I find it difficult to be relate to my late daughter's husband. Is he still my son in law? He was totally unhelpful to her when she got diagnosed with ovarian cancer. I had to fly up and mind her 5 year old son while she had surgery because HE was off attending a buying market which he didn't want to miss. I'm still bitter about his attitude at that terrible time.
at least I had time to be with her until she died a month later!
Pat - as we say here - there's 'nowt so queer as folk'. I'm sure you can work that out. People can be hard to understand at times, and the people we think should be understanding and supportive often aren't. You have every right to feel hurt, and time doesn't always heal, it only helps you to come to terms with terrible times. x
jo - I know it's only a gesture, but sending hugs to you. I can't imagine how painful that must be for you. x
W'song - couldn't agree more.Expecting others to have the same standards leaves a lot of room for disappointment.
Hosta - you and OH should just stick two fingers up at them all. Their loss right enough
It's a place where beautiful isn't enough of a word....
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
No need to say sorry Hosta, you haven't upset me at all. Its a feeling better out than in for me. I help her because she's my sister and I can't just walk away. If I think about it and I'm honest I probably haven't completely forgiven her either.
As Susan says, your not alone, but don't feel guilty, we didn't have to share.
Please everyone, don't feel bad. I sometimes need to let it out. Thanks very much for all the hugs and kisses.
I feel better today (12.35pm now) and we've got friends visiting at the moment from Melbounre, so there's lots of chit chat to take my mind off sad memories.
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I find it difficult to be relate to my late daughter's husband. Is he still my son in law? He was totally unhelpful to her when she got diagnosed with ovarian cancer. I had to fly up and mind her 5 year old son while she had surgery because HE was off attending a buying market which he didn't want to miss. I'm still bitter about his attitude at that terrible time.
at least I had time to be with her until she died a month later!
Thanks Runnb. You'd think that after 6 years I'd be over it, but it still digs at me when I allow myself to remember that terrible month.
After bad experience 30 years ago which did not bring out the best in me in I wrote it all down then set fire to my writings. Really helped.
A A Milne
Pat - as we say here - there's 'nowt so queer as folk'. I'm sure you can work that out. People can be hard to understand at times, and the people we think should be understanding and supportive often aren't. You have every right to feel hurt, and time doesn't always heal, it only helps you to come to terms with terrible times. x
jo - I know it's only a gesture, but sending hugs to you. I can't imagine how painful that must be for you. x
W'song - couldn't agree more.Expecting others to have the same standards leaves a lot of room for disappointment.
Hosta - you and OH should just stick two fingers up at them all. Their loss right enough
I live in west central Scotland - not where that photo is...
So sorry to have opened old wounds. Really I am.
I've two brothers with whom I have no contact whatsoever, but it doesn't bother me one jot.
Sorry to have made others face things they'd rather not.
Really , really sorry.
I never wanted to upset anyone , or open old woulds .I'm just so angry that my husband has been so blatantly snubbed by his own sister.
No need to say sorry Hosta, you haven't upset me at all. Its a feeling better out than in for me. I help her because she's my sister and I can't just walk away. If I think about it and I'm honest I probably haven't completely forgiven her either.
As Susan says, your not alone, but don't feel guilty, we didn't have to share.
Best wishes to you Hosta x
Please everyone, don't feel bad. I sometimes need to let it out. Thanks very much for all the hugs and kisses.
I feel better today (12.35pm now) and we've got friends visiting at the moment from Melbounre, so there's lots of chit chat to take my mind off sad memories.