I'm sorry you've had crap presents and a crap time @WonkyWomble. Channel your inner Ballistic Bob [show them the video ] and stand your ground.
I've always found it hard to stand up for myself, but even I managed to do it eventually. It took a horrible situation to make it happen, but it made me realise I could be stronger. As in the other thread - life is too short to put up with rubbish presents, and rubbish behaviour.
I watched Sister Act the other day with younger fairylet, and we laughed ourselves daft. You just need to channel your 'inner nun'
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Decs down New Years Day there as well. We live in a very windy area, near the South Downs, Steve Tu just round the corner is probably more sheltered, its weird though,, the dogs out last night, rain had stopped in the next road, no wind as we got to the end of the road, you could feel it getting windier. It's very windy today, the windproof dog flap, is flapping!! You can see wind turbines from our garden, often they don't move at all, and aparently on very windy days they have to be "switched down". I made the mistake (I know I know!!) of replying to a post on Mumsnet, about fuel bills, said I was having solar panels, blimey, the absolute nastiness that came my way. Seriously, this coming from people who often complain they cannot manage on their 100K a year salary. Why, I am daring to do such a thing. Well, future proofing, we thought, the bills are rocketing. Got made homeless once, lived the next 5 years in a caravan, not one of these things nowdays called "Park Homes", a metal caravan, with one parafin heater. Again when divorcing violent Husband, was given a cold draughty house that was being demolished, aparently, I am part of the problem, then, and truely dreadful because I dont support glueing yourself to the road.
Present buying has never been the issue, but as my health has got worse, I have done less and less of the chores, and I think that possibly I am starting to use illness as a bit of an excuse for being lazy.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Illness is one of the valid excuses there is @punkdoc. But it is refreshing to hear of that type of self reflection, normally these days you only hear of how do I look in this selfie?!
Thanks @Fairygirl 👍 I'm going to be kind to myself instead of being disappointed by others. Saving to buy myself a new sewing machine for Christmas. Spent all my Christmas tips on Christmas for everyone else so think I can justify it! 😉
Stick to your guns @WonkyWomble and make sure you get some help from now on. My OH is also crap at choosing presents, so the hints need to be very obvious indeed or they go straight over his head. Same with household jobs - he just doesn't notice that things need doing, but if I ask him to do a specific thing he will (eventually) do it. When I was looking for a new sewing machine earlier his year, he was quite shocked at the prices but couldn't say anything when I pointed out that the range of prices is roughly similar to guitars, of which he has eight 🙄.
Doncaster, South Yorkshire. Soil type: sandy, well-drained
I do try to help, but sometimes it causes friction because I don't do it how she would, especially cleaning. However when it comes to things like big family meals I am very much sous chef keeping things on track and supplying copious amounts of coffee to keep her going. As to presents, I learned to be quite mercenary years ago, make it clear what you want, write a "helpful " list.
I'm beginning to get bored with my Christmas tree and the cards cluttering up the mantelpiece. I normally manage to get as far as new year's day . The attic is calling to me.
My nephew said they had taken their tree down on Boxing Day. They didn't do it because they were bored with it - they needed the space for their 15 month old son's presents! They showed one video of the masses of presents, and another of him ripping the paper off one present and having no interest whatever in the contents.
Possum's first Xmas, 11 months old and loads of presents. I remember her sat on the floor enraptured by a clear plastic teddy bear that someone had filled with M&Ms. The real presents didn't get a look in.
Our decs come down on 12th night. OH would like them up longer but I insist.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
When my niece was about 4 years old somebody bought her a 'My Little Pony' dolls house for Christmas. It arrived in kit form, with instructions in French, and muggins here had the job of putting it together. It took most of the day and I discovered years later that she actually played with it for about half an hour and never even looked at it again.
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Channel your inner Ballistic Bob [show them the video
I've always found it hard to stand up for myself, but even I managed to do it eventually. It took a horrible situation to make it happen, but it made me realise I could be stronger.
As in the other thread - life is too short to put up with rubbish presents, and rubbish behaviour.
I watched Sister Act the other day with younger fairylet, and we laughed ourselves daft.
You just need to channel your 'inner nun'
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Thanks @Fairygirl 👍 I'm going to be kind to myself instead of being disappointed by others. Saving to buy myself a new sewing machine for Christmas. Spent all my Christmas tips on Christmas for everyone else so think I can justify it! 😉
Make sure it's an all singing, all dancing, big *** off sewing machine too
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
My OH is also crap at choosing presents, so the hints need to be very obvious indeed or they go straight over his head. Same with household jobs - he just doesn't notice that things need doing, but if I ask him to do a specific thing he will (eventually) do it.
When I was looking for a new sewing machine earlier his year, he was quite shocked at the prices but couldn't say anything when I pointed out that the range of prices is roughly similar to guitars, of which he has eight 🙄.
As to presents, I learned to be quite mercenary years ago, make it clear what you want, write a "helpful " list.
My nephew said they had taken their tree down on Boxing Day. They didn't do it because they were bored with it - they needed the space for their 15 month old son's presents! They showed one video of the masses of presents, and another of him ripping the paper off one present and having no interest whatever in the contents.
Our decs come down on 12th night. OH would like them up longer but I insist.