So pleased for you both @punkdoc ... as I' ve said, my aunt fought tooth and nail against 'going into a home' until she went there for respite when her son and daughter in law were emotionally and physically exhausted. Then she discovered that the vast majority of care homes nowadays are a far cry from the rather grim places of years gone by. Aunty B has a whale of a time with all the activities that are laid on, and enjoys chatting with staff, residents and their visitors. With any luck Moira's mum may feel the same after giving it a try .... it's a warm and comforting feeling knowing that there's care you can depend on, whatever the weather may throw at you. 🤞
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Not so easy for those of us who aren't used to it to tell @Hostafan1 ... even in hospitals ... I was told to say goodbye to Pa three times when he was in hospital ... but it was in the lovely care home some years later that he just closed his eyes and went to sleep after supper one Sunday night, to everyone's surprise.
However, with Ma, who was in a similar situation to your OH and was fading fast, the carers at the home recognised that she had less than 48 hours with us, and they were right. They're the experts. I moved into their relative's room and she was never alone ... someone was always by her side, either me or one of the carers who had always looked after her.
I know it's tough for you ((hugs)) and my heart goes out to you but ,given the medication he's on, I doubt if he'll know or care where he is. xx
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Again bright and sunny and still. We rode down to the beach front on our bikes for a coffee. Magic - a calm sea and the sun glistening on the water. Not many people either, probably out Christmas shopping. We are driving back this afternoon with the dog. She loves careering around on the newly sifted sand!!
My Dad went the same as your Pa @Dovefromabove He'd had a fall (missed the handle bar of his walker whilst getting out of bed), so was in hospital for observation. He'd just had a sponge bath from a couple of nurses. Tucked up nice and clean. He just turned over and went to sleep - forever. No time to warn the family.
So the day is shot to pieces with cycling and an afternoon walking along the beach. An exercise class at 6pm and that's it!! Then I'm going to watch the second episode of Strictly The Full Monty!!
I'm glad there's a solution @puncdoc, at least for Christmas. She may decide she likes it after all and will stay there. You need Moira back.
I've been shopping. DIL sent a message last night to say that Son 1 and family would like a hamper after all as they are coming to stay with Daughter 2 after Christmas. I'm going to D2's tomorrow so I can leave it with her. The hampers are actually wicker log baskets, lined with a towel and filled with goodies - English stuff like Marmite and Golden Syrup, sold here because they are a lot of English ex-pats, Dordogne stuff like chocolate covered walnuts and walnut biscuits and duck paté, and Christmassy stuff like a tree bauble and marzipan stuffed dates.
Dordogne and Norfolk. Clay in Dordogne, sandy in Norfolk.
@tui34 ... it gave me a lovely warm feeling that the carer told me that he'd chosen a bowl of mushroom soup ... mushroom soup was always his favourite ... then he settled back against the pillows, she held his hand and he nodded off as she chatted to him ...
That'll do for me ... mushroom soup, a warm bed and a kind companion ...
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Hmmm .... I worry about my companion waking up and finding me cold ... and there being no one there to give him a hug ... he says he's sort of ok with that ... it's odd the things we discuss isn't it .... he says he's always known there's more likelihood of it happening that way round, given the age gap between us ...
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However, with Ma, who was in a similar situation to your OH and was fading fast, the carers at the home recognised that she had less than 48 hours with us, and they were right. They're the experts. I moved into their relative's room and she was never alone ... someone was always by her side, either me or one of the carers who had always looked after her.
I know it's tough for you ((hugs)) and my heart goes out to you but ,given the medication he's on, I doubt if he'll know or care where he is. xx
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Again bright and sunny and still. We rode down to the beach front on our bikes for a coffee. Magic - a calm sea and the sun glistening on the water. Not many people either, probably out Christmas shopping. We are driving back this afternoon with the dog. She loves careering around on the newly sifted sand!!
My Dad went the same as your Pa @Dovefromabove He'd had a fall (missed the handle bar of his walker whilst getting out of bed), so was in hospital for observation. He'd just had a sponge bath from a couple of nurses. Tucked up nice and clean. He just turned over and went to sleep - forever. No time to warn the family.
So the day is shot to pieces with cycling and an afternoon walking along the beach. An exercise class at 6pm and that's it!! Then I'm going to watch the second episode of Strictly The Full Monty!!
Happy daze everyone.
I've been shopping. DIL sent a message last night to say that Son 1 and family would like a hamper after all as they are coming to stay with Daughter 2 after Christmas. I'm going to D2's tomorrow so I can leave it with her. The hampers are actually wicker log baskets, lined with a towel and filled with goodies - English stuff like Marmite and Golden Syrup, sold here because they are a lot of English ex-pats, Dordogne stuff like chocolate covered walnuts and walnut biscuits and duck paté, and Christmassy stuff like a tree bauble and marzipan stuffed dates.
That'll do for me ... mushroom soup, a warm bed and a kind companion ...
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When you don't even know who's in the team
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Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.