It was a horrible couple of weeks in my life but I met with a great deal of kindness from quite unexpected places. It helped a lot. I try to remember it and pass it on when I get the chance
Gardening on the edge of Exmoor, in Devon
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
He sounds like a treasure RG and yes, it's good to pass on kindness. You never know who it may lift in a difficult time or when you'll need it again yourself.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
When our neighbour died suddenly, his siblings, from whom he was estranged, arranged the funeral and it was a cold, unfeeling affair. My daughter and I put the word out on the local grapevine, and all his friends and neighbours came to the local pub for his wake. We had a lovely afternoon sharing anecdotes and remembering him and it was a much better send off than the official one
When our neighbour died suddenly, his siblings, from whom he was estranged, arranged the funeral and it was a cold, unfeeling affair. My daughter and I put the word out on the local grapevine, and all his friends and neighbours came to the local pub for his wake. We had a lovely afternoon sharing anecdotes and remembering him and it was a much better send off than the official one
As they say " you can choose your friends but not your family "
How very true that is, @Pauline 7. I have just been listening to a problem on Graham Norton's radio show, where a lady's husband had died at a young age. He had told her that he wanted his ashes scattered at a particular beach that meant something to them both. She had a terrible row with his parents, as they wanted the ashes interred where they lived, miles away. It's such a difficult time, although l thought the solution was obvious (to divide the ashes) , when you are in the early stages of grief, l know it can make people develop a kind of tunnel vision .
@AnniD. If I was in that situation I would let the parents have the ashes, after all he doesn’t know and those parents have had him from a baby, the lady has her memories, the ashes are just mortal remains not her husband. Splitting ashes up and sharing around is not in my opinion a good idea sounds a bit macabre to me but each to his own though.
@Pauline 7, l just type in the @ symbol, and as l start to type the name, l get a list of names come up. As l start to type yours for example, l get all the Paul's, then as l type more of your name, you appear on the list. I'm using a tablet, l assume it works the same on phones, but don't know about PCs. Maybe it depends on the operating system ? I may sound as if l know what I am talking about, but l have no idea really !
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“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
@Pauline 7. Not sure what you mean yours tags ok.