@punkdoc ... trying to put it behind you is one thing ... here's how to actually do it ... get a box (shoebox/tupperware/biscuit tin/whatever) ... put the Expert's Report in the box ... take the box where no one can hear you and say absolutely everything you've ever wanted to say to ex NDN, call him every name under the sun ... but don't make threats to do anything ... just swear at him into the box until you run out of steam ... then put the lid on and tape it shut ... use loads of tape, string, even a chain and padlock ... (if you use a chain and padlock lock it up and throw away the key ) .... then dig a hole ... quite deep ... and bury it ... and plant something beautiful on top. It will all be over. 👍
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Me too. I try not to do it actively though. If I ever see my particular target again I will remember that I loathe her with a fury, but she's not ever in my mind (unless someone mentions obnoxious people that we know). I don't spend my time thinking of ways to get back at her. Perhaps chance will present an opportunity someday, but no matter - I'm not looking for that (or her). Karma will get her - probably does. Every day she must be surrounded by angry, unhappy people - she makes them that way. She can't get much joy out of life.
Gardening on the edge of Exmoor, in Devon
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
Brilliant, both of you, so much good advice. Now to sort Moira out, she actually did all the work, making a spreadsheet of all the gas bills, from different companies over time. Plus she has watched over the years as I got angrier at the behaviour.
At the end of the day, he has gone, all the new neighbours seem pleasant enough, so that will have to be enough.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Thank goodness for our nice neighbours, even though one of them, sweet elderly lady, cultivates bindweed and ground elder. I expect she likes the flowers but I wish they wouldn't wander into our garden!
Our dinner party last night went very well. The other 2 couples know each other and get on well but hadn't seen each other for a while, so lots of chat. Food went down well. The Mary Berry dessert, which looked so pretty in her book, was rather messy looking but tasted good.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
Lovely irises @D0rdogne_Damsel. I too dug mine up, split them and replanted a couple of years ago and there are lots of buds on them. But guarding them jealously as they were against the fence that blew over in the gales. It is next door's fence and being replaced as I type so hopefully the builder (someone I know - he did our bathroom so I know he does not possess finesse) will not damage any of them.
So glad you were able to enjoy such a lovely intimate time with your husband today @Hostafan1. I find I do enjoy it when one's other half is clean.
Probably the right decision @punkdoc. Learning how to let go is not easy - it took me around a year to stop resenting my old cunning boss after he made me the fall guy for his failures and he got the department I headed closed down - but it has to be done. What's that saying? Holding resentment is like eating poison in the hope the other person will die. Something like that. I took satisfaction from knowing I was right and he was wrong and in fact feel nothing at all for him now.
But there is something enjoyable about feeling that righteous anger we all feel when we encounter injustice. I'm hoping it will play out big time in the next elections and we can get our sweet revenge.
Word of the day from Dove! I haven’t heard that for ages, then twice this week! That’s often the way isn’t it?
Battling with a Montana atm. Decided to swap that out with a Clematis Guersey Cream so I have that Summer-flowing one in the relaxing area by the pond. The Montana has been re-potted and has a new home by the back gate. Ideally it would go in the ground, but no spot suitable.
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When you don't even know who's in the team
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Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
Now to sort Moira out, she actually did all the work, making a spreadsheet of all the gas bills, from different companies over time. Plus she has watched over the years as I got angrier at the behaviour.
At the end of the day, he has gone, all the new neighbours seem pleasant enough, so that will have to be enough.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
she can also be awarded an Honorary Forkers' ⭐ and 😇
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Thank goodness for our nice neighbours, even though one of them, sweet elderly lady, cultivates bindweed and ground elder. I expect she likes the flowers but I wish they wouldn't wander into our garden!
Our dinner party last night went very well. The other 2 couples know each other and get on well but hadn't seen each other for a while, so lots of chat. Food went down well. The Mary Berry dessert, which looked so pretty in her book, was rather messy looking but tasted good.
So glad you were able to enjoy such a lovely intimate time with your husband today @Hostafan1. I find I do enjoy it when one's other half is clean.
Probably the right decision @punkdoc. Learning how to let go is not easy - it took me around a year to stop resenting my old cunning boss after he made me the fall guy for his failures and he got the department I headed closed down - but it has to be done. What's that saying? Holding resentment is like eating poison in the hope the other person will die. Something like that. I took satisfaction from knowing I was right and he was wrong and in fact feel nothing at all for him now.
But there is something enjoyable about feeling that righteous anger we all feel when we encounter injustice. I'm hoping it will play out big time in the next elections and we can get our sweet revenge.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.