Lyn, whenever I read your posts on other threads, I have often wondered about your situation at home and hoped it had been sorted as you stopped mentioning it on here. Sadly, that is far from the truth and I hope your 'heavy load' is soon reduced and you get the type of assistance you need.
I did spend many years as a social services home care manager and am appalled at how little care in the community there is available now. Every government, conveniently for them, now ignores the plight of carers.
Thanks Billie, I try to keep some sanity and normality each day and sometimes just dont want to talk about it.
I could manage better but mum wont let me wash her or roll her to change the sheet on my own, she lets me do all the medical stuff, painkillers, and emptying waste, thats all I need the help for. I can feed her, she doesnt eat, just those food drinks, that takes about 15 minutes to get down, but time is what I have plenty of.
Cooking an extra meal for dad is no trouble and he takes care of himself, his breakfast and his lunch.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
The district nurse is coming again in the morning but to be honest, I am not sure she will last much longer, we have had a terrible couple of hours, I am exhausted, not as much as she must be though.
I have given here a dose of morphine and she is very calm now, hopefully will stay like that all night.
I have bought a baby alarm so I can hear every breath, its like having a new baby again.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
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Lyn, whenever I read your posts on other threads, I have often wondered about your situation at home and hoped it had been sorted as you stopped mentioning it on here. Sadly, that is far from the truth and I hope your 'heavy load' is soon reduced and you get the type of assistance you need.
I did spend many years as a social services home care manager and am appalled at how little care in the community there is available now. Every government, conveniently for them, now ignores the plight of carers.
You are a very brave and tolerant lady
Thanks Billie, I try to keep some sanity and normality each day and sometimes just dont want to talk about it.
I could manage better but mum wont let me wash her or roll her to change the sheet on my own, she lets me do all the medical stuff, painkillers, and emptying waste, thats all I need the help for. I can feed her, she doesnt eat, just those food drinks, that takes about 15 minutes to get down, but time is what I have plenty of.
Cooking an extra meal for dad is no trouble and he takes care of himself, his breakfast and his lunch.
((HUGS)) ((HUGS)) ((HUGS)) XX
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Lyn, I know this sounds crazy but how about trying your local councillor?
also, have your tried the geriatric social worker?
it is dreadful how we still have to stamp,scream and yell, but we do!
dont give up
Good luck
A A Milne
Lily, everyone is geriatric around here!!
The district nurse is coming again in the morning but to be honest, I am not sure she will last much longer, we have had a terrible couple of hours, I am exhausted, not as much as she must be though.
I have given here a dose of morphine and she is very calm now, hopefully will stay like that all night.
I have bought a baby alarm so I can hear every breath, its like having a new baby again.
What a daughter you are
i hope you have a peaceful night,
sending love and light xxxxx
A A Milne
Lyn, I thought as you hadn't posted things had got better. I'm appalled. I wish I lived near you and could help. You are a wonderful, brave daughter.
She's incredible isn't she, what parent could ask for more from their daughter?
Hugs and peaceful nights Lyn.
Lyn thinking about you today x
Hugs to all who no longer have their mother and find this day especially sad.