My oldest boy is going through an argumentative phase and it's driving me crazy. He disagrees with everything he's told no matter what it is. You could say the sky is blue and he'd tell you it wasn't. I told him that being argumentative for no reason is rude and he told me it wasn't. In frustration I said to my wife 'He gets this from you' and without hesitation or hint of humour she said 'No he doesn't'
At least there's a chance that one of them will grow out of it...
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
My oldest boy is going through an argumentative phase and it's driving me crazy. He disagrees with everything he's told no matter what it is. You could say the sky is blue and he'd tell you it wasn't. I told him that being argumentative for no reason is rude and he told me it wasn't. In frustration I said to my wife 'He gets this from you' and without hesitation or hint of humour she said 'No he doesn't'
At least there's a chance that one of them will grow out of it...
@wild edges. Takes two to argue, be the bigger man. Walk away when he’s being argumentative. He’s only doing it for attention, up to you if you give it to him.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
I'm curmudgeonly, because I grew 5 courgette plants, 3 green 2 yellow. I planted 2 green 1 yellow on my Allotment. I gave one of each to my SD. Of the ones on the plots , one died, the other two have hardly grown at all. The two I gave away are thriving and about to start cropping. 😖
@wild edges. Takes two to argue, be the bigger man. Walk away when he’s being argumentative. He’s only doing it for attention, up to you if you give it to him.
The potential problem with letting the kid get away with constant arguing is that they could grow up thinking that their opinion is the only one that matters. Look how Trump turned out.
When my youngest brother was little, he suddenly started arguing about everything. I asked him why. He told me that he wanted to be a lawyer when he grew up, and he was practising.
Oddly he's a very cheerful kid and never has tantrums or anything but he's developed this default to take the opposite view to anything he's told. Like I'd say that it's time for school and he'd say no it isn't but he wouldn't actually do anything that slows him down getting ready for school. I think he's just trying to find his assertiveness at the moment and just needs to learn to pick his battles.
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
I've decided to try a double bluff in the garden. I've planted some perennials a little too close together on the grounds that some of them will probably die in the winter. This might fool them all into surviving and then I can spread them out a bit next year.
@B3 It's been scientifically proven that any planting pattern used in the garden will either result in overcrowding or great big gaps between plants. The spacing will never give you what you expect or want.
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The potential problem with letting the kid get away with constant arguing is that they could grow up thinking that their opinion is the only one that matters. Look how Trump turned out.