolleys saw my predicament and took the Saabās reg number and made an announcement
over their tannoy.
Eventually a lady about my age with a stick because of her gammy knee arrived to move her car ... she said sheād had to park close to my car so that she could open her door wide to get out because of her knee.
Ā I explained iād parked where there were no other cars so that I had plenty of space ... and then sheād parked up tight to my car Ā š Ā
You couldnāt make it up could you ...
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
OH is back from his golf practice and says it went fine.Ā Good.Ā meanwhile, we have to expect about a month's delay before we get dosh from the insurance and have started looking at what's available.Ā Not a lot.Ā Ā Happy to downsize from a Zafia now there's just 2 of us most of the time but still need a high back so Bonzo is comfy on top of a suitcase if we go away anywhere and then there's my clematis and trees habit to accommodate.Ā
Opel seem to have ditched the Meriva.Ā OH fanies buying French as they're cheaper but all their models are old technology now.Ā Ā We also need an automatic cos of my lumbar slipped discs - can't always drive a clutch pedal.Ā Want an ecology minded engine too..........
I hate buying new cars.Ā Any petrol heads out there who can make sensible suggestions?
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Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Son just phoned ... dry as a bone in Suffolk ... coming down like stair rods up here in Norfolk. Ā Heās just lost an old friend, colleague and former schoolmateĀ
https://www.eadt.co.uk/news/mat-bayfield-releases-single-to-raise-cash-for-the-brain-tumour-charity-1-5447267Ā šĀ
he was one of the Broadside Boys
and they were becoming successful nationwide before his illness ... a lovely chapĀ
https://thebroadsideboys.bandcamp.com/album/plenty-more-fish-in-the-sea
RIP Mat š¤Ā
Gardening in Central NorfolkĀ on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.