Good morning. OH has gone and I have lazed about finishing a book. Now to get on with jobs like washing, sanding and feeding chairs and a table, messing with pots which means going to buy more compost and maybe being tempted by other goodies.
Sunny but fresh so the washing should dry well.
Pdoc - it can be hard to learn stuff about your parents, especially when they've kept it hidden so long. Just as hard trying to find out about a parent who abandoned you and never looked back. I think you did the right thing and hope it has helped your new brother without doing long term damage to you. Just remember it was not your fault, nor his nor your sisters'. Think of that poem by Philip Larkin - https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48419/this-be-the-verse
Hosta - did you see the How to Stay Young programme on the Beeb? One of the three they dealt with on the first prog had insomnia and they helped improve the quality of her sleep. Might help you.
Pat - seems logical to me that people moved to ensure food supplies. Hope you get some fruit this year but maybe time to find some later flowering varieties?
LP - lovely for you. Hope it goes well.
Vendée - 20kms from Atlantic coast.
"The price good men (and women) pay for indifference to public affairs is to be ruled by evil men (and women)."
A reasonable day in prospect here - dry until late afternoon, though not exactly warm - which is good because I have a date with a fan-trained apricot tree, grown by the community food-for-free group, but not given any TLC since its planting a couple of years ago. Must sharpen my secateurs.
LilyP, how lovely to re-establish contact with your nephew and his family! A lovely surprise for you. Families are such complicated things...
Since 2019 I've lived in east Clare, in the west of Ireland.
Clari, just standard rate, no " time and a half" stuff these days.
Obs, I'll try to catch that.
A friend of mine ( at 55 ) got a phone call:
Cut a very long story short.
" when your parents divorced, your father remarried and I'm his daughter"
" my Father died"
" No, that's what they agreed to tell you"
His mother had kept the secret for over 50 years and his half sister had called to say his Father was dying and wanted to see him to say sorry. He died 6 months later.
Families are indeed "such complicated things... " LIri.
I am clearly not alone, so many odd family stories.
I agree re. my sisters, which is why as a teenager i never told them, that Dad was having an affair. They want to remember him as perfect, even though in my opinion, he was a complete B#####d. I spent half my young adult days hoping, I would not turn out like him.
Mum i am fairly sure, does not want me to get upset.
Lovely day here, so have been in the garden, although not sure I have done anything.
How can you lie there and think of England When you don't even know who's in the team
It's all too complicated for me. I've got enough on my plate with grandchildren and their parents. I suspect my son and daughter will have to sort it out when I'm long gone. I just get on with life.
.... I spent half my young adult days hoping, I would not turn out like him. ...
Don't worry ... I'm pretty certain that you didn't ((hugs))
A lass I knew became pregnant at 16 by her boyfriend ... but her parents had already forbidden her to see him as he was a bad lot, and her father had been trying to set her up with his younger work colleague who was a few pence short of a shilling but a 'steady type'.
When the lass (we'll call her S) realised she was expecting she hid it from her parents and went out with the second chap (we'll call him J) and accepted his almost immediate proposal of marriage and they were married before you could blink. A 'premature' son was swiftly followed by a couple of daughters but the marriage broke down unsurprisingly given J's 'limitations'.
Years down the line one of the daughters became ill and it was discovered she had an inherited condition which turned out to be from her father J's family and that his increasing 'limitations' were the result of the same condition ... before long he became very ill and needed full time care. The son became his carer .... some years later son was about to marry and start a family he asked for testing to see if he carried the faulty gene ... only to discover that the man who had brought him up and that he had given up his job to become carer for wasn't his father at all ... he demanded the truth from his mother S who told him that his father was actually a chap who had 'done time' for armed robbery and who was a thoroughly bad lot. The son went totally off the rails and much sadness ensued ....
Parents should not try to hide things from their children ............ it rarely turns out well.
Last edited: 18 September 2017 12:40:31
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
There's a lot to be said for having a 'quiet family' .... that leaves us free to be the ones who provide just a little bit of excitement from time to time
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
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Do you at least get over time pay Hosta?
Money for upcoming holiday Hosta
Good morning. OH has gone and I have lazed about finishing a book. Now to get on with jobs like washing, sanding and feeding chairs and a table, messing with pots which means going to buy more compost and maybe being tempted by other goodies.
Sunny but fresh so the washing should dry well.
Pdoc - it can be hard to learn stuff about your parents, especially when they've kept it hidden so long. Just as hard trying to find out about a parent who abandoned you and never looked back. I think you did the right thing and hope it has helped your new brother without doing long term damage to you. Just remember it was not your fault, nor his nor your sisters'. Think of that poem by Philip Larkin - https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/48419/this-be-the-verse
Hosta - did you see the How to Stay Young programme on the Beeb? One of the three they dealt with on the first prog had insomnia and they helped improve the quality of her sleep. Might help you.
Pat - seems logical to me that people moved to ensure food supplies. Hope you get some fruit this year but maybe time to find some later flowering varieties?
LP - lovely for you. Hope it goes well.
Morning all.
A reasonable day in prospect here - dry until late afternoon, though not exactly warm - which is good because I have a date with a fan-trained apricot tree, grown by the community food-for-free group, but not given any TLC since its planting a couple of years ago. Must sharpen my secateurs.
LilyP, how lovely to re-establish contact with your nephew and his family! A lovely surprise for you. Families are such complicated things...
Clari, just standard rate, no " time and a half" stuff these days.
Obs, I'll try to catch that.
A friend of mine ( at 55 ) got a phone call:
Cut a very long story short.
" when your parents divorced, your father remarried and I'm his daughter"
" my Father died"
" No, that's what they agreed to tell you"
His mother had kept the secret for over 50 years and his half sister had called to say his Father was dying and wanted to see him to say sorry. He died 6 months later.
Families are indeed "such complicated things... " LIri.
Hi all.
I am clearly not alone, so many odd family stories.
I agree re. my sisters, which is why as a teenager i never told them, that Dad was having an affair. They want to remember him as perfect, even though in my opinion, he was a complete B#####d. I spent half my young adult days hoping, I would not turn out like him.
Mum i am fairly sure, does not want me to get upset.
Lovely day here, so have been in the garden, although not sure I have done anything.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
It's all too complicated for me. I've got enough on my plate with grandchildren and their parents. I suspect my son and daughter will have to sort it out when I'm long gone.
I just get on with life.
Don't worry ... I'm pretty certain that you didn't ((hugs))
A lass I knew became pregnant at 16 by her boyfriend ... but her parents had already forbidden her to see him as he was a bad lot, and her father had been trying to set her up with his younger work colleague who was a few pence short of a shilling but a 'steady type'.
When the lass (we'll call her S) realised she was expecting she hid it from her parents and went out with the second chap (we'll call him J) and accepted his almost immediate proposal of marriage and they were married before you could blink. A 'premature' son was swiftly followed by a couple of daughters but the marriage broke down unsurprisingly given J's 'limitations'.
Years down the line one of the daughters became ill and it was discovered she had an inherited condition which turned out to be from her father J's family and that his increasing 'limitations' were the result of the same condition ... before long he became very ill and needed full time care. The son became his carer .... some years later son was about to marry and start a family he asked for testing to see if he carried the faulty gene ... only to discover that the man who had brought him up and that he had given up his job to become carer for wasn't his father at all ... he demanded the truth from his mother S who told him that his father was actually a chap who had 'done time' for armed robbery and who was a thoroughly bad lot. The son went totally off the rails and much sadness ensued ....
Parents should not try to hide things from their children ............ it rarely turns out well.
Last edited: 18 September 2017 12:40:31
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Blimey Dove.
I am starting to think i have actually had a very dull life, but realise how lucky I am.
I didn't have the heart to tell brother, that I thought he was lucky not to have met Dad.
I think i will tell him, that I will meet him again, if he thinks it would be useful.
When you don't even know who's in the team
S.Yorkshire/Derbyshire border
There's a lot to be said for having a 'quiet family' .... that leaves us free to be the ones who provide just a little bit of excitement from time to time
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.