OH half and I always say just throw us on the compost when the day comes. I think though I'm going to make arrangements for mine so my son doesn't have to worry about it. I think I would like to be buried in the same churchyard as mum and dad. On top of a hill overlooking a valley and lovely bluebell wood. The times I ran up and down that hill there when I was little. And the catkins and snowdrops never fail to show in the hedgerows.
No offspring to attend to us so solicitor will arrange a bonfire for me if I'm the last, OH wants a Woodland funeral but won't get one if he goes first unless he sorts it out beforehand ( I've told him he will be on the bonfire) if he goes last the solicitor will do the Woodland thing.
Haven't made plans about music (keep changing my mind) will do at some point no prayers wanted, just a good celebration afterwards, drinks will be on me
We had fields behind our house when I was growing up. Dad used to say put me in a banana box and throw me over the fence. As he got older he told us that if we spent more than the absolute minimum on his funereal he would come back and haunt us.
My friend's mum was buried and she feels really guilty if she hasn't time to go and tend the grave, she goes every holiday, anniversary, birthday etc.
I on the other hand think about Dad most days and don't feel the need to visit a special place to do it. I think that's why I don't want any sort of commemorative plaque etc. I also have a morbid fear of being buried alive so that's why no grave.
For what my opinion is worth, I'm very atheist and when my parents were cremated (both died a few years ago), they were cremated and merely scattered in the garden of remembrance by the crematorium staff. I like the idea that their ashes were put round the same roses a few years apart and maybe some of their molecules were bound together inside those plants.
I lived in several hundred miles away from them and had no desire or inclination to have a grave to visit or to tend. Plus, it would have felt a bit hypocritical.
Hiya Steve and welcome back. You've been missed by many.
I mentioned on a thread, another one I think that OH was left money by an old lady he once worked for years ago, anyway. Her " congregation" contacted the solicitor and told them they expected a headstone on her grave. She's been in a care home for 15 years and not one person from the " congregation" ever visited her. They leave absolutely no family behind : who exactly is going to visit / tend this grave? Nobody.
The solicitor has had to hold back £10,000 to cover the cost. !!!!! 10 THOUSAND POUNDS???????.
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OH half and I always say just throw us on the compost when the day comes. I think though I'm going to make arrangements for mine so my son doesn't have to worry about it. I think I would like to be buried in the same churchyard as mum and dad. On top of a hill overlooking a valley and lovely bluebell wood. The times I ran up and down that hill there when I was little. And the catkins and snowdrops never fail to show in the hedgerows.
No offspring to attend to us so solicitor will arrange a bonfire for me if I'm the last, OH wants a Woodland funeral but won't get one if he goes first unless he sorts it out beforehand ( I've told him he will be on the bonfire) if he goes last the solicitor will do the Woodland thing.
Haven't made plans about music (keep changing my mind) will do at some point no prayers wanted, just a good celebration afterwards, drinks will be on me
We had fields behind our house when I was growing up. Dad used to say put me in a banana box and throw me over the fence. As he got older he told us that if we spent more than the absolute minimum on his funereal he would come back and haunt us.
My friend's mum was buried and she feels really guilty if she hasn't time to go and tend the grave, she goes every holiday, anniversary, birthday etc.
I on the other hand think about Dad most days and don't feel the need to visit a special place to do it. I think that's why I don't want any sort of commemorative plaque etc. I also have a morbid fear of being buried alive so that's why no grave.
Yvie, snap. about buried alive. Too many Edgar Allen Poe films watched here
For what my opinion is worth, I'm very atheist and when my parents were cremated (both died a few years ago), they were cremated and merely scattered in the garden of remembrance by the crematorium staff. I like the idea that their ashes were put round the same roses a few years apart and maybe some of their molecules were bound together inside those plants.
I lived in several hundred miles away from them and had no desire or inclination to have a grave to visit or to tend. Plus, it would have felt a bit hypocritical.
Hiya Steve and welcome back. You've been missed by many.
I mentioned on a thread, another one I think that OH was left money by an old lady he once worked for years ago, anyway. Her " congregation" contacted the solicitor and told them they expected a headstone on her grave. She's been in a care home for 15 years and not one person from the " congregation" ever visited her. They leave absolutely no family behind : who exactly is going to visit / tend this grave? Nobody.
The solicitor has had to hold back £10,000 to cover the cost. !!!!! 10 THOUSAND POUNDS???????.
I'm sure the stone mason will be thrilled .
For £10k, I'd expect a huge...
Oh, you get the idea.
(Sorry to be irreverant!)
Steve I'm with you. For 10K I'm sure he'd ( well WE'D) do something more worthwhile than a lump of stone in a graveyard .