So,in other words, the ‘guilt’ might lie on the shoulders of someone potentially many generations back?
Potentially.
Everybody feels sympathy for a baby or toddler living in a violent, cruel, neglectful or abusive environment. Its crazy that when that same child has got a little older and acted in a way that is violent, cruel, neglectful or abusive, so many adults somehow expect them to have figured out how to be a good person when they've just been in that same awful environment for longer.
Obviously some people break the cycle. My late parents were beaten,for no good reason, what I mean by that is,not for any act of disobedience. I see my late mother's cousin,we all lived a few houses apart,she confirmed my grandfather used to beat her with the buckle on his belt,saying he would beat the spirit out of her.neither of my parents smacked or hit me
Presumably something showed your parents that their experience wasn't normal and certainly wasn't positive ... they will have had friends who weren't beaten and they learned that way.
It takes other experiences and interventions from some other people to break the circle.
As I said, children learn what they see and experience ... there is no other way.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Turning from the nature/nurture debate and back to covid - it would not harm the economy at all to require us all to wear masks under the conditions Chris Whitty will be wearing his. This is not govt. diktat but helping to keep us safe. If an England football supporter can shine a laser at the opposition's goalkeeper just before he needs to try and save a penalty I don't have much faith in that supporter choosing to wear a mask when he is in the same shop/bus as me. He needs to be required to do so by law.
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Everybody feels sympathy for a baby or toddler living in a violent, cruel, neglectful or abusive environment. Its crazy that when that same child has got a little older and acted in a way that is violent, cruel, neglectful or abusive, so many adults somehow expect them to have figured out how to be a good person when they've just been in that same awful environment for longer.
There is very strong evidence that abusers were frequently abused when they were children.
Bill Sykes was once the Artful Dodger.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
It takes other experiences and interventions from some other people to break the circle.
As I said, children learn what they see and experience ... there is no other way.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.