Hi Clari. I hope you and the dog feel more energetic soon.
I'm still tired from the flu, so I've put one load of washing on, and I'll put that lot in the outside basket ready to hang out in the morning (4.50 pm here) and get a second load ready to go first thing so that by the time I emerge, it'll be warm enough out there to hang it out.
Those must be some mighty big pants there Clari!!! I have learnt over the years and through experience to spend less time with folk who drain me. Life is tooooo short to waste on dimwits (even if they are pseudo in-laws)!
Proud of you doc. It's a toughy but you did the right thing. That poor bloke has lived his whole life with no dad. Now he feels he needs some answers. Fair enough. He's not asking for a bessy mate or even a "brother" so it would be good if you could cut him some slack. Of course it's easy for us on the outside.
G'day Pat. Stay warm.
Another glorious day here by the looks of things and I'm in work looking out the windy!!!! Bah!
Punk doc, we had a similar experience, Dad vanished from our lives when I was a teenager and years later up pops a half sisterm and brother that none of us (4) knew existed. Turns out Dad had recently made his will and it was worded in such a way that she was afraid we might try to claim some of HER inheritance. They had apparently known about us for some time.
My brother and youngest sister had some contact with them and with him for a short while but he had dementia and there was little point. When he died she didn't even tell us and we found out through an aunt months later.
I suppose I don't blame his children but I do feel that we were abandoned and replaced by a new family and that is very hurtful, which I think is why I wanted nothing to do with them. (Turned out too that my half sister was only interested because of the money but that's a whole other story)
Perhaps your half brother feels that sense of abandonment and that maybe he was somehow responsible. I expect too that you are looking at your father in different light so there is a lot for you all to cope with. I hope you can build a relationship with your brother and that it works out for you.
.I was woken up in the early hours with owls having a confab in the wood just behind my bedroom window. Caught up on lost sleep and not long out of bed.
Pdoc ... you are all victims in this ... your half brother, you and your siblings, and your mother ... there is no point in being angry with each other and hopefully your sisters will reflect and realise this ... however when that time comes the realisation will dawn that your father made mistakes ... and daughters sometimes find that hard to accept about their fathers ... hopefully the passage of time and calmness will work wonders ((hugs))
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
What Dove said, Pdoc. It's none of your faults, no point blaming one another for what can't be changed. You've done a kindness in seeing him and giving him some better knowledge of his father. Most of us want to have some sense of who made us.
Sunshine here this morning - that's 2 days in a row
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“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
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Hi Clari. I hope you and the dog feel more energetic soon.
I'm still tired from the flu, so I've put one load of washing on, and I'll put that lot in the outside basket ready to hang out in the morning (4.50 pm here) and get a second load ready to go first thing so that by the time I emerge, it'll be warm enough out there to hang it out.
takes a lot of planning, this housewifery stuff.
Morning all.
Those must be some mighty big pants there Clari!!!
I have learnt over the years and through experience to spend less time with folk who drain me. Life is tooooo short to waste on dimwits (even if they are pseudo in-laws)!
Proud of you doc. It's a toughy but you did the right thing. That poor bloke has lived his whole life with no dad. Now he feels he needs some answers. Fair enough. He's not asking for a bessy mate or even a "brother" so it would be good if you could cut him some slack. Of course it's easy for us on the outside.
G'day Pat. Stay warm.
Another glorious day here by the looks of things and I'm in work looking out the windy!!!! Bah!
Enjoy your Monday.
Punk doc, we had a similar experience, Dad vanished from our lives when I was a teenager and years later up pops a half sisterm and brother that none of us (4) knew existed. Turns out Dad had recently made his will and it was worded in such a way that she was afraid we might try to claim some of HER inheritance. They had apparently known about us for some time.
My brother and youngest sister had some contact with them and with him for a short while but he had dementia and there was little point. When he died she didn't even tell us and we found out through an aunt months later.
I suppose I don't blame his children but I do feel that we were abandoned and replaced by a new family and that is very hurtful, which I think is why I wanted nothing to do with them. (Turned out too that my half sister was only interested because of the money but that's a whole other story)
Perhaps your half brother feels that sense of abandonment and that maybe he was somehow responsible. I expect too that you are looking at your father in different light so there is a lot for you all to cope with. I hope you can build a relationship with your brother and that it works out for you.
Plant P: I do insist on substanical undies to keep the awesomeness confined! Can't be doing with those cheese wire things...
Something has been poking around in the greenhouse and knocked all of my pots over: when it warms up a little I have a fun job of cleaning up.
It's time for Harvest Festival knickers, all safely gathered in. ?
Morning all.
.I was woken up in the early hours with owls having a confab in the wood just behind my bedroom window. Caught up on lost sleep and not long out of bed.
Morning all.
I seem to have had 10 hours sleep last night.
Another lovely sunny day so I think I might venture onto the lake and clear some more weed.
Punkdoc, Focus on what you think and want. Do your sisters consult you on every detail of their actions?
You've made a choice ,as you are perfectly entitled to do. If they're not happy about , then tough.
Good morning all
Hosta
Pdoc ... you are all victims in this ... your half brother, you and your siblings, and your mother ... there is no point in being angry with each other and hopefully your sisters will reflect and realise this ... however when that time comes the realisation will dawn that your father made mistakes ... and daughters sometimes find that hard to accept about their fathers
... hopefully the passage of time and calmness will work wonders ((hugs))
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
What Dove said, Pdoc. It's none of your faults, no point blaming one another for what can't be changed. You've done a kindness in seeing him and giving him some better knowledge of his father. Most of us want to have some sense of who made us.
Sunshine here this morning - that's 2 days in a row
“It's still magic even if you know how it's done.”
The phone rings: " Ah Waitrose, dare I answer?"
yeah, that'll be 4 overtime shifts I've been roped into.
Why am I such a sucker?