@Debs64, I'm sorry to hear of your daughter's diagnosis and the wedding stress she's under. Not what you or she needs with 6 weeks to go.
It may be possible to have the sleeves made up attached to a little net or tulle under bodice if the shop won't refund her money (which is doubtful). Might be worth asking the seamstresses. @Obelixx might also have ideas as she does a lot of dressmaking. Hope you can get it sorted.
The reason I make my own clothes @Lizzie27 is to get something that fits in fabrics I want to wear - cotton, linen, wool and not synthetic.  Much easier than altering shop bough to suit or fit.
Yes, I totally agree @Obelixx but in this particular case, the dress has already been purchased and the addition of sleeves is required. Not at all an easy fix in my experience as Deb's daughter has just found out.  I thought a separate undergarment with the sleeves might just possibly work. Without a photo of the dress, it's hard to tell.
The dress has a very low back. Daughter has gone to 2 experienced seamstresses who work every day altering wedding dresses. They say it cannot be done. I am furious because she bought the dress because she was told it was possible and she was sold extra lace to do the job. I am not a wealthy person and I worked extra hours and did without to pay for a dress to make my little girls special day perfect. She has had a dreadful few months and this is absolutely the last thing she needs I am just fuming.Â
Let the dress shop do the alterations if they're that "easy"! And don't forget the power of Facebook or Instagram for naming and shaming them if they can't/won't.
Your wedding day is just a day. Nothing will spoil it unless someone gets jilted. Any blips will be something to laugh about together in the future. Despite the planning, my wedding passed in a blur. There were glitches, I'm sure, but I don't remember them. At the altar, my future husband informed me that he'd remembered to water my plants. He had his priorities right. I do wish people would spend their money on their future home rather than a fantasyÂ
Your wedding day is just a day. Nothing will spoil it unless someone gets jilted. Any blips will be something to laugh about together in the future. Despite the planning, my wedding passed in a blur. There were glitches, I'm sure, but I don't remember them. At the altar, my future husband informed me that he'd remembered to water my plants. He had his priorities right. I do wish people would spend their money on their future home rather than a fantasyÂ
Ditto. I suggested to my Daughter that she used covid as an excuse to have a very small affair, and then just have a party afterwards, and use the money saved towards a house deposit. It fell upon deaf ears.
I think it is more likely that the seamstresses don't want to touch such an expensive dress. Putting in sleeves is a very intricate job and they are probably afraid of working on such a beautiful dress with possibly fragile and difficult to work with fabric. I'm surprised the dress shop suggested it would be possible. Could your daughter have the lace made into a cape instead? My suggestion of an undergarment wouldn't work with a low back.
@Lizzie27 the dress was by no means the most expensive in the shop in fact it was one of the cheapest. We are waiting to see if their seamstresses are able to tackle it. Thank you for your advice and sympathy. Thanks also to @Obelixx for the helpful and kind suggestions.Â
I cannot agree that your wedding day is just a day like any other. We all have different priorities and to be honest comments like that are not helpful. You are of course entitled to your opinion but I don’t see why you care what other people do with their own money.Â
I'm sorry you were offended but I was trying to give a bit of of perspective. The most important thing to me is that two people who love each other and want to spend their lives together really shouldn't get upset about a dress .Â
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It may be possible to have the sleeves made up attached to a little net or tulle under bodice if the shop won't refund her money (which is doubtful). Might be worth asking the seamstresses. @Obelixx might also have ideas as she does a lot of dressmaking.
Hope you can get it sorted.
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I thought a separate undergarment with the sleeves might just possibly work. Without a photo of the dress, it's hard to tell.
Despite the planning, my wedding passed in a blur. There were glitches, I'm sure, but I don't remember them.
At the altar, my future husband informed me that he'd remembered to water my plants. He had his priorities right.
I do wish people would spend their money on their future home rather than a fantasyÂ
I suggested to my Daughter that she used covid as an excuse to have a very small affair, and then just have a party afterwards, and use the money saved towards a house deposit.
It fell upon deaf ears.
I think it is more likely that the seamstresses don't want to touch such an expensive dress. Putting in sleeves is a very intricate job and they are probably afraid of working on such a beautiful dress with possibly fragile and difficult to work with fabric. I'm surprised the dress shop suggested it would be possible.
Could your daughter have the lace made into a cape instead? My suggestion of an undergarment wouldn't work with a low back.