I thought it was just my family that were dreadful at these times. First time I heard from my brother in 20 years apart from occasional drunken calls at Christmas, was when he phoned to ask if mum's house had been sold.
He didn't attend the funeral. We all knew we had been left equal shares of the house between 4 of us and he wanted his share in the bank ASAP. Mum always adored him and never got over him leaving home. You wouldn't think anyone could be so heartless.
Glad I have my real family of my own, brother and two sisters can 'stew in their own juices' as my mum would have put it.
As they say you can choose your friends...........families can be weird at times.
As Gemma says.......glad I've got my own little family, wouldn't be without my OH sons and dils. But was very close to my dear mum and dad too. Bless them.
Sorry for your loss Fidget. I am really rubbish at times like these as I never know what to say but my thoughts are with you and your family.
My siblings were useless when my dad was Ill with cancer. When he died they didnt even make it to the hospital and my brother only lived 20 minutes away. I was the only one with my dad when he died. I have never forgiven them. I dare say it will be the same when mum's time comes.
Still no decision about what to do about her foot. They are worried if they carry out the amputation it wont heal. I can't see what else they can do.
Hugs Verdun, Lynn and Matty. (Hope I haven't missed anyone).
Also, Verdun's Mum's GP should be aware that she's not eating properly - , The Lovely Home weigh Pa regularly and at the slightest concern they ring the surgery and he has Fortisip-like meal supplements - on prescription I'm pretty sure - we've never been asked to pay anything.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
They also do food supplements that are savoury for those who don't have a sweet tooth, also on prescription.
Yvie hugs to you and mum, what an awful thing to face
As for families I think that there are ones that do and ones that take in most but not all families. It is hard for elderly parents to accept the obvious failings in their children feeling almost as if it is their fault for the way some of them behave thankfully the parent doesn't see some of the behaviour after a death.
Re her glasses - you have to keep asking staff to make sure she always has her glasses with her. If she hasn't its the Home's fault and they must sort things out. Either this gentleman needs better supervision, or the Home is not able to meet his needs and it's another phone call to Social Services I'm afraid.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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I thought it was just my family that were dreadful at these times. First time I heard from my brother in 20 years apart from occasional drunken calls at Christmas, was when he phoned to ask if mum's house had been sold.
He didn't attend the funeral. We all knew we had been left equal shares of the house between 4 of us and he wanted his share in the bank ASAP. Mum always adored him and never got over him leaving home. You wouldn't think anyone could be so heartless.
Glad I have my real family of my own, brother and two sisters can 'stew in their own juices' as my mum would have put it.
Hugs to everyone......we all need one sometimes x
As they say you can choose your friends...........families can be weird at times.
As Gemma says.......glad I've got my own little family, wouldn't be without my OH sons and dils. But was very close to my dear mum and dad too. Bless them.
Sorry for your loss Fidget. I am really rubbish at times like these as I never know what to say but my thoughts are with you and your family.
My siblings were useless when my dad was Ill with cancer. When he died they didnt even make it to the hospital and my brother only lived 20 minutes away. I was the only one with my dad when he died. I have never forgiven them. I dare say it will be the same when mum's time comes.
Still no decision about what to do about her foot. They are worried if they carry out the amputation it wont heal. I can't see what else they can do.
Hugs Verdun, Lynn and Matty. (Hope I haven't missed anyone).
Verdun..supplements
Fortijuice. Fruit juice style
Fortisip yoghourt drink type
Forticreme like pots of custard.
Fortisip compact protein if she is not getting enough protein.
Also, Verdun's Mum's GP should be aware that she's not eating properly - , The Lovely Home weigh Pa regularly and at the slightest concern they ring the surgery and he has Fortisip-like meal supplements - on prescription I'm pretty sure - we've never been asked to pay anything.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
They also do food supplements that are savoury for those who don't have a sweet tooth, also on prescription.
Yvie hugs to you and mum, what an awful thing to face
As for families I think that there are ones that do and ones that take in most but not all families. It is hard for elderly parents to accept the obvious failings in their children feeling almost as if it is their fault for the way some of them behave
thankfully the parent doesn't see some of the behaviour after a death.
Verdun - so glad she's happier today.
Re her glasses - you have to keep asking staff to make sure she always has her glasses with her. If she hasn't its the Home's fault and they must sort things out. Either this gentleman needs better supervision, or the Home is not able to meet his needs and it's another phone call to Social Services I'm afraid.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Where your parents are concerned you have to be 1RB1. You know them better than anyone else does.
We all know the old saying...
Wheres theres a will,,,
theres a dutiful daughter.
Just a joke, I would rather not get my inheritance and have my folks with me forever.