Edd, a lot of breast lumps are harmless and a lot of women with harmful lumps are cured. Your wife will need you, try to keep strong for her. It must be so frustrating to have to wait for a diagnosis. Don't run, do cry, cling to your wife and child and show them you love them.
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It's lucky my Hubby used to climb, so I do know what you mean, Edd.
I really think talking it out of your system is a good way to help whether here on line or with your wife, depending on whether you both want one or the other. She might prefer to not talk about it yet. You just have to play it by ear, as they say. We lost our eldest daughter to cancer 6 years ago, and I'm still punishing myself for not making a bigger effort to talk to her. Chin up. Be aware of what you both want.
Please try not to worry, I know its easy to say but it happened to me when I was 30. I found a lump, went to very bad doctor that was so awful I fainted with fear! Went to hospital for biopsy, inconclusive... Waited , another further biopsy, waited again, then got the no probs diagnosis I just have a lumpy boob! I worried like hell, but the doctors at the hospital were wonderful!
My recommendation is to keep yourself occupied with lots of pleasurable things to do while you wait for good news! I went to see Prince in concert two times at the O2 while I waited! Best wishes and your welcome to share your concerns with us
Hi Edd ((hugs)) we went through it with poor Wonky - it was hellish for us -heaven knows how her poor OH felt - all we could do was repeat trite sayings to try to reassure her and ourselves while we waited. As she says, keeping busy helps - and trying not to let your brain 'go off on one' - focus on the now, not the what might happen.
When Wonky was a child she was very ill - tests were being done for something very serious - I was beside myself with anxiety and my brain just ran away with itself - before I knew what I was doing I'd got as far as planning her funeral in my head - I was a wreck.
In all my worrying about the future I'd lost track of what Wonky needed now - my anxiety had taken over and taken my focus away from her. I had to haul myself back into the present and give her the attention she needed, rather than worry about what might happen in the future
Thankfully the tests came back and she didn't have what we'd feared - yes she was ill but it wasn't what we'd dreaded, and she made a full recovery ... I'd learnt an important lesson - deal with what is, not what might be.
Take it one day at a time my friend - that's enough for any one.
And you will be able to cope, you really will ((hugs))
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I'm sorry to hear what you and OH are going through Edd and hope you can take some comfort and strength from what has been said. There is little else I can add except to stay positive and know that we are all here with you. ((Hugs))
Sending my best wishes and hugs to you both, keep strong for each other. Hubs has been going through worrying times for a couple of years now......so my heart really goes out to you.
I have also had the same thing happenen to me, twice now, and the worst part is the waiting for apps. and test results, thankfully all were benign......stay positive and remember we are all here to share your hopes, fears and venting! xxx
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Now you're sounding like your old self, Edd. Keep it up. Let the anger/confusion reign.
We all need you to keep us on our toes.
Edd, a lot of breast lumps are harmless and a lot of women with harmful lumps are cured. Your wife will need you, try to keep strong for her. It must be so frustrating to have to wait for a diagnosis. Don't run, do cry, cling to your wife and child and show them you love them.
It's lucky my Hubby used to climb, so I do know what you mean, Edd.
I really think talking it out of your system is a good way to help whether here on line or with your wife, depending on whether you both want one or the other. She might prefer to not talk about it yet. You just have to play it by ear, as they say. We lost our eldest daughter to cancer 6 years ago, and I'm still punishing myself for not making a bigger effort to talk to her. Chin up. Be aware of what you both want.
Hi Edd, my best wishes to you and your OH,
Please try not to worry, I know its easy to say but it happened to me when I was 30. I found a lump, went to very bad doctor that was so awful I fainted with fear! Went to hospital for biopsy, inconclusive... Waited , another further biopsy, waited again, then got the no probs diagnosis
I just have a lumpy boob! I worried like hell, but the doctors at the hospital were wonderful!
My recommendation is to keep yourself occupied with lots of pleasurable things to do while you wait for good news! I went to see Prince in concert two times at the O2 while I waited! Best wishes and your welcome to share your concerns with us
Hi Edd ((hugs)) we went through it with poor Wonky - it was hellish for us -heaven knows how her poor OH felt - all we could do was repeat trite sayings to try to reassure her and ourselves while we waited. As she says, keeping busy helps - and trying not to let your brain 'go off on one' - focus on the now, not the what might happen.
When Wonky was a child she was very ill - tests were being done for something very serious - I was beside myself with anxiety and my brain just ran away with itself - before I knew what I was doing I'd got as far as planning her funeral in my head - I was a wreck.
In all my worrying about the future I'd lost track of what Wonky needed now - my anxiety had taken over and taken my focus away from her. I had to haul myself back into the present and give her the attention she needed, rather than worry about what might happen in the future
Thankfully the tests came back and she didn't have what we'd feared - yes she was ill but it wasn't what we'd dreaded, and she made a full recovery ... I'd learnt an important lesson - deal with what is, not what might be.
Take it one day at a time my friend - that's enough for any one.
And you will be able to cope, you really will ((hugs))
We're here
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
I'm sorry to hear what you and OH are going through Edd and hope you can take some comfort and strength from what has been said. There is little else I can add except to stay positive and know that we are all here with you. ((Hugs))
I'm sending you my best wishes and some strength Edd
Sending my best wishes and hugs to you both, keep strong for each other. Hubs has been going through worrying times for a couple of years now......so my heart really goes out to you.
I have also had the same thing happenen to me, twice now, and the worst part is the waiting for apps. and test results, thankfully all were benign......stay positive and remember we are all here to share your hopes, fears and venting! xxx