Not quite the all clear hoped for lily but it is on the positive side. Fingers crossed and thinking of you, your friend and her daughter.
Verdun you must speak up if your Mum is not getting the care she deserves but try to do it tactfully if you possibly can. I'm not quite sure what I would do in your situation. I'd hope to be calm - but probably not. Find the right people to talk to.
Hoping Lyn and her Mum are OK.
On a slightly lighter note we have finally got through to my Mum that some help is needed in the house. She has agreed to have someone to do some housework every other week. I tend not to say much as my Dad reads the forums sometimes and I don't want him to think I'm worried
Verdun, make sure your mum is drinking. It is so easy to get dehydrated in hospital,if no one keeps putting a drink in front of her. Dehydration will make any confusion worse. My dad was really confused in hospital but is a lot better now we more or less force a glass of fluid down him every hour..
My mother in law was given three months to live. She had dementia, a urine infection, and assaulted two ambulancemen, a nurse and a doctor on her way in to the hospital. A team of carers was put in place, she came home, and with careful feeding and making sure she drank, she improved a great deal and lived another five years.
I haven't looked here for ages, what a moving thread this is. It's hard when parents get old, scares me that one day I'll be old, wonder what my children will put up with.
Went to a friend's husband's funeral on Monday and going to another friend's husband's funeral tomorrow.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
a friends family; gladys in her 90's, lise in her 70's, carol in her 50's and her son in his 20's about to be married. gladys sister died at 101 while shoveling snow, so its entirely possible there will soon be 5 generations alive at the same time and that is amazing. who said that you know you're getting old when the only parties you go to are funerals?
My mum is back in hospital, had doc in and he called paramedics, one of them said she was terribly dehydrated, which of course I knew, then he said it was down to me, I just blew, we had such a row, then he was not very kind to her getting her in the ambulance and she was scared, so I warned him that if he upset her there would be trouble.
The other one tried to over compensate by being extra nice and said it wasnt my fault, and he understood what old people are like.
If she doesnt tell me anything, how can I do anything for her.
She told the paras she hadnt had a wee since Monday and had not passed anything through the Stoma for a week, she told me everything was working fin
e, I ask her every morning. She just wont drink, which is essencial for the Stoma, now she will have drip fluids, catheter and flush out.They said this would take two days, poor old dad is worried sick, bless him.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
Lyn - none of this is down to you - ignore the thoughtless comments. Fingers crossed your Mum improves soon. Difficult times.
My heart goes out to all those with worries about friends and parents - being there for them is so important .... Friendship and Families - what life's about really.
Lyn, my dad is the same, things have to get really bad before he will say. If we ask himif hes had a drink, he goes nag,nag,nag. He will blatantly lie to get back home. All sweetness and light with the nurses and cantankerous with the family. Selective deafness as regards not being allowed to drive, my brother has had to remove the car keys. The trouble is my mum does her best to cope but she is 81. Sometimes i think it would be easier to train a labrador.
Hugs Lyn. You can only do your best which I know you do. You can't make your parents do anything they don't want to which is when it is really hard. Thinking of you and hope your Mum recovers soon.
Don't blame yourself Lyn, you really can't do anymore than you already are. It so difficult looking after a loved one. Take care of yourself too. My very best wishes to you and your family xx
Best wishes to all with poorly relatives and friends. xx
Hugs to you too Busy Liz, such a sad week for you xx
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Not quite the all clear hoped for lily but it is on the positive side. Fingers crossed and thinking of you, your friend and her daughter.
Verdun you must speak up if your Mum is not getting the care she deserves but try to do it tactfully if you possibly can. I'm not quite sure what I would do in your situation. I'd hope to be calm - but probably not. Find the right people to talk to.
Hoping Lyn and her Mum are OK.
On a slightly lighter note we have finally got through to my Mum that some help is needed in the house. She has agreed to have someone to do some housework every other week. I tend not to say much as my Dad reads the forums sometimes and I don't want him to think I'm worried
I hope your parents are both better soon, lyn.
Verdun, make sure your mum is drinking. It is so easy to get dehydrated in hospital,if no one keeps putting a drink in front of her. Dehydration will make any confusion worse. My dad was really confused in hospital but is a lot better now we more or less force a glass of fluid down him every hour..
My mother in law was given three months to live. She had dementia, a urine infection, and assaulted two ambulancemen, a nurse and a doctor on her way in to the hospital. A team of carers was put in place, she came home, and with careful feeding and making sure she drank, she improved a great deal and lived another five years.
I haven't looked here for ages, what a moving thread this is. It's hard when parents get old, scares me that one day I'll be old, wonder what my children will put up with.
Went to a friend's husband's funeral on Monday and going to another friend's husband's funeral tomorrow.
a friends family; gladys in her 90's, lise in her 70's, carol in her 50's and her son in his 20's about to be married. gladys sister died at 101 while shoveling snow, so its entirely possible there will soon be 5 generations alive at the same time and that is amazing. who said that you know you're getting old when the only parties you go to are funerals?
My mum is back in hospital, had doc in and he called paramedics, one of them said she was terribly dehydrated, which of course I knew, then he said it was down to me, I just blew, we had such a row, then he was not very kind to her getting her in the ambulance and she was scared, so I warned him that if he upset her there would be trouble.
The other one tried to over compensate by being extra nice and said it wasnt my fault, and he understood what old people are like.
If she doesnt tell me anything, how can I do anything for her.
She told the paras she hadnt had a wee since Monday and had not passed anything through the Stoma for a week, she told me everything was working fin
e, I ask her every morning. She just wont drink, which is essencial for the Stoma, now she will have drip fluids, catheter and flush out.They said this would take two days, poor old dad is worried sick, bless him.
Lyn - none of this is down to you - ignore the thoughtless comments. Fingers crossed your Mum improves soon. Difficult times.
My heart goes out to all those with worries about friends and parents - being there for them is so important .... Friendship and Families - what life's about really.
Lyn, my dad is the same, things have to get really bad before he will say. If we ask himif hes had a drink, he goes nag,nag,nag. He will blatantly lie to get back home. All sweetness and light with the nurses and cantankerous with the family. Selective deafness as regards not being allowed to drive, my brother has had to remove the car keys. The trouble is my mum does her best to cope but she is 81. Sometimes i think it would be easier to train a labrador.
Hugs Lyn. You can only do your best which I know you do. You can't make your parents do anything they don't want to which is when it is really hard. Thinking of you and hope your Mum recovers soon.
Don't blame yourself Lyn, you really can't do anymore than you already are. It so difficult looking after a loved one. Take care of yourself too. My very best wishes to you and your family xx
Best wishes to all with poorly relatives and friends. xx
Hugs to you too Busy Liz, such a sad week for you xx