I think that's why losing a partner is so destroying. The only way I could explain it to the counsellor was 'three worlds' - past, present and future. When you meet your future partner you immediately start to forge your shared memories. At the same time they are your present - you confide your immediate concerns, hopes, worries in them, thereby creating new memories - and they are your future - you see your life together. You know your kids/parents/siblings aren't your future - they have their own lives and memories to forge of which you are a smaller part. When you lose a parent or a sibling, you lose part of that - part of the past and some of the present. When you lose a partner there's a void that is the past, present and future. The memories are no longer validated and morph without constraint.You're no longer building memories in the present to share and the future just becomes a black hole.
That sounds morbid and dramatic - not meant to be - just my interpretation of why losing a partner appears to hit harder than losing other people close to you in your life.
And the photos then semi validate those past memories - you don't doubt them as you have the proof that at least 'something' happened - even if you can't quite always remember all the details!
I agree with you steveTu plus you can't say 'do you remember when' anymore and I think that's why photographs are so precious didyw.
Agree entirely. Worries me a bit though that in the modern world our photos, not just the memories, are ephemeral. We rely totally on the storage media and the viewing technology, and dare I say electricity. Digital photography has made things much easier in many respects but like @Fire I sort of yearn for a return to those days of shooting on film and the hard product, be it prints or slides, that are forever in your possession (even if you can't quite remember where you put them!).
Clay soil - Cheshire/Derbyshire border. I play with plants and soil and sometimes it's successful
I really enjoy making up photo books via the likes of Bonus Print. It's very different having hard copy to look at and share. For the last six years or so I have sent an annual photobook to my beloved gardening aunt in Jamaica. She has just received one I sent for her 93rd birthday (sent in October, arrived last week). It's a personal and intimate way for me to share my garden year with her. I can't go and visit in her final years.
Thanks for your sweet comments. There is much more luck than skill involved, so I'm not sure pride comes into it - but she knows I make the books just for her and that I have always valued her through my life - a steady source of kindness in a nutty family.
That's really nice @Fire. It's good to see 'legacy' companies hanging on in the new world. I recall my first ever SLR film was processed by them back in the 70's.
Clay soil - Cheshire/Derbyshire border. I play with plants and soil and sometimes it's successful
@Skandi what's wrong with your photo? If be proud of mine were that 'terrible ' 😉
The background is way to fussy and is detracting from the subject.. and worse although you can't really see in this reduced quality copy of the photo the focus is off. The orchid is Dactylorhiza majalis ssp. calcifugiens
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I play with plants and soil and sometimes it's successful
We too love photobooks; we use Photobox.
I play with plants and soil and sometimes it's successful
The background is way to fussy and is detracting from the subject.. and worse although you can't really see in this reduced quality copy of the photo the focus is off. The orchid is Dactylorhiza majalis ssp. calcifugiens