Verdun ((hugs)) glad no issues revealed at xray - and glad you're happier with the care she's getting. My guess is that the staff are also happier with the change of management and are getting more job satisfaction too.
Sometimes we do have to chivvy friends, family and others about visits - don't know whether it's out of sight, out of mind, or whether there's a real diffidence about what they're going to find and how they're going to relate to the person in a different environment. Usually they continue once the effort has been made and it's been positive on both sides.
I'm finding that my parents can't cope with much more than one half hour visit twice a week, or three times at the most.
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I'm so sad and upset for so many, life is so unkind to people who do not deserve it
Only practical idea I have and it might be naff is Lyn I wonder if you could use a plastic shower curtain as a slide sheet for your mum. I cut one up and used it to protect my car seat and to swivel dad around so I could get his feet out of my car
Both my parents and in-laws have gone and although we miss them very much so glad we haven't had to see them suffer like so many with a slow and painful deterioration.
Very best wishes to everyone suffering, patients and carers.
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Its been too long since I commented here, though I have been reading. I'm very lucky in the fact my Dad is still independent but know that can be fragile as his September hospital stay proved.
May I extend my sympathy and understanding to everyone here who is struggling with family illness and other such worries. My heart goes out to you all.
Matty - my fingers will be kept crossed for you, rest assured.
Lyn - would a hoist help with getting mum out of bed (or lifting her away from the bed while you change it)? An OT assessment might identify this as equipment which would allow you to continue to look after her without the need for additional carers visiting - and would enable you to do so without the risk of damaging your back.
It is a good idea to ask Social Services if such an assessment can be done but it is also a good idea to have an idea of what equipment you might find useful so you can suggest it (and also remind them that the loan of a hoist is cheaper than paying for carers - especially in a rural location)
Best wishes to you and all the rest of you struggling to cope with the demands of caring - it's hard work and emotionally very, very draining. My thoughts are with you.
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fOh! I put it wrong this morning, mum is able to get out of bed on her own, she just didnt want too, I could tell from first thing that she was niggly, just wanted to lay in. She did get up eventually and after I help her change clothes and empty her catheter she made her way to the sitting room. She can walk about, just wont and that is why her lungs are so conjested. I feel she could move about much more than she does, some days she doesnt want to co operate. Today was one of those days, she has hardly drunk any water and when I went in to help her change and get into bed, I just looked at her water bottle and shrugged!
I suppose she must be feeling bad, she knows what is going to happen, just doesnt know when.
Tomorrow will be fine, today was awful, I was on the go all day, two loads of washing, hung on airers. Morrisons, because I forget to order on Tesco delivery, and in an out too mum, I finally sat down for the first time at 3,45. By then it was time to get the dinner ready,
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Fingers crossed for you Matty, hope it's the more minor op. Hugs ((( )))
Matty - my fingers and toes are very very crossed for you ((hugs))
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Verdun ((hugs)) glad no issues revealed at xray - and glad you're happier with the care she's getting. My guess is that the staff are also happier with the change of management and are getting more job satisfaction too.
Sometimes we do have to chivvy friends, family and others about visits - don't know whether it's out of sight, out of mind, or whether there's a real diffidence about what they're going to find and how they're going to relate to the person in a different environment. Usually they continue once the effort has been made and it's been positive on both sides.
I'm finding that my parents can't cope with much more than one half hour visit twice a week, or three times at the most.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Best wishes and hugs to Verdun, Matty and fidget and all who need a hug xx
So much has happened since I last looked here.
I'm so sad and upset for so many, life is so unkind to people who do not deserve it
Only practical idea I have and it might be naff is Lyn I wonder if you could use a plastic shower curtain as a slide sheet for your mum. I cut one up and used it to protect my car seat and to swivel dad around so I could get his feet out of my car
My thoughts are with each and everyone of you x
Mine too, so difficult for so many.
Both my parents and in-laws have gone and although we miss them very much so glad we haven't had to see them suffer like so many with a slow and painful deterioration.
Very best wishes to everyone suffering, patients and carers.
Its been too long since I commented here, though I have been reading. I'm very lucky in the fact my Dad is still independent but know that can be fragile as his September hospital stay proved.
May I extend my sympathy and understanding to everyone here who is struggling with family illness and other such worries. My heart goes out to you all.
Matty - my fingers will be kept crossed for you, rest assured.
Lyn - would a hoist help with getting mum out of bed (or lifting her away from the bed while you change it)? An OT assessment might identify this as equipment which would allow you to continue to look after her without the need for additional carers visiting - and would enable you to do so without the risk of damaging your back.
It is a good idea to ask Social Services if such an assessment can be done but it is also a good idea to have an idea of what equipment you might find useful so you can suggest it (and also remind them that the loan of a hoist is cheaper than paying for carers - especially in a rural location)
Best wishes to you and all the rest of you struggling to cope with the demands of caring - it's hard work and emotionally very, very draining. My thoughts are with you.
fOh! I put it wrong this morning, mum is able to get out of bed on her own, she just didnt want too, I could tell from first thing that she was niggly, just wanted to lay in. She did get up eventually and after I help her change clothes and empty her catheter she made her way to the sitting room. She can walk about, just wont and that is why her lungs are so conjested. I feel she could move about much more than she does, some days she doesnt want to co operate. Today was one of those days, she has hardly drunk any water and when I went in to help her change and get into bed, I just looked at her water bottle and shrugged!
I suppose she must be feeling bad, she knows what is going to happen, just doesnt know when.
Tomorrow will be fine, today was awful, I was on the go all day, two loads of washing, hung on airers. Morrisons, because I forget to order on Tesco delivery, and in an out too mum, I finally sat down for the first time at 3,45. By then it was time to get the dinner ready,