I'm JUST old enough to remember when you flew you were treated as someone special by all concerned. Now: you're self loading cargo. The more money all concerned can suck from you in the process, the happier they are.
I agree Hostafan, We havent fflown anywhere for a time, last time was 8 years ago, I hated flying, so claustrophobic, I would be collasping hyperventilating on the floor, was told before I flew the crew would like after me, no-one came near me, I could have died for all they cared. This business about allowing folk to drink in the mornings, get on a flight already drunk, cause huge problems, nothing gets done, it will take someone causing a serious accident I expect before they get stricter. What a shock puncdoc, possibly a surprise you could do without!
Many years ago, I flew to Nigeria to do some work, the flight was Aeroflot via Moscow, where we sat on the runway for 5 hours.
The plane had ripped seats and I had this fear I would never arrive.
The situation I am trying to get my head round is: Dad was married before my Mum [ I knew this, but my sisters did not ] Dad had a son, which none of us knew. I have been contacted by him and he would like to meet.
Neither of my sisters are keen and I don't what i want
.Your everlasting summer You can see it fading fast So you grab a piece of something That you think is gonna last But you wouldn't know a diamond If you held it in your hand The things you think are precious I can't understandAre you reelin' in the years Stowin' away the time Are you gatherin' up the tears Have you had enough of mineAre you reelin' in the years Stowin' away the time Are you gatherin' up the tears Have you had enough of mineYou been tellin' me you're a genius Since you were seventeen In all the time I've known you I still don't know what you mean The weekend at the college Didn't turn out like you planned The things that pass for knowledge I can't understandAre you reelin' in the years Stowin' away the time
My favourite Steely Dan lines.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
Punkdoc, are you sure your Mum didn't know your Dad had a child from his first marriage? Even if she didn't mention it to you, perhaps he told her and she didn't want to upset things (and him, perhaps, if he was unable or unwilling to see his child), by telling you and your sisters.
I think I can understand why your half brother is curious to meet his blood relatives - but only you can know if that's something you want, or if you feel it will stir up a hornets' nest...
I'm not surprised it's a difficult decision.
Thinking of you PD.
Since 2019 I've lived in east Clare, in the west of Ireland.
Hello Punkdoc. Glad you're back on line. We all missed your humour.
we often watch those "Who do you think you are" or "Long Lost Family" type shows, so I can understand what your family is feeling - confused and not sure how to handle it. All the best to you and hope it gets resolved.
doc - we had a slightly similar thing in our family in that my Dad had been married before but me and my sis knew nothing about it until my sis was a teenager. It came out because we heard them arguing (very rare) and my Mum had to tell us. In those days it was such a disgrace to be divorced, so they didn't want anyone to know, and just kept it hidden. It seems weird to us now, but it was quite normal then. We had no half siblings though - so I can see how big an extra spanner it throws into the works. It may have felt like a huge deal for them to tell you, which it wouldn't really be nowadays.Take it slow.
In the meantime - listen to 'The Dan' and their timeless sounds, and take your mind off it all. Been nice hearing the tributes. My fave is still Pretzel Logic...I think...for today anyway
# I stepped up on the platform
The man gave me the news
He said 'you must be joking son
Where did you get those shoes?'
More damp stuff here this morning, but it's meant to dry up later. Fingers crossed.
Quick look round now before t'mill - have a good day everyone
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Families are a very complicated business. The fact that it is all open and above board makes it easier. Your dad was married before. That happens and as FG says things were very different in those days. Very different indeed.
We found a little wrinkle in our family a while back and while some of us know we decided not to tell anyone else as it would cause upset. It shouldn't, it's not a big deal, but it would.
You have to do what's right for you Pdoc. Would anyone feel hurt or betrayed by you meeting up with him? Would you regret never meeting him?
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I too concur re airports.
I'm JUST old enough to remember when you flew you were treated as someone special by all concerned. Now: you're self loading cargo. The more money all concerned can suck from you in the process, the happier they are.
I agree Hostafan, We havent fflown anywhere for a time, last time was 8 years ago, I hated flying, so claustrophobic, I would be collasping hyperventilating on the floor, was told before I flew the crew would like after me, no-one came near me, I could have died for all they cared. This business about allowing folk to drink in the mornings, get on a flight already drunk, cause huge problems, nothing gets done, it will take someone causing a serious accident I expect before they get stricter. What a shock puncdoc, possibly a surprise you could do without!
look after me, not like after me!!!
Many years ago, I flew to Nigeria to do some work, the flight was Aeroflot via Moscow, where we sat on the runway for 5 hours.
The plane had ripped seats and I had this fear I would never arrive.
The situation I am trying to get my head round is: Dad was married before my Mum [ I knew this, but my sisters did not ] Dad had a son, which none of us knew. I have been contacted by him and he would like to meet.
Neither of my sisters are keen and I don't what i want
.Your everlasting summer
You can see it fading fast
So you grab a piece of something
That you think is gonna last
But you wouldn't know a diamond
If you held it in your hand
The things you think are precious
I can't understandAre you reelin' in the years
Stowin' away the time
Are you gatherin' up the tears
Have you had enough of mineAre you reelin' in the years
Stowin' away the time
Are you gatherin' up the tears
Have you had enough of mineYou been tellin' me you're a genius
Since you were seventeen
In all the time I've known you
I still don't know what you mean
The weekend at the college
Didn't turn out like you planned
The things that pass for knowledge
I can't understandAre you reelin' in the years
Stowin' away the time
My favourite Steely Dan lines.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
Punkdoc, are you sure your Mum didn't know your Dad had a child from his first marriage? Even if she didn't mention it to you, perhaps he told her and she didn't want to upset things (and him, perhaps, if he was unable or unwilling to see his child), by telling you and your sisters.
I think I can understand why your half brother is curious to meet his blood relatives - but only you can know if that's something you want, or if you feel it will stir up a hornets' nest...
I'm not surprised it's a difficult decision.
Thinking of you PD.
Hello Punkdoc. Glad you're back on line. We all missed your humour.
we often watch those "Who do you think you are" or "Long Lost Family" type shows, so I can understand what your family is feeling - confused and not sure how to handle it. All the best to you and hope it gets resolved.
Morning
Glad to see you back Pdoc - difficult and confusing times though. Come to the decision that feels right for you - and take your time getting there.
Hugs for Clari too.
Don't like these dark mornings at all
Morning all/afties Pat - how have you been today?
doc - we had a slightly similar thing in our family in that my Dad had been married before but me and my sis knew nothing about it until my sis was a teenager. It came out because we heard them arguing (very rare) and my Mum had to tell us. In those days it was such a disgrace to be divorced, so they didn't want anyone to know, and just kept it hidden. It seems weird to us now, but it was quite normal then. We had no half siblings though - so I can see how big an extra spanner it throws into the works. It may have felt like a huge deal for them to tell you, which it wouldn't really be nowadays.Take it slow.
In the meantime - listen to 'The Dan' and their timeless sounds, and take your mind off it all. Been nice hearing the tributes. My fave is still Pretzel Logic...I think...for today anyway
# I stepped up on the platform
The man gave me the news
He said 'you must be joking son
Where did you get those shoes?'
More damp stuff here this morning, but it's meant to dry up later. Fingers crossed.
Quick look round now before t'mill - have a good day everyone
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
Morning all.
Families are a very complicated business. The fact that it is all open and above board makes it easier. Your dad was married before. That happens and as FG says things were very different in those days. Very different indeed.
We found a little wrinkle in our family a while back and while some of us know we decided not to tell anyone else as it would cause upset. It shouldn't, it's not a big deal, but it would.
You have to do what's right for you Pdoc. Would anyone feel hurt or betrayed by you meeting up with him? Would you regret never meeting him?
Wet and grey here...makes a change!
Morning all.
Dark and damp earlier but brightening up now.
Pdoc, any idea why step brother was motivated to make contact? That could help you come to a decision.