Thanks all, I slept for 4 hours when I finally got off and we are all good this morning, except mums breathing of course. She will probably wait till the last possible minute then she will get pneumonia. Better that than suffering the indignities of last stage cancer, I suppose.
Thank you all for your thoughts it really is appreciated.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
Lack of sleep is the worst, hang in there Lyn better days will come. I tried cotton wool in my ears, which didn't work, finally after months of no sleep I moved the OH downstairs. Then I could sleep, well I couldn't really as my mind was always racing at bedtime, but at least I wasn't being driven mad with the coughing and heavy breathing. Sounds so selfish now, but I got to the point where I was so desperate for sleep it was driving me totally out of my mind. (well more out of my mind than I consider usual )
Gemma not selfish at all !!! To look after your OH you needed to be able to sleep.
Lyn we can feel the grief in your post and your efforts to sound pragmatic are brave of you. Like others if I could help you I would. Think Fidget is probably thinking the same things as you. You cannot do better than your best. The time does come when self preservation needs to kick in x
To all who are in awful situations I send my best wishes. We can't help in practical ways but can give our love and emotional support.
FMy daughter came today and we agreed that I am getting the doctor in on Monday, if not we will need him at some point and it will be Christmas.
I dont want it spoiling the littluns Christmas, so
Monday it is.
I feel its only a question of a diuretic or something to drain the fluid. If she was in hospital they would have her up and sitting in a straight backed chair and walking about to drain the fliuds a bit but she wont do that for me and its no good me trying to force her.If it goes on I will be in trouble for neglect as the main carer,
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
Well Forum Friends I have to have the big op. The way it is done is up to me and how I perceive my future body image. Have to decide by Monday
No further spread, will not need chemo, may not need radiotherapy. Feeling a lot more positive and better for knowing what is to be done, Still a major op to go through but how big is up to me
Thank you for your kind wishes - still a long haul though but should be 'good' in the long run.
Bless you Matty ((lots of hugs)) - it's a strange thing to say but that sounds really positive - many many good wishes for the best possible outcome for you.
Take time between now and Monday to sit and reflect on what it is you want for yourself. Positive thoughts winging their way to you.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Matty my love good news that it hasn't spread into lymph glands and the dreaded chemo isn't needed. Your choice Matty sadly not long to decide. Body image is extremely personal but if either options can guarantee the same cancer free result then go with what you feel is best for you. Surgery as you know won't be easy but if we have you cancer free that is a great result xx
Whatever you decide don't feel you need tell us just say when we need to send you positive vibes x
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Thanks all, I slept for 4 hours when I finally got off and we are all good this morning, except mums breathing of course. She will probably wait till the last possible minute then she will get pneumonia. Better that than suffering the indignities of last stage cancer, I suppose.
Thank you all for your thoughts it really is appreciated.
Lack of sleep is the worst, hang in there Lyn better days will come. I tried cotton wool in my ears, which didn't work, finally after months of no sleep I moved the OH downstairs. Then I could sleep, well I couldn't really as my mind was always racing at bedtime, but at least I wasn't being driven mad with the coughing and heavy breathing. Sounds so selfish now, but I got to the point where I was so desperate for sleep it was driving me totally out of my mind. (well more out of my mind than I consider usual
)
Gemma not selfish at all !!! To look after your OH you needed to be able to sleep.
Lyn we can feel the grief in your post and your efforts to sound pragmatic are brave of you. Like others if I could help you I would. Think Fidget is probably thinking the same things as you. You cannot do better than your best. The time does come when self preservation needs to kick in x
To all who are in awful situations I send my best wishes. We can't help in practical ways but can give our love and emotional support.
FMy daughter came today and we agreed that I am getting the doctor in on Monday, if not we will need him at some point and it will be Christmas.
I dont want it spoiling the littluns Christmas, so
Monday it is.
I feel its only a question of a diuretic or something to drain the fluid. If she was in hospital they would have her up and sitting in a straight backed chair and walking about to drain the fliuds a bit but she wont do that for me and its no good me trying to force her.If it goes on I will be in trouble for neglect as the main carer,
Well Forum Friends I have to have the big op. The way it is done is up to me and how I perceive my future body image. Have to decide by Monday
No further spread, will not need chemo, may not need radiotherapy. Feeling a lot more positive and better for knowing what is to be done, Still a major op to go through but how big is up to me
Thank you for your kind wishes - still a long haul though but should be 'good' in the long run.
Bless you Matty ((lots of hugs)) - it's a strange thing to say but that sounds really positive - many many good wishes for the best possible outcome for you.
Take time between now and Monday to sit and reflect on what it is you want for yourself. Positive thoughts winging their way to you.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
With your attitude Matty you will hit your targets. Sorry to hear it's the big op
but glad you don't have chemo to contend with. Hugs
Matty my love good news that it hasn't spread into lymph glands and the dreaded chemo isn't needed. Your choice Matty sadly not long to decide. Body image is extremely personal but if either options can guarantee the same cancer free result then go with what you feel is best for you. Surgery as you know won't be easy but if we have you cancer free that is a great result xx
Whatever you decide don't feel you need tell us just say when we need to send you positive vibes x
Lyn no one in their right mind could mention neglect in the care you give your dear Mum.