........ Some one sent me a little card that said:
The Good Lord doesnt send anthing that he thinks you cant handle' or words to that effect,
I wonder if he can come and get my mum out of the bed so I can wash the sheets befoore I go shopping, cos I cant!. Sorry if I offend anyone xx
Oh Lyn ((many hugs)) - that makes me so angry - Ma has said it all her life, and it's the reason she didn't see the need to get her hips done!!! Now she's virtually immobile, in horrendous pain and doped up to the eyeballs on painkillers which are affecting her brain function (amongs other things) ... I am so so angry when I think about it ... and so so sad xx
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Lyn, on a practical note - have you had an OT home assessment lately - there are all sorts of ways of solving the bedding problem (well, making it easier anyway), slide sheets etc.
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Dove, when I asked the Disrict nurse if they supplied ...what we used to call 'draw(er)sheets' she said we are lucky to get a nurse call these days, most of their info is relayed over the phone, she said they talk us through it!
Like yours, my mum has always put of minor ops until they become major ones, its infuriating but I am learning that its no good wasting energy on what might have been. She is an adult, so must make her own decisions, which is ok until something happens then she panics and goes to pieces!
It seems we are all thinking the same about our loved ones and its comforting to know that.
I have learned, just lately that it is their life so why should we take it upon ourselves?
But of course we do, because we love them.
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But the problem is that they've got to the stage where their lives impact on ours.
I think we're the first generation where there are a huge number of OAPs caring for their elderly parents!!!
What the heck do the government think is going to happen when the pension age goes up to 67 and we're all still working in order to fund our own retirement? They cannot continue to cut public services - although I've just listened to one of them saying that they can
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Instead of retiring in two years time, and doing part time work to top up my pension, I can get my small private pension at 60, but have to live off savings until I am 67.
If its any help Lyn, when my Mum became hard to handle, and in lifting her OH's back became very bad we had a social service assessment - not to do with nurses. Have you had one/ Within a few days we had a commode (oh goodness it made life easier) someone to come and help get her out of bed and to wash and dress her. Also on their remit was to change the sheets.It wasn't much but oh boy did it relieve the pressure because in that time they were with her I had a short space of time to revitalise (walk round garden, have a luxury bath etc) Did have to pay somethinhg (she was assessed) but it was worth it.
Any way my thoughts are much with all those caring for the really elderly. Fidget and don't know how to help you but remember you are in our thoughts..
As to me - after more biopsy's I go and find out what's to be done tomorrow. All of you fingers crossed please that it is the more minor op.
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So sorry to hear that Verdun, the problem is that when they are not active the lungs get full and congested. Where we can clear anything, they cant.
My mum has had penacillin but although the pain has gone she is coughing up allsorts, she thinks thats good because she is shifting it, as she says!
I suppose your mum will have to be taken by ambulance to the hospital for that?
Some one sent me a little card that said:
The Good Lord doesnt send anthing that he thinks you cant handle' or words to that effect,
I wonder if he can come and get my mum out of the bed so I can wash the sheets befoore I go shopping, cos I cant!.
Sorry if I offend anyone xx
Oh Lyn ((many hugs)) - that makes me so angry - Ma has said it all her life, and it's the reason she didn't see the need to get her hips done!!!
Now she's virtually immobile, in horrendous pain and doped up to the eyeballs on painkillers which are affecting her brain function (amongs other things) ... I am so so angry when I think about it ... and so so sad 
xx
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Lyn, on a practical note - have you had an OT home assessment lately - there are all sorts of ways of solving the bedding problem (well, making it easier anyway), slide sheets etc.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Dove, when I asked the Disrict nurse if they supplied ...what we used to call 'draw(er)sheets' she said we are lucky to get a nurse call these days, most of their info is relayed over the phone, she said they talk us through it!
Like yours, my mum has always put of minor ops until they become major ones, its infuriating but I am learning that its no good wasting energy on what might have been. She is an adult, so must make her own decisions, which is ok until something happens then she panics and goes to pieces!
It seems we are all thinking the same about our loved ones and its comforting to know that.
I have learned, just lately that it is their life so why should we take it upon ourselves?
But of course we do, because we love them.
But the problem is that they've got to the stage where their lives impact on ours.
I think we're the first generation where there are a huge number of OAPs caring for their elderly parents!!!
What the heck do the government think is going to happen when the pension age goes up to 67 and we're all still working in order to fund our own retirement? They cannot continue to cut public services - although I've just listened to one of them saying that they can
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
My pension age has gone up to 67.
Instead of retiring in two years time, and doing part time work to top up my pension, I can get my small private pension at 60, but have to live off savings until I am 67.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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If its any help Lyn, when my Mum became hard to handle, and in lifting her OH's back became very bad we had a social service assessment - not to do with nurses. Have you had one/ Within a few days we had a commode (oh goodness it made life easier) someone to come and help get her out of bed and to wash and dress her. Also on their remit was to change the sheets.It wasn't much but oh boy did it relieve the pressure because in that time they were with her I had a short space of time to revitalise (walk round garden, have a luxury bath etc) Did have to pay somethinhg (she was assessed) but it was worth it.
Any way my thoughts are much with all those caring for the really elderly. Fidget and don't know how to help you but remember you are in our thoughts..
As to me - after more biopsy's I go and find out what's to be done tomorrow. All of you fingers crossed please that it is the more minor op.
Every carer, whether or not you're in the same house as the person you care for, is entitled to a Carer's Assessment
http://www.nhs.uk/CarersDirect/guide/assessments/Pages/Carersassessments.aspx
and
http://www.carersuk.org/help-and-advice/practical-support/getting-care-and-support/carers-assessment
this will look at the practical support you need to enable you to care for your loved one and should ensure that you get the help you are entitled to.
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