Sorry to hear you are feeling down @Yviestevie and the ongoing problems your daughter is having with her ex. Is there a mutual friend who could negotiate with him to go in and get her things rather than her having to enter the house herself?
Hosta - it will get easier, but it will take a while. I just wrote a long bit about each of my parent's deaths but you don't want to know about that and a parent isn't the same as losing a partner. But you will eventually stop focussing on the end and start to think about the life you had together. My own focussing on the end meant going over and over it working out how there could have been a different outcome. Not possible. So finally there comes acceptance of what has happened. Occasionally I would email mumanddad@heaven (god knows why, neither of them ever used the internet) to let them know of events such as my grandchildren's births, that kind of thing. I knew the emails would bounce but I thought - the words were out there, in the ether, and I had told them. I felt good to me to tell them. Sorry, crying now.
@Hostafan1 you will have to give it time, it's still too raw, only in the first year. In time the sad memories will be overtaken by the happy ones. You will remember the laughter, it's just too soon. I know. The year after 1st OH's death was the worst year of my life, but life did start again.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
Evening. Just nipping in before decaf and hot water bottle time.
Thinking of all those with worries. Those pesky ‘anniversaries’ when a cherished loved one is no longer here do give us a kicking, so extra hug for Hostafan. I found they are less painful after all the ‘firsts’, although I still feel ‘orrible on Mother’s Day, even after 10 years. Everyone is different, I know, but just my experience. Keep strong, keep going and keep cosy everyone.
Torrential rain and storm force winds over the last 24 hours. Things being blown about and the fishes are going to be swimming out of the pond and on to the lawn if it doesn't stop soon. Special thoughts have been with @Hostafan1 today as it is also my grandson's 15th birthday. G/son wisely decided not to have a 'party' once he had read the weather forecast last week - not much you can do with a load of teenagers on a farm in bad weather - so daughter went off to the farm this afternoon armed with foodie stuff and laid out a big birthday tea for him after school. Lots of adult friends called round to wish him well and partake of the celebrations. He has opted for a nice meal out somewhere with his Mum and Dad next weekend. He's growing up fast it seems.
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Hosta - it will get easier, but it will take a while. I just wrote a long bit about each of my parent's deaths but you don't want to know about that and a parent isn't the same as losing a partner. But you will eventually stop focussing on the end and start to think about the life you had together. My own focussing on the end meant going over and over it working out how there could have been a different outcome. Not possible. So finally there comes acceptance of what has happened. Occasionally I would email mumanddad@heaven (god knows why, neither of them ever used the internet) to let them know of events such as my grandchildren's births, that kind of thing. I knew the emails would bounce but I thought - the words were out there, in the ether, and I had told them. I felt good to me to tell them. Sorry, crying now.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
polytunnel door this morning. OOPS
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Special thoughts have been with @Hostafan1 today as it is also my grandson's 15th birthday. G/son wisely decided not to have a 'party' once he had read the weather forecast last week - not much you can do with a load of teenagers on a farm in bad weather - so daughter went off to the farm this afternoon armed with foodie stuff and laid out a big birthday tea for him after school. Lots of adult friends called round to wish him well and partake of the celebrations. He has opted for a nice meal out somewhere with his Mum and Dad next weekend. He's growing up fast it seems.