@Lyn , l know, it's such a difficult situation. If only he'd told his parents (which l assume he didn't), they could have sorted something out perhaps, although l know it's easy for me to say. I think Graham Norton made a comment that he knew of several instances where the deceased's wishes had been ignored when it came to burial/cremation. I think you make a good point, l think if it were me l would take a tiny bit and let them have the rest, l understand you can get ashes made into pieces of jewellery? Sorry, we cross posted there !
Thanks all. I didn't think of looking in the list I was trying to type the names myself and if there was a space it just put the bit before the space in pink so I didn't think it would work. Senior moments.
Senior moments. I was in John Lewis the other day and the person at the head of the queue was getting flustered about asking for something excusing herself by saying she was having a senior moment. “No dear,” said the very pukka lady behind in a cut glass accent, “it’s a CRAFT moment ... can’t remember a f***** thing.” Asda maybe, but not John Lewis!
It's difficult when the deceased hasn't made their wishes clear. My husband wouldn't talk about death or what he wanted done with his remains so it was up to me and the children to decide. Some of his ashes were planted under a tree in my daughter's garden and the rest will be mixed with mine and scattered on a beach particularly loved by all of us.
How very true that is, @Pauline 7. I have just been listening to a problem on Graham Norton's radio show, where a lady's husband had died at a young age. He had told her that he wanted his ashes scattered at a particular beach that meant something to them both. She had a terrible row with his parents, as they wanted the ashes interred where they lived, miles away. It's such a difficult time, although l thought the solution was obvious (to divide the ashes) , when you are in the early stages of grief, l know it can make people develop a kind of tunnel vision .
I heard that too Anni. I can understand it's very hard to lose your child - even as an adult - but dividing is the way to go, and hopefully they [the parents] will realise that. We did that with my parents' ashes [only me and my sister ] and we both have a little jar of them at home, along with spreading some on my niece's grave, and some in the beautiful place we went on holiday, near Ullapool, as children. They have this view together forever more.
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
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Sorry, we cross posted there !
It works the same way on a PC
A glow worm's never glum
Cos how can you be grumpy
When the sun shines out your bum!
Asda maybe, but not John Lewis!
We did that with my parents' ashes [only me and my sister ] and we both have a little jar of them at home, along with spreading some on my niece's grave, and some in the beautiful place we went on holiday, near Ullapool, as children. They have this view together forever more.
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Is it curmudgeonly to suggest we should now call this thread C.Corner - I blame it on the cold?
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...