No matter how well prepared we think we are for it, losing our parents triggers profound emotions @punkdoc ... take it gently, treat yourself kindly ... love to both of you xx
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
@D0rdogne_Damsel will be in the thick of it by now - hope it is going well. @punkdoc - I remember being in my car after each of my parents died and just howling. I dreamt of my mum the other night, even though she died 15 years ago. I was in danger and I was calling for her - she emerged from another room and all was well. @Dovefromabove - oh no - it's nice and sunny here at the moment. I hope that rain is going north and not south!
It's a bit less than 10 years since my Mum died. She haunts me a bit less now. For some time after she died, if she turned up in my dreams and she spoke to me, I would immediately wake up, as if my conscious mind was interrupting when my hind brain wasn't accepting she'd died. Now she is there far less often and her appearance doesn't wake me up, so I guess my mind is resigned to the fact she's gone. It is much more of an adjustment than you expect when you don't live with them. If she's the second parent to go, that is also a big step change in your psyche, to find yourself suddenly the older generation.
Give yourself time and headspace.
Gardening on the edge of Exmoor, in Devon
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
@didyw the rain stopped so I opened up the big studio sliding glass doors/wall again so the toms etc could get some fresh air at least then I came indoors and started chopping onions ......... you've guessed it, a loud clap of thunder and stair-rods ... so I got wet closing up again ....... I think the rest of the day will be much the same ... have you had any yet?
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
It's here now @Dovefromabove. I'd put my dahlias-from-seed out of the zip up greenhouse into the sunshine for a treat but had to rush out to rescue them from the pelting rain. They are now in the kitchen wondering what on earth is going on.
What you say is certainly ringing very true at the moment, I seem to be in a total fug. I was out gardening and I had to stop because my mind kept wandering off, and I was doing more harm than good.
My Dad died over 20 years ago, we were not close and it was during one of busiest times of my career, I don't really remember it impacting on me. Mum is a very different story: behind all my successes I see her influence, and most of my better qualities seem down to her.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Hello all, just a quick pop in to let you know that we're all fine!
The customers are all so pleased to be here despite the rain. So relieved! I must admit at 8:30 this morning I was close to tears, the rain was torrential and it was so cold.
The sails are waterproof, but not really suitable for torrential rain. We have to tip them up to get rid of excess water but of course with customers sat beneath them it doesn't work so well.
The roadworks are still in progress too and as the first guests arrived they started pouring the hot tarmac down, the poor people got lost is the mist, the smell, the noise, , my goodness, not the most welcoming start. Thankfully they saw the funny side.
We also had a delivery of 36 new chairs arrive, but the roadworkers wouldn't let the van stop so he had to drive on and now the chairs can't be delivered until a week on Friday. We do have chairs but they are padded, very nice actually, but we realised last year that if they do get wet, even with a quick shower, the sponge takes days to dry. Hence the need for replacements, much more waterproof - ironic that they were driven past in a torrential downpour. I was on the phone to the driver at the time and he just said he had such a tight schedule he didn't even have time to drive around the block and try again or meet me further up the road. I rang the office but they're not interested, next Friday, no discussion, no dialogue, end of!
Anyway, despite all that the customers are very happy, the new staff seem to be coping really well and are all friendly and nice and now finally, the sun has come out, not sure for how long, but we'll take whatever we can.
I also managed to read back and must say, once again I am so touched by all your good wishes, kind thoughts and supportive comments. I've added a couple of photos so you can feel part of it all.
Hugs to you all and cake all round. An espcially big piece for @punkdoc. An extra bit too for @Yviestevie, glad your're ok.
Must go now, but I did just want to share the news, I knew you'd all be worried about us.
Yay, we're open.
Two French ladies, the first to arrive, very brave souls. So excited to be here though.
They had to walk through that to get in the gate, bless them. It was just farcical, steam rollers (literally), noise, the smell of tar, stair rod rain ....we all just had to laugh.
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Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
@Dovefromabove - oh no - it's nice and sunny here at the moment. I hope that rain is going north and not south!
Give yourself time and headspace.
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
My Dad died over 20 years ago, we were not close and it was during one of busiest times of my career, I don't really remember it impacting on me.
Mum is a very different story: behind all my successes I see her influence, and most of my better qualities seem down to her.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
The customers are all so pleased to be here despite the rain. So relieved! I must admit at 8:30 this morning I was close to tears, the rain was torrential and it was so cold.
The sails are waterproof, but not really suitable for torrential rain. We have to tip them up to get rid of excess water but of course with customers sat beneath them it doesn't work so well.
The roadworks are still in progress too and as the first guests arrived they started pouring the hot tarmac down, the poor people got lost is the mist, the smell, the noise, , my goodness, not the most welcoming start. Thankfully they saw the funny side.
We also had a delivery of 36 new chairs arrive, but the roadworkers wouldn't let the van stop so he had to drive on and now the chairs can't be delivered until a week on Friday. We do have chairs but they are padded, very nice actually, but we realised last year that if they do get wet, even with a quick shower, the sponge takes days to dry. Hence the need for replacements, much more waterproof - ironic that they were driven past in a torrential downpour. I was on the phone to the driver at the time and he just said he had such a tight schedule he didn't even have time to drive around the block and try again or meet me further up the road. I rang the office but they're not interested, next Friday, no discussion, no dialogue, end of!
Anyway, despite all that the customers are very happy, the new staff seem to be coping really well and are all friendly and nice and now finally, the sun has come out, not sure for how long, but we'll take whatever we can.
I also managed to read back and must say, once again I am so touched by all your good wishes, kind thoughts and supportive comments. I've added a couple of photos so you can feel part of it all.
Hugs to you all and cake all round. An espcially big piece for @punkdoc. An extra bit too for @Yviestevie, glad your're ok.
Must go now, but I did just want to share the news, I knew you'd all be worried about us.
Yay, we're open.
Two French ladies, the first to arrive, very brave souls. So excited to be here though.
They had to walk through that to get in the gate, bless them. It was just farcical, steam rollers (literally), noise, the smell of tar, stair rod rain ....we all just had to laugh.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.