Does that mean they can’t offer you the care at home package at all @Hostafan1?
I know social care is in big trouble but not being able offer palliative care at home is a disgrace. I hope you can find a set-up that ensures hubby is safe, comfortable and cared for with you present as much as possible. Hugs.
Correct. I'm stuck with the 65 mile round trip every day
Does that mean they can’t offer you the care at home package at all @Hostafan1?
I know social care is in big trouble but not being able offer palliative care at home is a disgrace. I hope you can find a set-up that ensures hubby is safe, comfortable and cared for with you present as much as possible. Hugs.
Correct. I'm stuck with the 65 mile round trip every day
It’s been the same down here for years, My mum had two serious operation in 03, shouldn’t have been two but they botched the first, (another story). But we were sent home with a pack of colostomy bags and a phone number to get some more. Who was in power then? They put the care package in place but there’s no one to carry it out.
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Well … I hesitate to say it, but I happen to know that a lot of the skilled carers who would normally do that work in this area have returned to their home countries.
In my experience, that sort of thing coupled with the usual scarcity of skilled carers in very rural areas, along with the distances involved, makes providing the assessed support almost impossible, no matter how much the care providers would like to.
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When Possum was in secondary school in Belgium, one of the streams was "assistant social" so at 15 or 16 teens would start learning about social care as a council service or in homes for the elderly, the handicapped, the educationally challenged. They would carry that through to 18 and then either go to work or on to college to learn more and become, eventually, supervisors and managers and higher. It is seen as a career path with possibilities of advancement and a respected job with job satisfaction expected.
In the UK it's seen as a dead end, servile job with lousy pay and worse conditions and too easy for politics and funding to determine just how poor or good services can be. Belgians do pay much higher tax rates.
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Hostafan, 9 years ago and in London, but the care package provided for my late mum was almost worthless. Sounded great on paper, visits three times a day, even a sitter one evening a week to allow my sister to have an evening out. Haha, most of the careers were clueless. No idea how to turn a patient safely, or change bedclothes without causing discomfort. On one occasion when I was staying to help, my sister and I had got mum cleaned and comfortable as the carers were very late. When they finally arrived, we told them they wouldn’t be needed that morning, and they threatened to call the police because we were denying access! On another occasion, they had been to visit, (late again ) went out their car afterwards and did their paperwork. Then they came back to the house to do the last visit of the day ( half an hour after they had left!) because they didn’t want to have to go to their next visit and come back again later. Needless to say, another argument ensued as they certainly weren’t allowed back in. Sadly, the 65 mile round trip might actually be a better option. Is there a decent and reasonably priced B and B near the home? Maybe you could do a late visit one day, stay over and do your usual early visit the next? Save on journey time, petrol and wear and tear on you?
Well … I hesitate to say it, but I happen to know that a lot of the skilled carers who would normally do that work in this area have returned to their home countries.
They didn’t return to their home countries in 03. as @Obelixx said after schooling now they just don’t want that sort of job. A friend of ours has just taken his MIL out of the care home she was in, this is a very up market home, costs thousands, he ended up putting his own secret camera in there and watching the care she got on his computer. Appalling! So now he’s looking after her. She was supposed to have half hour care four times a day, when they finally got to her they were spending 5 minutes. I don’t think the answer is offering huge wages, times are changing fast, I cannot see an answer or a way out. Work ethics have gone.
Thankfully, it seems, according to other posters, it’s not so bad in other areas.
Gardening on the wild, windy west side of Dartmoor.
Does that mean they can’t offer you the care at home package at all @Hostafan1?
I know social care is in big trouble but not being able offer palliative care at home is a disgrace. I hope you can find a set-up that ensures hubby is safe, comfortable and cared for with you present as much as possible. Hugs.
Correct. I'm stuck with the 65 mile round trip every day
Plan B it is then.
There’s probably no scenario that isn’t emotionally and physically exhausting for you but being faced with little or no care being available at home is not something anyone could, or should have to, face.
Morning all, got up at 6.30,"fed" the Christmas cake a boozy breakfast,fed the dogs. Deep breath, got to go through/read the local parish/council planning application for near by farm for councellor. Bit too early for that,and type/print stinking letter to talk talk
I’m so very sorry you can’t get support to care for your OH at home @Hostafan1 ((huge hugs)) but it’s as I expected … there are huge benefits to living in remote countryside areas, and sometimes we don’t come across the pitfalls until later. I wish there was something we could do to help. xx
Part of my job used to be arranging care for severely disabled or life limited children… it was always a struggle and sometimes impossible finding adequate care for those who lived in rural areas, even though we recognised the need as being high and knew that the parents were struggling and the situation was seriously impacting their other children.
Sometimes the only choice was for very young children to go to a hospice to give their parents some respite… far from ideal 😢
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Terribly sad @Hostafan1, what a mess this country is in.
Lovely sunny day here, have been clearing a few leaves.
MIL has agreed to move into a home for respite care, until the New Year. It dawned on her that sadly she was going to be by herself at Christmas and on seeing the home yesterday, she was persuaded she might have more fun there.
If all goes well I might have Moira home in the next few days.
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Who was in power then?
They put the care package in place but there’s no one to carry it out.
In my experience, that sort of thing coupled with the usual scarcity of skilled carers in very rural areas, along with the distances involved, makes providing the assessed support almost impossible, no matter how much the care providers would like to.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
In the UK it's seen as a dead end, servile job with lousy pay and worse conditions and too easy for politics and funding to determine just how poor or good services can be. Belgians do pay much higher tax rates.
On another occasion, they had been to visit, (late again ) went out their car afterwards and did their paperwork. Then they came back to the house to do the last visit of the day ( half an hour after they had left!) because they didn’t want to have to go to their next visit and come back again later. Needless to say, another argument ensued as they certainly weren’t allowed back in.
Sadly, the 65 mile round trip might actually be a better option. Is there a decent and reasonably priced B and B near the home? Maybe you could do a late visit one day, stay over and do your usual early visit the next? Save on journey time, petrol and wear and tear on you?
as @Obelixx said after schooling now they just don’t want that sort of job.
A friend of ours has just taken his MIL out of the care home she was in, this is a very up market home, costs thousands, he ended up putting his own secret camera in there and watching the care she got on his computer. Appalling! So now he’s looking after her. She was supposed to have half hour care four times a day, when they finally got to her they were spending 5 minutes.
I don’t think the answer is offering huge wages, times are changing fast, I cannot see an answer or a way out. Work ethics have gone.
Thankfully, it seems, according to other posters, it’s not so bad in other areas.
Gardening in Central Norfolk on improved gritty moraine over chalk ... free-draining.
Terribly sad @Hostafan1, what a mess this country is in.
Lovely sunny day here, have been clearing a few leaves.
MIL has agreed to move into a home for respite care, until the New Year. It dawned on her that sadly she was going to be by herself at Christmas and on seeing the home yesterday, she was persuaded she might have more fun there.
If all goes well I might have Moira home in the next few days.
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