One friend of mine has been my friend so long I can't actually remember a time before I knew her. She wasn't able to come to either of my parents' funerals and I couldn't get to her mother's funeral either. It doesn't matter. Funerals are occasions for the wider community to pay their respects. Whilst it's good to have the emotional support of close family you don't need them to be in the room to know that they care. What needs to be said can be said at any time and the hardest days are not the ones between someone's death and the funeral, when you're too busy to have time to reflect and are still rather numb anyway. It's later, in the weeks when everyone else has moved on and you are left with the void when you need the people that matter to you to notice and to care. So go on your holiday, Hosta. Go and spend some time with your sister when you get back. She'll need you just as much - if not more - when everyone else has gone home.
Dove - it's the marriage that matters, not the wedding. So many people seem to forget that . It's another occasion when you have a room full of people and it's all a bit of a blur anyway. One aunt more or less shouldn't make too much difference
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“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
Raisingirl ... wise words re funerals. As for the wedding ... although they only live in the next country I was unaware of the young lady's existence until the engagement was announced and the last time I saw said nephew was at Ma's funeral 18 months ago ... I don't think this aunt will be missed that much by him It's my brother who would like me to be there but that's the way the cookie crumbles I'm afraid.
His youngest sister's wedding will be the following month ... a different kettle of fish and I wouldn't miss it for the world.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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One friend of mine has been my friend so long I can't actually remember a time before I knew her. She wasn't able to come to either of my parents' funerals and I couldn't get to her mother's funeral either. It doesn't matter. Funerals are occasions for the wider community to pay their respects. Whilst it's good to have the emotional support of close family you don't need them to be in the room to know that they care. What needs to be said can be said at any time and the hardest days are not the ones between someone's death and the funeral, when you're too busy to have time to reflect and are still rather numb anyway. It's later, in the weeks when everyone else has moved on and you are left with the void when you need the people that matter to you to notice and to care. So go on your holiday, Hosta. Go and spend some time with your sister when you get back. She'll need you just as much - if not more - when everyone else has gone home.
Dove - it's the marriage that matters, not the wedding. So many people seem to forget that
. It's another occasion when you have a room full of people and it's all a bit of a blur anyway. One aunt more or less shouldn't make too much difference 
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“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
I totally agree raisingirl-. OH's ex-carers still pop in for a coffee every two or three weeks and that means so much to me.
Raisingirl ... wise words re funerals. As for the wedding ... although they only live in the next country I was unaware of the young lady's existence until the engagement was announced and the last time I saw said nephew was at Ma's funeral 18 months ago ... I don't think this aunt will be missed that much by him
It's my brother who would like me to be there but that's the way the cookie crumbles I'm afraid.
His youngest sister's wedding will be the following month ... a different kettle of fish and I wouldn't miss it for the world.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Think you might be mistaken Clari
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Room full of old bare wrinklies or naturalists?
Geriatric naturists: now there's an image upon which one cares not to dwell.
Tonight's "earliest finish " is at 7.45. Hubby is NOT amused.
Yet another late meal
I thought my ears were burning.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Ahh well; it was so cold I'd not have seen much had I gone to the wrong meeting!