What a lot to cope with Lyn. You must be exhausted yourself. I really hope all goes well tomorrow ans that you don't have to wait too long for the result.
I think that as dad really refuses to take anything, just something to thin the blood to avoid a stroke was the best compromize. If it had been something he had never heard of then he wouldnt have taken it at all!
I have probably had my parents with me for longer than most on here so I must be thankful for that.
They have their choices, it must be up to them and I must not be selfish.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
Mike,why not go for a walk, or do something that will take the awkwarness away, its much easier to chat while you are doing something else, a cookery class for instance, just have a nice time, no pressure.
Mike - I have no expertise in the 'Agony Aunt' field but, if you are fairly sure this lady is 'interested' in you & you are 'interested' in her then you don't need to start analysing too deeply about what you can offer each other - certainly not until you are much further down the line.
If you would like to explore the option of friendship - possibly leading to romance - with her then Bekkie is right that sometimes 'doing' something together where prolonged silences are less painful and where there is something to talk about other than yourselves is a good way to go about things.
You are interested in gardening & science - is this lady also interested in either of these? - perhaps a walk round a park or a garden to see the autumn colours & kick through the leaves or a visit to a museum to see an interesting collection. Ditto an art gallery if you both enjoy art. That way you can chat in a relaxed way about the trees / foliage / museum collection / art work and follow it up with a coffee if it feels right to do so. They are also things you would do during daylight hours so you can meet at the venue & not feel duty bound to escort her all the way home - so no awkward 'doorstep' moments.
Going out for a meal means you would almost certainly have to chat about personal stuff which is not great if you are both a bit shy. Cinema and theatre means you don't need to chat but you don't get to find out anything about each other either.
Just make sure you are both genuinely interested in whatever you decide to do. Take it all very gently & slowly & enjoy the moment.
Good luck.
Heaven is ... sitting in the garden with a G&T and a cat while watching the sun go down
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Thank you everyone for your kind wishes.
Thinking of you all too and your loved ones, hope all goes well for them all. Very best wishes to you all and your familys hugs xx
Sorry Lyn I don't know for sure, but I think there may be a wait of a few days. Hope your mum is not in too much pain. X
Good luck tomorrow Verdun x
Fishy, hope Mrs Fishy recovers very soon x
Fidget my dad has AF so the tiny dose apirin was to thin the blood, doc wanted him on warfarin but dad said he wasnt taking rat poison.
Mum is still in hospital.
Lily, I am pleased your friend is home, they get no rest in the hospital, my mum is so tired, something happening every hour!
Mum has lived with her stoma for 10 years, but it is difficult getting the food right, not to mention extra liquids.
I think the result of the biopsy will take a few days.
What a lot to cope with Lyn. You must be exhausted yourself. I really hope all goes well tomorrow ans that you don't have to wait too long for the result.
All the best for tomorrow Verdun.
Cangran - I hope you get some answerss soon.
I hope Mrs Fishy soon starts to feel better.
Hugs to you all x
Just found this thread. Sometimes it is what is needed, a cyber shoulder to cry on. (great)
Verdun, sympathies I know from experience how hard these decisions can be.. All the best.
Lyn - hope all goes well for you all
I think that as dad really refuses to take anything, just something to thin the blood to avoid a stroke was the best compromize. If it had been something he had never heard of then he wouldnt have taken it at all!
I have probably had my parents with me for longer than most on here so I must be thankful for that.
They have their choices, it must be up to them and I must not be selfish.
Lyn you're not being selfish. You're worried and you care. Thinking of you, take care x
Lyn, best wishes, thinking of you today
Mike - I have no expertise in the 'Agony Aunt' field but, if you are fairly sure this lady is 'interested' in you & you are 'interested' in her then you don't need to start analysing too deeply about what you can offer each other - certainly not until you are much further down the line.
If you would like to explore the option of friendship - possibly leading to romance - with her then Bekkie is right that sometimes 'doing' something together where prolonged silences are less painful and where there is something to talk about other than yourselves is a good way to go about things.
You are interested in gardening & science - is this lady also interested in either of these? - perhaps a walk round a park or a garden to see the autumn colours & kick through the leaves or a visit to a museum to see an interesting collection. Ditto an art gallery if you both enjoy art. That way you can chat in a relaxed way about the trees / foliage / museum collection / art work and follow it up with a coffee if it feels right to do so. They are also things you would do during daylight hours so you can meet at the venue & not feel duty bound to escort her all the way home - so no awkward 'doorstep' moments.
Going out for a meal means you would almost certainly have to chat about personal stuff which is not great if you are both a bit shy. Cinema and theatre means you don't need to chat but you don't get to find out anything about each other either.
Just make sure you are both genuinely interested in whatever you decide to do. Take it all very gently & slowly & enjoy the moment.
Good luck.