It's freezing cold outside 😨 Only just double figures in the greenhouse so I hope my tender plants will be ok. Nice big moon though and no sign of any weevils.
If you can keep your head, while those around you are losing theirs, you may not have grasped the seriousness of the situation.
Was your tone (which I take to be aggressive and confrontational) your choice? And why then be crappy and confrontational?
It's your choice to 'hear' anger in what I've written. If you chose to read my comments as mildly amused you'll react differently. Given you can't see me and don't know me (or anyone else on the forum), my tone of voice is all in your perception - your choice. I'll add to see if that helps.
As it happens, I 'heard' your post as a hypothetical scenario and responded in the same way, so no reason to be angry. Were I to believe that you are actually behaving that badly towards your wife I might be more annoyed. I opted not think the worst of you. My choice
You're right. We are all our perception - that's all we can be as that's all we have. We are all islands. We all then read tone and meaning into the written word as we do with the spoken word. I don't need to know an author to form my opinion (whether it's right or not - ie is what the author intended - is a different matter) of what tone or meaning I get from that person's words - we all get our feeling of 'how' the the author's thought has been expressed. My experiences (and current memory/mental/emotional state) will dictate how I react - I'm not so sure it's a 'choice' any more than me feeling sad is my choice or me feeling happy is my choice. I do not control the chemicals in my brain. I do not control how my synapses react. I do not control the build up of proteins in my brain that may change my personality. I do not control the bacteria in my gut that then affects my brain. I do not control how my brain store experiences and how it recalls and uses those experiences to judge and react to events. I do not choose what thoughts come into my head and when. I do not have pre-thought thoughts (what on earth would that be anyway?).
I failed with my attempt to banish feeling sad with my will. I watched England last night and ended up depressed. Oh well.
If you want a greater understanding of time, watch the most recent programme by Brian Cox. He looks back at some of his past programmes and updates us with current thinking.
Do you follow relativity? I watched Gravity and Time over the passed couple of days. I like Brian Cox - another one like Jim Al-Khalili - very good (or not in my case) at explaining stuff in terms I thought I understood!
It was the comments around the bowling ball/feather gravity experiment that I didn't get (and I also thought I saw some of the feather filaments move as the feather fell - in a vacuum?). I need to watch that bit again to see if I can follow it.
I may re-read John Gribbin's In Search Of The Edge of Time as my light summer reading...
It's an area of science I find endlessly fascinating and it seems to make sense when they tell me , but like Stephen Hawking's book, it made sense at the time but I couldn't possibly explain it to anyone else.
On an entirely different level, I wish the owner of the dog who let it sh*t at the bottom of my drive walks past again so I rub their nose in it - and I don't mean the dog.
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See what you think: https://kirkcenter.org/essays/time-permanence-eliot-four-quartets/
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Phew! That was hard work!
https://forum.gardenersworld.com/discussion/1056308/curmudgeons-corner-xv/p1?new=1
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