There is something about doing it yourself, you are actually doing what you can , you, yourself for your loved one. There’s nothing cheapskate coming into it, it’s not about saving money, it’s a nice thing to do.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
My mother always told a story about her Granny (in Scotland). The local insurance man kept trying to sell her a funeral plan by saying she wouldn't be properly buried if she didn't have one, apparently her response was "they will bury me for the smell if nothing else"
How can you not bury a person properly? Only dig a shallow hole, bury in a shroud? In fact I would like to see everyone buried in a shroud, especially cremations.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
We were at a funeral yesterday with interment in a field. They plant a tree over each coffin so given time there will be a massive new woodland. Unfortunately, on a day when it is p.p.p.p.persisting down, the grass is long, and the plot involves trudging through long grass for about 1/4 mile, it didn't seem such a good idea. My shoes were completely covered in mud, but I really felt sorry for some of the women there in lightweight shoes. Unfortunately there had been no advice provided about footwear, although I fully appreciate that the family had more pressing things to think about. The funeral was for a guy in his early 30's.
There is something about doing it yourself, you are actually doing what you can , you, yourself for your loved one. There’s nothing cheapskate coming into it, it’s not about saving money, it’s a nice thing to do.
A bit like weddings, I think people feel some sort of obligation to do it 'properly', with a church service and a choir to sing the hymns and all the rigmarole even for people who had no faith and hadn't been in a church for years, or a big wake, with too much money spent on food and booze, expensive flowers, fancy cars. You can have a low key cremation and a few friends down the pub for a beer and some chips, but most people seem not to.
Gardening on the edge of Exmoor, in Devon
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
You can have a low key cremation and a few friends down the pub for a beer and some chips, but most people seem not to.
Great in theory, but not always possible. The funeral I referred to above had over 200 in attendance. What were the parents going to do, say 'Thanks for coming now Foxtrot Oscar'? Many people had travelled several hundred miles, and some had come several thousand miles. They actually did go to a pub afterwards and laid on food, tea & coffee but it still must have cost a considerable amount.
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In fact I would like to see everyone buried in a shroud, especially cremations.
There are some good funeral directors out there, who don't make huge profits and drive posh cars...
A bit like weddings, I think people feel some sort of obligation to do it 'properly', with a church service and a choir to sing the hymns and all the rigmarole even for people who had no faith and hadn't been in a church for years, or a big wake, with too much money spent on food and booze, expensive flowers, fancy cars. You can have a low key cremation and a few friends down the pub for a beer and some chips, but most people seem not to.
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”