Good work! You sound much more positive about what steps to take. If you can't get a wooden fence in maybe a metal one would be easier as the posts are a lot thinner. If he knows exactly where both your gardens finish he is less likely to trespass. Something like this would be ideal https://images.app.goo.gl/yjXER9ALw1M3aUoJ6
I think in your situation I'd cut back or even remove a few trees to make space for a fence (after the police have been and seen the evidence of course) then plant something tall but airy within your garden to break up your view of the houses at the back, as suggested further up the thread. But each to their own, ultimately it's your choice.
Doncaster, South Yorkshire. Soil type: sandy, well-drained
I agree too - a fence with something on the inside, as @JennyJ describes, is probably the best way to go. Rope in those pals with uniforms too As @Hostafan1 says - being pro active is the best solution. Sometimes the thought of doing something is far worse, and more daunting, than the actual procedure. Fear of the unknown etc. If you can stamp your authority a bit now, it'll pay dividends.
If he thinks you won't do anything to stop him, he'll keep pushing his luck. These kinds of people are very adept at knowing how far they can go too. He'll be perfectly aware of your vulnerability just now [especially with the baby ] by the way you are when he's had any interaction with you.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
I agree with @Fairygirl ... being pro-active is the best way forward ... you’ll feel more in control ... and keep remembering, it is your garden, you are not being unreasonable ... he is the one doing that.
To use modern parlance, he is ‘gaslighting’ you; making you feel guilty for objecting to his actions.
Seek advice from your colleagues.
I don’t see this as a boundary dispute ... the boundary is not in question ... he has acknowledged that they are your trees.
This is about his unreasonable behaviour.
And good luck with the baby ... it’s a lovely time, don’t let this spoil it for you. 🤗 You have ‘gardening friends’ here rooting for you.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
I agree with @Fairygirl ... being pro-active is the best way forward ... you’ll feel more in control ... and keep remembering, it is your garden, you are not being unreasonable ... he is the one doing that.
To use modern parlance, he is ‘gaslighting’ you; making you feel guilty for objecting to his actions.
Seek advice from your colleagues or send a solicitor’s letter.
I don’t see this as a boundary dispute ... the boundary is not in question ... he has acknowledged that they are your trees.
You could erect a chainlink fence on your side of the boundary or something similar, cheap and letting light to the trees but blocking his access. This way, he will be only limited to where he can reach from his side.
Aw thanks so much everyone. I've phoned the police even just for advice if nothing else and they're to phone back. I had a look at a chain fence and it seems like a good idea. I'll just have to get someone to erect it. It used to be a neighbourhood watch area but that stopped quite a few years ago unfortunately. Ill try and find out if there's support somewhere, its difficult to find. Thanks for the ideas and support everyone.
Do you have a Community Midwife ... she/he may be tapped into a support network in your area that can help with more than just baby issues. A healthy baby needs a happy mum. 🤗
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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If you can't get a wooden fence in maybe a metal one would be easier as the posts are a lot thinner. If he knows exactly where both your gardens finish he is less likely to trespass.
Something like this would be ideal
https://images.app.goo.gl/yjXER9ALw1M3aUoJ6
Rope in those pals with uniforms too
As @Hostafan1 says - being pro active is the best solution. Sometimes the thought of doing something is far worse, and more daunting, than the actual procedure. Fear of the unknown etc. If you can stamp your authority a bit now, it'll pay dividends.
If he thinks you won't do anything to stop him, he'll keep pushing his luck. These kinds of people are very adept at knowing how far they can go too. He'll be perfectly aware of your vulnerability just now [especially with the baby ] by the way you are when he's had any interaction with you.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.