Claire, not "met you " before so don't know what has happened in your family but send best wishes and I'm sure you'll find support on this thread.
Fishy glad to hear that MrsF is home, even if in discomfort, no place like home x
Lyn imagine you are still "shellshocked" about diagnosis love to you.
I watched a prog' last night where Ian Botham aired his views about his father and his last days in a home having dementia, an "empty shell" my ar*e !! I was so angry and upset about his cowards way out about not visiting I didn't sleep well and cried in the night. Don't wish dementia on anyone but let's hope if he develops it his kids decide to visit him and make sure he is cared for and offer him some love and kind words even if he no longer recognises them.
Runny glad it just wasn't me. I thought after 10 yrs I'd moved on but I felt so angry. Was even worse because it followed the news about lack of care in NH /EMI units that had already got me going.
p.s on a lighter note the refuse collectors have missed Mum's re-cycling bin again, so another phone call made, and one due tomoz' since the coporate complaint I put in that would be addressed in 20 days ( in writing) has now got to 31 days Not life threating but so blinking annoying.
Hi Claire, hope you make amends with your sister, hugs for you too.
Glad I didn't see Botham last night, what a #**$***#. Thats so sad. Hope his children don't think the same and at see their Grandpa.
My friend came out of hospital yesterday afternoon, still really poorly but better than she was. Still in great pain with shingles. But operation seems to have gone ok. Hope this is the start of a full recovery.
Botham's father is deceased, he was speaking after a length of time and I thought it wrong to encourage people to not visit loved ones with dementia. I don't see it as not being able to cope, I think it's a case of not wanting to even try. Yes it can be very distressing but it doesn't kill you, and it's unfair to other family members that one opts out and leaves the responsibility to others. Never ceased to amaze me at the number of friends / family that would attend a funeral but the carer was lonely as people didn't visit when the person with dementia was living at home. Rant over
Verdun I'm sure you'll make the right decision for your Mum, you know her best. If the sad times comes that she doesn't know who you actually are she will still feel that the person with her is someone who she feels safe and reassured by. Hugs.
I saw the Botham thing, and it made me very sad. I am afraid I was a bit like that when my Dad became demented.
After he died I bitterly regretted my inability to visit him, especially when talking to people at the funeral, with them saying that he did have occasional lucid moments.
Perhaps that is why I am so determined to help my Mum as much as possible.
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Claire, not "met you " before so don't know what has happened in your family but send best wishes and I'm sure you'll find support on this thread.
Fishy glad to hear that MrsF is home, even if in discomfort, no place like home x
Lyn imagine you are still "shellshocked" about diagnosis love to you.
I watched a prog' last night where Ian Botham aired his views about his father and his last days in a home having dementia, an "empty shell" my ar*e !! I was so angry and upset about his cowards way out about not visiting I didn't sleep well and cried in the night.
Don't wish dementia on anyone but let's hope if he develops it his kids decide to visit him and make sure he is cared for and offer him some love and kind words even if he no longer recognises them. 
Runny glad it just wasn't me. I thought after 10 yrs I'd moved on but I felt so angry. Was even worse because it followed the news about lack of care in NH /EMI units that had already got me going.
p.s on a lighter note the refuse collectors have missed Mum's re-cycling bin again, so another phone call made, and one due tomoz' since the coporate complaint I put in that would be addressed in 20 days ( in writing) has now got to 31 days
Not life threating but so blinking annoying.
Best wishes and hugs Lyn thinking of you.
Hi Claire, hope you make amends with your sister, hugs for you too.
Glad I didn't see Botham last night, what a #**$***#. Thats so sad. Hope his children don't think the same and at see their Grandpa.
My friend came out of hospital yesterday afternoon, still really poorly but better than she was. Still in great pain with shingles. But operation seems to have gone ok. Hope this is the start of a full recovery.
((hugs)) for everyone who needs them this evening ...
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Glad Mrs Fishy is home. Hugs for both of you.
Thinking about you and your Mum and Dad Lyn xx
Hope your friend is soon pain free lily - she deserves to be after all that she's been through. Is her daughter coping OK?
Claire, I don't know what has happened but life is too short to hold grudges whatever side they're on. Write letters.
Verdun, I know what you mean re Botham - some people really just aren't able to cope with the emotional turmoil
Thinking of you and your Mum ((hugs))
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Botham's father is deceased, he was speaking after a length of time and I thought it wrong to encourage people to not visit loved ones with dementia. I don't see it as not being able to cope, I think it's a case of not wanting to even try. Yes it can be very distressing but it doesn't kill you, and it's unfair to other family members that one opts out and leaves the responsibility to others. Never ceased to amaze me at the number of friends / family that would attend a funeral but the carer was lonely as people didn't visit when the person with dementia was living at home. Rant over
Verdun I'm sure you'll make the right decision for your Mum, you know her best. If the sad times comes that she doesn't know who you actually are she will still feel that the person with her is someone who she feels safe and reassured by. Hugs.
I saw the Botham thing, and it made me very sad. I am afraid I was a bit like that when my Dad became demented.
After he died I bitterly regretted my inability to visit him, especially when talking to people at the funeral, with them saying that he did have occasional lucid moments.
Perhaps that is why I am so determined to help my Mum as much as possible.
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Some of us are good at some bits of life - some of us are better at other bits - we're all victims of dementia in one way or another
((hugs)) to everyone who's affected.
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