It's hard to believe nowadays, but it's one of those generational things. You don't talk about anything remotely difficult. After my niece died, and my sis and BIL had more children, her mother in law kept saying they shouldn't talk about her to the other children. As though she'd never existed, and should just be forgotten. How hurtful can people be.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
So, you never were told that you had a deceased brother even though your mother had a photo of him on the bedside table!
We all have a tale to tell of past grievances.
Try and enjoy your husband's company and your garden - spring is here, summer is just around the corner - try and appreciate what is around you. Cover up when you go out and disinfect when you come home.
The system here is just the same - much red tape and ticking the right boxes!
Family secrets, skeletons in the closet...are a strange thing. Hush here, hush there. I only found out in my forties that one of my brothers was sexually abused when he was at scouts. He adored scouts and everything about it. He's a happy Dad today with a nice wife.
When I found out - someone splurted it out at the table during a family meal - my mother put her hands up to her now red face in absolute horror that it had "come out." Of course, we were shushed and the meal went on.... No one had the slightest inkling.
I must say it's astonishing how many families have 'a story to tell'. Sometimes watching a film or a TV series I think it's too far fetched, I don't believe it, but actually, real life stories can be unbeliveable too.
@pansyface, I can understand why you're 'fed up', but from what I see on here you offer an a great deal to the forum, in so many ways, so don't be thinking it's all over for you just yet! Good luck getting the vaccine you need.
“Coffee. Garden. Coffee. Does a good morning need anything else?” —Betsy Cañas Garmon
There is not much info. on having the vaccine when you currently have COVID, but it is generally thought to be safe. My main concern would be the risk of passing it on to the vaccinator and others. If you suspect you have the virus [ and it sounds quite likely ] you should really be isolating.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Thanks @Punkdoc, I am of course isolating (apart from OH). My booster jab is booked for next Monday, so a week to go, assuming I was infectious last Sunday. It's not the 10 day period the NHS advise however. The site also advises not to have the jab for at least 28 days after an infection and I just wondered why? I'm assuming it's either because one might have too many antibodies perhaps (if you can) or have natural defences for at least a month. Either way, I think I'll have to postpone the jab for a while.
Pansy21 years Inbetween my 2 girls,(second marriage,) they get on like a house on fire. Had my youngest daughter, following year,my daughter had my first grandchild! Hubby,and his siblings less than 18 months apart,don't speak. Shopping today,hubby and I, the only ones wearing masks!
@pansyface I’m so sorry you are feeling down, so hard for you. Remember you are valuable in yourself, not by any judgement by your relatives. Remember you can choose your friends but not your relatives. And you matter to us. Re the doctor, you don’t have to be pushy, but maybe just persistent. Totally polite but keep phoning. Are you under the care of a consultant? If so, ring their secretary and explain the situation, maybe they can help?
Posts
After my niece died, and my sis and BIL had more children, her mother in law kept saying they shouldn't talk about her to the other children. As though she'd never existed, and should just be forgotten. How hurtful can people be.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
We all have a tale to tell of past grievances.
Try and enjoy your husband's company and your garden - spring is here, summer is just around the corner - try and appreciate what is around you. Cover up when you go out and disinfect when you come home.
The system here is just the same - much red tape and ticking the right boxes!
When I found out - someone splurted it out at the table during a family meal - my mother put her hands up to her now red face in absolute horror that it had "come out."
Of course, we were shushed and the meal went on.... No one had the slightest inkling.
@pansyface, I can understand why you're 'fed up', but from what I see on here you offer an a great deal to the forum, in so many ways, so don't be thinking it's all over for you just yet! Good luck getting the vaccine you need.
There is not much info. on having the vaccine when you currently have COVID, but it is generally thought to be safe.
My main concern would be the risk of passing it on to the vaccinator and others.
If you suspect you have the virus [ and it sounds quite likely ] you should really be isolating.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Either way, I think I'll have to postpone the jab for a while.
Re the doctor, you don’t have to be pushy, but maybe just persistent. Totally polite but keep phoning. Are you under the care of a consultant? If so, ring their secretary and explain the situation, maybe they can help?
No one will remove you from their list just for asking what you should do. Please phone the GP, say you are worried, can you please have your booster?
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border