Lyn I'm glad to see that everything is at last beginning to get together as a full time carer myself I know just how lonely and abandoned you can feel at times, now as others have said you need to try and get as much rest as you can.
If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.
Lyn, I think it would be a good idea for the Marie Curie nurse to come tonight, whether you can cope or not. Then they will get to know your Mum and the situation, also it would have given you a break. They may not ask so often if you refuse.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
You cant request the Lizzie, not just when you want them. They tell you when there is one free.
I can cope with the nights, As lot of you know, I dont sleep much anyway, all I need is one person to help me wash and cream her and change a little inco sheet.
Never mind, heard on the news today that although they cant pay for anymore carers or nursing staff, the NHS want to give obese people free flu jabs. That will be a good thing, they will have more money to spend on takeaways and junkfood.
Rant over, I'll get my coat.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
No need for your coat Lyn, we all know you are going through a tough time.
Things get magnified and we realise how unfair and silly the world around us is when we are under this kind of stress.
My son is having a bad time at the moment, his Grandad has been diagnosed with terminal liver cancer. It is on my ex-partner's side of the family so I'm not all that close to it, though I always liked his Grandad. My son is only 17 and has never really had to cope with something like this. He's up and down, one minute fine, next minute angry at the world, next minute quiet and withdrawn. I think people can understand that you want let off steam.
My thoughts are with you and I admire you for coping so well in what must seem at times an impossible situation.
Feeling very annoyed the problems Lyn and others are having with loved ones.maybe it's a good idea for the MC nurse's to come whenever they can .for one thing they will see how much you need help Lyn .And maybe come more often.
. But also this narks me somat awful , we give to these charities expecting it to go to all those that need help.then we experience the other side and find no help is there.
This is nothing compared to a lot of others ,but my mum of 83 has an appointment at the hospital , they have cancelled it a few times .we now have one at short notice for next week. My Husband cannot take her as he is needed elsewhere, so they say they can provide transport but only for her .I have to get a taxi and meet her there.it's usually a taxi that comes for my mum , it's just that because it's been paid for I am not allowed to go in the same one .!
Last time they said I. Wasn't allowed to go with her in the same taxi I thought it was picking others up .but no just my mum ............
This is nothing compared to a lot of others ,but my mum of 83 has an appointment at the hospital , they have cancelled it a few times .we now have one at short notice for next week. My Husband cannot take her as he is needed elsewhere, so they say they can provide transport but only for her .I have to get a taxi and meet her there.it's usually a taxi that comes for my mum , it's just that because it's been paid for I am not allowed to go in the same one .!
Last time they said I. Wasn't allowed to go with her in the same taxi I thought it was picking others up .but no just my mum ............
Granma - when you contact the hospital transport people tell them that the letter from the hospital says that your Mum must be accompanied. If that doesn't work then contact the Consultant's secretary who sent the appointment letter and explain the problem. I used to get this problem when working with people with severe disabilities - the transport department are given targets and have to stick by them - often the consultants don't know that they have to stipulate to the transport lot that the patient needs an escort.
Good luck
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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Lynn ((hugs)) hope you've had a restful night - thinking of you
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Lyn I'm glad to see that everything is at last beginning to get together as a full time carer myself I know just how lonely and abandoned you can feel at times, now as others have said you need to try and get as much rest as you can.
Lyn, I think it would be a good idea for the Marie Curie nurse to come tonight, whether you can cope or not. Then they will get to know your Mum and the situation, also it would have given you a break. They may not ask so often if you refuse.
You cant request the Lizzie, not just when you want them. They tell you when there is one free.
I can cope with the nights, As lot of you know, I dont sleep much anyway, all I need is one person to help me wash and cream her and change a little inco sheet.
Never mind, heard on the news today that although they cant pay for anymore carers or nursing staff, the NHS want to give obese people free flu jabs. That will be a good thing, they will have more money to spend on takeaways and junkfood.
Rant over, I'll get my coat.
No need for your coat Lyn, we all know you are going through a tough time.
Things get magnified and we realise how unfair and silly the world around us is when we are under this kind of stress.
My son is having a bad time at the moment, his Grandad has been diagnosed with terminal liver cancer. It is on my ex-partner's side of the family so I'm not all that close to it, though I always liked his Grandad. My son is only 17 and has never really had to cope with something like this. He's up and down, one minute fine, next minute angry at the world, next minute quiet and withdrawn. I think people can understand that you want let off steam.
My thoughts are with you and I admire you for coping so well in what must seem at times an impossible situation.
My son is similar to yours, he wants a text every morning on update, daughter is very practical and seems to be coping well.
Feeling very annoyed the problems Lyn and others are having with loved ones.maybe it's a good idea for the MC nurse's to come whenever they can .for one thing they will see how much you need help Lyn .And maybe come more often.
. But also this narks me somat awful , we give to these charities expecting it to go to all those that need help.then we experience the other side and find no help is there.
This is nothing compared to a lot of others ,but my mum of 83 has an appointment at the hospital , they have cancelled it a few times .we now have one at short notice for next week. My Husband cannot take her as he is needed elsewhere, so they say they can provide transport but only for her .I have to get a taxi and meet her there.it's usually a taxi that comes for my mum , it's just that because it's been paid for I am not allowed to go in the same one .!
Last time they said I. Wasn't allowed to go with her in the same taxi I thought it was picking others up .but no just my mum ............
Forgot to say , in the appointment letter they advise for someone to come with her!
Granma - when you contact the hospital transport people tell them that the letter from the hospital says that your Mum must be accompanied. If that doesn't work then contact the Consultant's secretary who sent the appointment letter and explain the problem. I used to get this problem when working with people with severe disabilities - the transport department are given targets and have to stick by them - often the consultants don't know that they have to stipulate to the transport lot that the patient needs an escort.
Good luck
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.